love and money

If you get married, it's a family, so it's natural to help each other financially, but if you're not married, they're just other people, so I don't think it's good to be helped or helped financially even if there is love (there is also a possibility that it will cause trouble to each other's relatives, etc.).
Also, if you become financially dependent, you won't be able to break up even if you want to break up.
In Buddhism, it is sometimes said that money or property cannot be taken to the next life (another world).
On the other hand, there are terms such as Ichiren Tossho and Club Issho (Kueissho), and there is a belief that even if you are widowed once with someone you have become close to in this world, you can be reunited in the Pure Land of Paradise.
Of course, we need enough money to cover food, clothing, and shelter in our daily lives, so I think it's better to go out with someone who has some financial power, but since financial strength is only one item of that person's ability, it is better to choose a partner by comprehensively evaluating them, including other abilities and personalities.
For example, if you give birth to a child with someone who doesn't have money but has really good motor skills, there is also a possibility that a child with good motor skills will be born and you can brag about it (although you don't give birth to a child to brag about it).
Also, even if you have money, you probably won't be happy with someone who harasses or does DV.
Now, in Buddhism, I think that worries such as greed, anger, laziness, and pride cause stress.
Since couples and lovers are people who have trouble with each other, it is necessary to have mercy (generosity) to forgive the other person's greed, anger, laziness, pride, etc., and I also think it is also necessary to scold and encourage each other from time to time so that the other person does not succumb to their worries and fail.

I read it.
Thank you for your question. I read that you are wondering about love and money. I feel like I understand very well that you think that way.
Money is a tool for living, so it becomes necessary in order to live by buying food and places where we live with money.
You definitely need money after you get married.
If you're in trouble with money, I think what you do will change from time to time. I think it's fine to simply not borrow or borrow, but there may be cases where it becomes necessary on the spot, and I think there are cases where it is absolutely necessary considering the future.

If you need ad hoc money due to multiple debts, I think it's better to stop it. In such cases, it is preferable to consult with a public institution or specialized agency to deal with it.
That's because Sara won't make a living just because people take it for money.

Nonetheless, love and various relationships cannot be bought with money. People who think they can do something with money make big mistakes and mistakes. If you marry someone simply for money, in the unlikely event that you run out of money, your marriage will quickly go bankrupt.

People who are caught up in money, greed, and power will sincerely regret that they were particular only about money and things and lived with only selfishness just before their death.

I think there are many things more important than money. Relationships between people are also very important, and respect for others and a sense of compassion are also important. Also, I think correct teachings and truths are very important for living a life.

I sincerely pray that you and everyone will confirm what is really important, and that you can respect each other and live a rich, compassionate, and happy life.
And I wholeheartedly support you and everyone. We wholeheartedly agree

Thank you very much for your consultation. I understand that your pure feelings were left behind due to the words of your mother and those around you, and you are very worried.
In conclusion, as a monk, I never think “money is more important than love.”

Certainly, “money” is a realistic issue that cannot be avoided in living together. However, originally, “love” and “money” are completely different dimensions. The fact that there is an implicit understanding that “we will not lend or borrow money” during the relationship stage is a healthy sense of distance between independent adults, and it is very reasonable. Therefore, there is absolutely no need to link it with “not providing financial help = no love.”

So what is “love”? It is a “compassionate heart” that is connected by an unfortunate yet mysterious “relationship,” and cares about the other person without profit and loss accounts. True peace does not come from relationships where you weigh only the other person's financial strength and conditions and ignore your own feelings.

You don't need to be swayed by extreme values around you. Please cherish your irreplaceable relationship with someone you can truly “love” yourself. I hope your path is peaceful.

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Engiji Temple Shakujo

If the idea is to measure love with money, I think it would be possible to say that money is more important than love. Just like your mother.

However, financial aid is only temporary help. Previously, a special flat-rate benefit of 100,000 yen was paid to all citizens as a countermeasure against the novel coronavirus. However, it was only temporary help, and anxiety about life and infection did not go away easily, and research, corporate power, and individual countermeasures and awareness efforts in various fields other than money spanned many years, changing to a safe lifestyle. I've also been helped by the kindness and good intentions of those around me.

Money is also important, but it doesn't determine “help with love.” There are a lot of things that money alone can't solve.
If you learn a lot about “love” other than money and come into contact with that love, you can live a richer life.