heartbreak

I want to cherish your decisions.

He answered that they might have thought of them as “friends,” but they couldn't think of a relationship. The time we spent together was certainly a date, and I'm sure they were favored by you. He had a good vibe of “more than a friend,” and if he hoped for the future, he might have received a confession and supported him emotionally, but after all, he wasn't shown as a “lover.” The change in the environment called moving probably had a strong impact.

This timing is sad, isn't it?
Even so, the half-hearted relationship will surely cause conflict and suffering, so his reply was a break. You've made a good decision. I was able to say thank you, you're a wonderful person.

I've made the same decision as you. I don't want to drag on my slutty regrets and let my relationships and feelings get half-hearted. I want to take care of myself and the people I love. So the answer now is an answer for the future. They also break off the relationship once and for all. That pushes me to take a new step forward.

It was a good love. I experienced precious time, and I also grew and refined.
Let's say that to ourselves. Also, let's spend time carefully about what is right in front of us. Every day like that gently envelops you and heals you.

Thank you very much for your consultation. You said goodbye to yourself, but you have regrets and pain, saying “I want to meet you after all, I'm lonely.” I think that reaction hurts my heart right now because I seriously thought about him for 7 months and gathered up my courage to express my feelings. First, please acknowledge yourself for having worked so hard to overcome that sadness without trying to force it out.

There is no right or wrong answer to a decision that is separated by “because I don't like half-hearted relationships.” I think it was a great step towards valuing your own heart and putting a break in one relationship.

In Buddhism, there is a term called “Aibetsu Tsuriku (Aibetsu Tsuriku).” It's a pain everyone experiences in their lives when they have to break up with someone they love or care about. The pain you are feeling right now is proof that you have deeply loved others, and it is a very natural feeling as a human being.

Also, there is a teaching of “impermanence” where everything in this world changes. No one's mind or situation will stay the same. The current nerve-wracking pain will not last forever, and the shape will gradually change over time, and the day will surely come when you will be healed.

He also said, “We're still friends now,” and that doesn't necessarily mean that the relationship has completely broken down. Also, for those of you who are still in your 20s, unexpected new “relationships” will come your way. For now, why don't you just take a slow, deep breath and wait for your mind to calm down. We wholeheartedly support you in your future endeavors.

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Engiji Temple Shakujo

I read it.
Yes... it's sad to end a relationship after all, isn't it? I don't know the details about you and that person, but I feel like I understand how you feel.
What do you think, if you feel lonely after all, why don't you tell that person? It's probably possible that we will continue to interact as friends based on that person's feelings.
That's because relationships between people are very important.
Please continue to cherish once-in-a-lifetime meetings.
I sincerely pray that you will continue to be blessed with relationships with others and that you will be able to sincerely share rich fun with each and every one of you and live a fulfilling life. We wholeheartedly agree

Sakana-sama, this is Kanonji Otetsu.
Seven months of unrequited love, and that decision when I gathered my courage and put it in black and white. You really did your best. Thank you for your hard work!
I've seen countless “regrets” and “regrets” in my life. Based on that experience, I dare to confront a “muddy, harsh reality” based on Buddhism. What you need right now is not sweet comfort, but potent medicine to wake up.
1. The cold-hearted fact that he “didn't choose you”
“Cute” and “looks good with a hairstyle” — for men, such words are nothing more than “zero-cost production.” If it's a man who really cares about you and doesn't want to lose you, he won't run away with cowardly words like “I don't know,” even if it's a long distance. The answer that came up after being given two weeks was “friend.” It wasn't the result of his careful consideration, just “spent two weeks looking for an excuse to say no without hurting you.” It seems tough, but now you're running away from looking directly at your “unchosen self,” and you're glorifying him in your brain.
2. “Loneliness” is a deadly poison called obsession
The pain of “I want to meet you” that you are feeling right now is not love, but obsession. I can't justify my decision, and I'm just obsessing over the fun afterimage of the past.
Buddhism explains that obsession is the root of suffering. Your decision to break the half-hearted relationship was a great answer. Steaming again now will only spread the wound.
3. Survive the unpredictable age of “0 or 100?”
Today's world is unpredictable! No one knows his feelings or your future. That's why you should risk your life and take responsibility for your own words, saying, “Today is the last time I'll do it.”
The moment you turn those words over and contact him, you turn into a “convenient, cheap woman” for him.
drink!!
If you succumb to loneliness and have time to hold onto your smartphone, live in the muddy “now.”
“The only thing I regret at the end of the day is when I lied to myself.” You probably broke off the relationship because you didn't want to lie to yourself. Don't let that noble self be tainted by loneliness.
My temple accepts a 10-minute break. Please visit the temple. Both remote and phone calls are possible. First, let's take a fresh look at ourselves...
Don't give a single second of your precious 20's time to a man who doesn't know your worth.
Gassho