How to become a monk

After taking care of my father, my sister began to want to be a monk.
She was a kind child, and there were times when she was mentally unstable, but it seems like she always wanted to be a monk.
I heard that I couldn't talk about it due to issues such as nursing care, etc., and I thought it would be a good thing to have an interest in these people in order to live a better life. I would like to support my dream, but they say that in order to become a monk, it is better to find a mentor.
What are some ways to find a mentor?
I've heard that people who are now monks often have monks in their families, but if you don't mind, could you tell me how they met their mentor?　

3 Zen Responses

We recommend that you first consult with the family temple

It is best to consult with the family temple closest to you.
First, ask the family temple what kind of path is possible.
However, even if you don't become a monk, you can live according to the teachings of Buddhism. Conversely, it's an illusion to think that if you become a monk, something will happen right away.
In my experience, people who want to become monks rarely stick to their favorite “My Buddhism” (which is convenient for them), and as a result, are unable to live in line with Buddhism.
First, I recommend attending a puja or study session somewhere so you can deepen your understanding of Buddhism.

Thank you for your question.
Other than relatives, I think they often become apprentices after consulting with the family temple where their ancestors took care of them. In other cases, you might become an apprentice to a monk that you have become good friends with due to work or something, or ask a monk in the denomination you believe in and can be trusted. Please avoid places that charge a lot of money or that don't tell you anything. I hope you find good teachers and monks.

What does your sister think? I want to cherish that heart too.

Is that so, my little sister?
You've experienced taking care of your father, haven't you? It was a painful experience, but watching the death of my parents probably gave me an opportunity to think about my own way of life and life. Also, the younger sister herself probably has her own thoughts.

I want to be a monk. Perhaps the reason such a path is drawn is because the warm gaze and guidance of the father and Buddha have arrived.
Buddhism... I feel my sister's kindness and heart trembling even in my heart when I think about my father.

There is also a path where you actually meet your mentor, but on top of that, it also takes preparation, time, learning, and money. It is a monk who lives a way of life by following Buddhism for the rest of their lives.

First of all, I want to listen to my little sister's feelings.
Hasunoha has online individual consultations. Talk to the monk slowly
Why don't you try it. What does your sister think? I want to cherish that heart too.

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