I hate the night. When it gets dark at night, anger at the irrationality I received from others in the past usually springs up, and worries about the future come up one after another.
At such times, I'd like you to tell me how to think a little more easily.
Past events and future fears are facts, so they won't go away.
So there's nothing wrong with reminding or feeling uneasy from time to time.
However, if you get bogged down in the midst of the same information, you're just wasting your time and energy in vain.
There's not much difference whether you think about it for 10 minutes or 10 hours in the same information. If so, withholding thinking until new information comes in, in other words, not thinking, reduces stress.
Try meditation, mindfulness, etc., and learn techniques to circulate your thoughts openly and stop (put on hold) delusional thoughts about the past, future, yourself, and others.
Alternatively, it's a good idea to enjoy reading, music, and videos until you fall asleep before going to bed.
At night, anger and anxiety from the past come to light.
That's painful, isn't it?
However, maybe night is not a time for torturing cat hands, but rather a time for the mind to recover.
During the daytime, they are nervous and do their best with housework, childcare, temple help, and relationships with people. I can't afford to think about the wound during that time.
So at night when it became quiet,
“I was really scared”
“I was really sad”
“It was really painful”
I think you can hear the voice of your heart saying that.
Just as an itch occurs when a wound heals, the heart may also feel pain in the middle of recovery.
So you don't have to blame yourself for getting angry and anxious at night.
Rather, that pain may be your heart telling you, “This place is still hurting.”
However, there is one important thing in order to heal that wound.
It's “to tell your heart little by little that the danger is gone.”
Maybe my heart still has tension from when I was being bullied or when I was living with my mother-in-law.
But now it's not what it was back then.
I have a husband, a daughter, and my mother-in-law lives separately.
The reality is changing little by little.
So when anxiety or anger comes out at night, you don't have to force yourself to try to drive them away.
First, please acknowledge that “my heart is still hurt.”
I've been hurt by bullying and my relationship with my mother-in-law for a long time, so it's no wonder that the pain remains.
Then, try talking to that wound like this.
“Those days were certainly painful, weren't they?”
“It was really scary, wasn't it?”
“You've worked hard, haven't you?”
On top of that, he said, “But the scenery changed slightly from those days.”
Please tell them.
I met her husband, a precious daughter was born, and there were people to support her.
Of course, that doesn't mean the wound is gone.
However, there are a lot of things that I didn't have back then.
So at night, I said, “This happened today.”
“My daughter smiled at me like this”
“I was able to work a little harder today”
Try having a conversation with your heart like that.
Instead of trying to erase my wounds, I am living in the present with my hurt self.
I think that accumulation will gradually lead the mind to peace of mind.
When it gets dark, the unreasonable anger you've received and your worries about the future come up, don't you think? How did you get through that time?
Do you spend time alone? Are your husband and wife in the same room, or are your husband nearby? Is it silent? How are the lights?
Depending on the environment and conditions, both the mind and the range of tremors will be different.
I ride a car when I want to be alone. It's quiet at night and the car is small, but it's a special space just for me, and my feelings are organized. Surprisingly, drinking coffee in the parking lot of a convenience store at night is warm and relaxing.
When I spend time in my room, I stretch slowly at night before going to bed. Breathe deeply and relax your body. Once your body is in shape, your mind will also rest. Even if their mind is disturbed, they have no choice but to work on what is in front of them one by one, so let's relax them to that end.
I have a favorite scent. I use scented things at night, such as room sprays, hand creams, and body milk. As if it were a day's reward, I'm massaging my body for my hard work.
In this way, by making time for yourself at night in a comfortable space, you can prepare your mind and body. If you stretch, it's also good to fall asleep.
You, too, should touch something that is comfortable for you and restore the feeling of being pulled back. Try it out.
I read it.
At night, the terrible things you have received from others in the past come back to life, don't you think? And anger and hatred usually rise from within my heart, don't they? I don't know the details about you or your past, but I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
If something bad comes to mind for you, please put your hands on the Buddha, gods, and ancestors and tell them as they are. Please confess everything to the Buddha, God, and your ancestors, including your pain, sorrow, anger, hatred, and grudge. Buddha, gods, and ancestors will kindly accept all of your thoughts. They accept your heart and are close to you.
And he will save you from that suffering.
Buddha, gods, and ancestors will watch over you and save you anytime, anywhere in any situation.
I sincerely pray to the Buddha, gods, and ancestors so that all of your thoughts will be accepted by the Buddha, gods, and ancestors, and that you can have a good night's sleep with peace of mind, and that you can live a healthy life every day. We wholeheartedly agree