I want to be able to search for things I need to do
There are times when I can't see what's around me. If it's inside the house, not only do you forget to immediately replace the contents of your bag after you get home, forget to put away the clothes you have taken off and dried before going to bed, or forgetting to close the window even though you were asked to do, but you also inadvertently forget things you should have understood by looking at them, such as not noticing the dirt on things and leaving them uncleaned. My father and older sister have slightly similar tendencies, but my mother is always the first to notice this kind of thing, so I usually put a burden only on my mother.
My mother doesn't notice it if I spend my time normally, and she always makes me pay attention to things around me, and even I don't really understand why I don't notice it, and I'm trying to make it a habit to do things while being pointed out over and over again, but it doesn't work. One is that when I was in elementary school, etc., my concentration was interrupted while studying and I was scolded many times by my mother to study seriously without focusing on unnecessary things left a strong memory, and then I think I ran away to an easier way, thinking that if I just studied for the time being, I wouldn't have to be warned by my mother. Originally, I wanted to follow my mother's words, but it has become an excuse not to focus on work at home, such as housework.
Other than that, at home, my mother always checks after doing some kind of housework (same when my father and older sister did it), but I am often stunned by the fact that I'm less used to housework than my mother, and there are many points that are insufficient even if I do housework because it's a waste of time, and I'm often stunned to go back to studying because it's a waste of time. I think it's easier not to look at it from the beginning rather than doing things about the house even though you can't do it perfectly and being pointed out what's lacking later, and that is probably one of the reasons why they run away.
I've arranged various excuses, but I can see in my head that these excuses don't make sense. However, right now, just because my mother points out something, I'm repulsed, and it's a difficult feeling to listen honestly. What should I do so that I can focus on my surroundings and do what I need to do properly without imitating my mother's words as running away with a shield? I'd like you to tell me what to do and what kind of mindset it is good to have.