Marital wrestling issues and customs for women

According to Buddhist teachings, there is no denying the very desires that people have. It's natural for you to seek warmth and sexual satisfaction. How deep was the past hurt of being rejected by my husband while working hard to do childcare and housework, and the pain of trying to fill a gap in my heart.

Currently, I'm suffering from an obsession with women's customs, but what you're really looking for is not “him” himself, but the feeling that “I want to be treated specially and loved.” The nominee's sweet words are only temporary illusions (sales talks) that unfortunately involve compensation. Continuing to rely on this illusion will expose your own mind and body to unnecessary risks such as infectious diseases, etc., and in turn will increase suffering.

In order to break up completely, the first thing to do is to look at that word as it is “made” and let go of the obsession. Also, let's move away from the outside world little by little while incorporating methods to satisfy ourselves (such as masturbating) as realistic means. At the same time, please gather your courage and discuss your honest feelings and desired number of times with your husband, whose relationship is improving.

Please cherish the unwavering truth in your heart that “I love my husband.” We are supporting them so that they can slowly reheat the precious bonds of reality, not illusions.

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Engiji Temple Shakujo

I read it.
I read your thoughts. It tells me that you are very worried about your relationship with your husband and about your marital life. I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
After all, I think it's very necessary for your husband to understand that you are so worried. Raising children and housework will be very difficult, and I think both you and your husband are doing their best to live as a family.
And you and your husband have an irreplaceable and unique relationship. So not only do you hold onto your feelings, but ask your husband to talk clearly about it, and let your husband accept it first. Also, please share your thoughts with your husband and wife.
Specifically, it is the couple who will decide what to do, so let's resolve our worries by sharing them little by little while discussing our thoughts with each other without being in a hurry.
Married couples are partners for a long time, there are many things, there are twists and turns from time to time, and it's natural for them to be emotionally diverse.
I sincerely pray that you and your husband will be able to carefully care for each other while talking about your various thoughts with your husband, and that your children will grow healthily and that you and your husband will be able to live a happy life. We wholeheartedly agree

It seems like I'm being satisfied, but it feels empty...
Like men, if you buy time for love and sex with money, it may be easier to break up with customs, but after all, women have a strong desire to feel healing, peace of mind, and love for the sex they are looking for.

Sex partners give you special treatment, and they whisper their love for the time you bought with money, right? You can monopolize that time. It would be easy if you could divide it like that, though. Being addicted also means that it costs money. However, your sex partner won't get serious about you in private, so if you follow the usage rules, you won't get into trouble.

If your mind and body are prepared with it, I think it would be nice if you make good use of it. That's because my husband won't give me that part.

But when I listen to your story, my husband is selfish.
Was it my wife's fault that we became a one-op family? It's proof that my wife was responsible for everything about the family and raising children. My wife is the one who has supported the family, even shouldering the role of a father in the family. If you are dissatisfied with things such as “because the room is dirty” or “because you don't get along well with your parents-in-law's house,” your husband should make an effort too. That's because it's my husband's house. That's because they're my own parents. It's probably my husband who blamed it on his wife and avoided marital time. What are you acting so bossy about?

Even if you try your best to build a marital relationship, your husband's feelings for you probably changed during your marriage.

If you want to fill your loneliness and have your existence cherished, why not look for a place that accepts and recognizes you.

Acquiring qualifications and practicing. Circles and salons. Outside of your home, such as community activities and volunteering, find a space where you are cherished and a place where you can play an active role, and meet friends you share with. There are many forms of love. The peace of being needed and acknowledged is also a warm love.

Why don't you look for a satisfying way of life that is different from customs?

Dear Mario, please contact us.
Sexlessness continues, and the cause is because the house is dirty and because they don't get along well with their in-laws.

I became sexless because of that, and yet my husband followed the customs. It also made me feel numb, and it is said that Mario also went like a woman.

I think it would be nice to say a word.

When you reach the age of 40, your hormones decrease, and your sexual desire gradually disappears. Under such circumstances, isn't having sexual desire itself a wonderful thing with a good balance of hormones?

I often hear that there are 2 patterns of women: those who have sexual desire until they turn ashen, and those who lose their sexual desire at all.

Sexual desire is also an important, important power to live, isn't it?
It's not very good to become addicted to female style,

Why don't you make a promise to yourself and use it as a reward for yourself, whether it's once a year or every 2 years?

If your mind and body are moisturized, you can naturally be kind to your husband, too.
If I had to say more, I might be able to lead my husband.

Also, before you know it, you may be asked for more things from your husband.

By that time, you may have already forgotten your current worries.

Anyway, menopause is about to begin. Hormones are running out more and more. I don't think it's a bad thing for me to have lots of hormones circulating throughout my body right now.

Above all, being able to be kind to my husband is the biggest advantage,

There are many sexless consultation patterns, and there are many cases where they say never use it again and don't have an affair,

In the case of Mario, her husband is also involved in the customs, so

I feel like it's different from the others.

Today, I felt that it might be a solution for mature couples.

Too much intensity is not good.

However, if you put up with it too much or get too stressed, and if your husband can't cover it all,

I felt that depending on the situation, it was OK to leave part to a professional.

Just one thing, let's graduate like a woman when my husband completely becomes Mario.

The two of you express your love is the best.

May feminine style be the spice of love in many ways.

I wholeheartedly support you.