How to restore a marital relationship

Nazuna is now
“I Might Lose My Husband”
Amidst strong anxiety,
I think they're desperately trying to stop the relationship.

And from the sentence,
・Acknowledging my bad parts
・What efforts are being made to improve
・Being unable to blame my husband and blaming myself
has been transmitted.

In fact, the bias in housework burdens,
The fact that I had lost my time, etc.
I think there was a cause for the marital relationship to cool down.

but on the other hand,
When it comes to “so it's unavoidable to think about infidelity or divorce,”
That's another matter.

Marital relationships
Even if it's something that can be broken by only one person,
Nor is it something that can be repaired.

From what you wrote
・Trying to shorten the distance with other women
・Watching divorce and affair videos
・Feelings are beginning to move away from home
As far as I can see how the husband is doing,
Right now, rather than “I want to repair the relationship,”
“Feelings are beginning to turn to a different future”
I felt like the possibilities were high.

So, Nazuna
The more desperate you are about “how to get back to normal,”
I think the temperature difference with my husband will make it even more painful.

Then, check your smartphone out of anxiety,
It hurts again.
This is a really painful cycle.

When people keep being chased,
There are times when I want to take extra distance.

Men, in particular,
“Anxiety,” “Confirmation,” and “Surveillance”
If you feel it strongly,
Home = easy to become an unsettled place.

So what we need now is “work harder and be loved”
Not only that, but regaining “the air of not being too dependent on your husband”
I felt like I needed it.

A married couple
Even if only one side makes an effort,
There is a limit.

So,
As Nazuna changes,
“The possibility that the relationship will return”
There is

But I wonder if my opponent will return
It's also the opponent's own problem.

So more than this, “it was all my fault”
Don't hug me too much, “the self chosen by my husband”
Not “how do you want to live your life yourself”
Please take good care of them.

By going back to being “someone who hasn't lost themselves”
I think it will create a good atmosphere for myself and my partner.

There are individual differences, but I feel that there are many men who respond more easily to the stimulation of desire compared to women.
For example, when going hunting, people seeking return (the joy of catching prey) will not starve to death rather than being frightened by risk.
In other words, for husbands who are still young, desire (joy) for prey called a “new romance” may drive them as the strongest stimulus.
For humanity to prosper, the type of person who chases greed like that may also be necessary.
My husband happened to be that type of person, so he may be brave in the expectation that “if we get divorced, a new and enjoyable life awaits.”
It's not your fault; let's just accept that you just happened to choose such a man (he was attractive and highly capable because he was such a husband).
Also, if you are a husband who responds easily to greed, it may be effective for you to show your husband a new object of desire (what you want or the future you want to protect).
For example, children are one of them, but in reality, it can be difficult.

The first thing to do is not look at my husband's smartphone.
Then let's discuss and share household chores.
As for dieting, please stop snacking and eating late at night, and go jogging with your husband.
After that, let's go on a date with my husband during the holidays.
You may not be able to change your husband's feelings, but you can make lots of good memories with your husband. Let's be aware of current happiness rather than future anxiety.

I read it.
I see... I ended up in such a situation with my husband. I feel like I can also understand your anxiety. I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
I think looking at your husband's smartphone without permission made you feel extra uneasy. I think things between couples are different, but after all, if you look at your smartphone without permission, you always tend to go in the wrong direction.
Among the Hasunoha consultations here, there are many consultations due to looking at smartphones without permission.
If you don't mind, please use it as a reference.
After all, I think in order to improve marital relationships, it is necessary to respect each other, help each other, and be considerate of each other. That's because they're irreplaceable and important to each other.
I think it's about both you and your husband facing each other with a sincere feeling and continuing to do so.
I sincerely pray that you and your husband will be able to sincerely respect each other, help each other, share happiness, and live together. We wholeheartedly agree

On the other hand, I think your actions are detaching from your husband's feelings.

Your husband's behavior (interacting with women, searching on YouTube) is an act that makes you uneasy, but it's just proof that you have feelings away from your wife.

So, the action you take is to check your cellphone one by one, don't act like a thief, and polish yourself. Don't you think it's pathetic? I can't believe I'm stealing a cell phone.

Something I reflected on. Make an effort to be recognized in the future.
If you have declared this, let's show your husband how you are changing.

My husband... I think he's aware. That's because you can tell the traces of your belongings (cell phone) being touched. If you're still searching, it means that no matter what you do, your husband's feelings are far away.

This is because fishing for private items (bags, cell phones, notebooks, wallets, etc.) without permission is fatal. Whatever the reason, let's stop it.