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I'm not good at remembering faces

I'm not good at remembering people's faces and names.

My name didn't come up all of a sudden during this time either, and I was very worried later that it was disrespectful to the other person.

There are times when I made mistakes due to assumptions. I desperately apologized.

I don't know how to deal with this kind of case, such as my face and name not appearing.

It's scary to think that people will dislike me because of this.

When I stay at home, I regret it over and over again.

4 Zen Responses

It's not something you regret and wear your heart out or worry about

Thank you very much for your consultation. It's actually common for me to forget people's faces and names in a flash. I've been in the field of education for a long time and have dealt with countless people, but no one can remember everything perfectly. So you don't have to blame yourself too much.

Rather than making a mistake due to assumptions, “Excuse me, could you tell me your name again?” Let's ask it frankly. It's never disrespectful; rather, it's a sincere attitude of trying to get to know the other person properly.

Buddhism explains how to let go of obsessions with the past and live the “now” with care. It's not a worrisome thing that you'll regret over and over again after you get home and wear your heart out. If you try to be polite to the person in front of you on the spot, you will never be disliked just by asking your name again. Please don't worry.

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Engiji Temple Shakujo

I'm not good at it either. I read it in something, but it seems that some people draw simple caricatures of that person on business cards, and others listen to that person's life goals and dreams and write them. It seems that if you talk about the other person with interest, it's easier to remember. Please refer to it.

It captures characteristics, takes hints from the other person's story, and constructs memories

There are things I'm not good at. I'm a quick learner. However, you don't have to remember everything at once, including the name, face, and content. Once you know the characteristics, the characters will connect.

Up until now, I've been in contact with a lot of people. When it comes to how to memorize, you find characteristics without trying to memorize them in their entirety. Facial parts (depth, moles, etc.), body type, and conversational keywords. For example, I talked about a slender man with glasses on his slightly flabby face and his parents, and about shopping with a plump, white-dressed woman with a mole on her chin. Where did they meet and what did they talk about? Then, check the name and call it back. At that time, I write the kanji for my name in my head. That way, the names will be easier to remember.
When we meet, we exchange greetings, get hints from the other person's story, and construct memories. If you do that, you'll remember it.

Even if the name doesn't come out of nowhere, search for names while conveying memories, saying, “We talked about children at the supermarket before ~ that time was fun.” Even with that kind of awareness, it's something you'll remember. Please try it out.

Please deal well with each person

I read it.
You're really worried that you can't remember people's names easily. I don't know the details about you, but I feel like I understand your feelings very well. I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
It's certainly quite difficult to remember people's faces and names, isn't it? Me too. There are times when we meet and wonder what kind of person this person was... and then we misunderstand and talk about it. It's definitely not just you. Please don't worry.
The speed of change in the world is fast, so I think the reality is that our abilities are not keeping up. Various things are flowing at such a high speed that it is impossible to speak or check slowly.

Therefore, originally, it is very important to face each person thoroughly and keep talking. Even so, it won't be easy to remember, so it's definitely not rude to ask for your name again at that time. From now on, please face each and every one of you carefully, and let's get to know each other.

I sincerely pray that you will be blessed with wonderful encounters and relationships in the future and that you will be able to live a happy life while helping each other.