The divorce has been decided

I read your question.

It's a very difficult situation.

The first thing I want to tell you is that I don't want you to blame yourself too much.

My husband is due to “differences in sense of money,” but it is said that he has savings of several million yen over 10 years and is also covered by financial aid insurance. I feel a little uncomfortable being told “I haven't done anything” just because of that.

Also, the husband only came home once a week, and it is said that there were situations where he felt uneasy about how to treat children. A home is not only about money, but it is also a place where couples support each other and raise children.

Now that the divorce has been decided, what is more important is protecting the child's life rather than fighting over “which one is worse.”

To that end,

* Household Financial Status
* Interactions with your husband
* How to relate to children
* Property, insurance, and mortgage details

We recommend that you organize these as facts, not feelings.

Also, child support, property division, mortgages, etc. are not just verbal promises, and please consider family court mediation and consultation with lawyers as necessary. Even if you just use free legal advice, it will be easier to make future prospects.

I think I'm full of sorrow and frustration right now. However, the most important thing for children is that their mother can live with peace of mind.

Please don't just blame yourself.

Also, in my opinion, the reason for divorce like the template does not match the sense of money
I feel a sense of incongruity.
If you have even the slightest sense of distrust, consider investigating your husband's behavior.

Heaven helps those who help themselves.

If you have any concerns, Mr. Bubutan, I will also be happy to discuss them as a supplement.

First of all, we've been together for 10 years, and the fact that the divorce will be decided in just 1 week of that fight doesn't make sense.

After the parties have had a fight with each other until they get divorced, I don't think they can take a bird's-eye view of their own situation by any means,

Since it's been 10 years, my husband should have been able to check my passbook, etc.

After living for a year, you'll be able to fully understand how much money they have.

I want to save my own money from now on, what does that mean? a little bit? It crosses through.

Even if you're going to get divorced, don't push the judgment so quickly.

Maybe there's something wrong with my husband.
Isn't it strange to get divorced all of a sudden?
There are children's things too.

I don't think my wife should agree to a divorce right away.

Why don't you think about some kind of plan again and expand on the divorce story?

And why don't you do a lot of work in the meantime.

There are many decisions, such as materials in case of trial, custody issues, knowledge of property division, education expenses, alimony, etc.

Does my husband really have an awareness that he has to decide that much with just one fight?

Anyway, it's important to calm down right now.

I think it would be better not to make a decision right away, first think carefully and grasp the situation, then work hard and set up a place for discussion again, but how about that?

Anyway, make sure you don't push the stamp right away.

Wives lose more often.

My wife is also going to have a lot of trouble from now on.

If you're a full-time housewife, you have to find a job, and even if you work, it's really difficult to live while protecting your two children.

Please calm down once, don't get carried away by your feelings, and proceed carefully.

If progress is made again, let's all think about it.

I read the postscript response. It's strange to get divorced on LINE. Tell your lawyer about that too. Early is better, because in the current situation, there is a possibility that your husband won't be able to get in touch. Be sure to include a written promise of financial payment. I'm rooting for you!

Postscript 2
Please do your best!
We are Mr. Bubutan's cheering team!

I've been supporting you all the time!

I read it.
The couple suddenly got into a fight, and they were unilaterally blamed for money and were forced to get divorced by your husband, and you are very shocked. And you're having a very hard time, aren't you? I don't know the details about you or your husband, but I can tell you that you are very shocked and sad. I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
It's been 10 years since you got married, and even if your husband doesn't say anything, you're saving millions of yen for the future, and since you're also covered by financial aid insurance for your child's education, I think you've worked pretty hard.
I imagine there may be another reason why your husband suddenly made such accusations against you.
I feel strange when your husband suddenly denies and accuses you in a stupid way.
If possible, I think it's very necessary to calm down once again, try being in a sincere relationship with the two of them, and talk about their feelings and thoughts.
I want your husband to treat you sincerely without lying to him.
Also, if possible, ask a third party you can trust to come in and sort out the discussion.
If they still continue to unilaterally blame you, ask a lawyer to handle it.
Since it may be necessary to raise children in the future, it is at least necessary to make firm demands.
Also, consult with local government child and family support centers, child counseling centers, and law terraces to have them respond appropriately, and actively receive advice and support.
First of all, I sincerely pray that your husband will be able to face and talk with sincerity so that you and your children can live with peace of mind, that your children will grow healthily with the support of many people, and that everyone will continue to be considerate of each other and live a happy life. And I wholeheartedly support you and your child.

Even though I was worried, I was able to prepare the home environment and work hard for my family...
You've decided to live separate ways called divorce, haven't you?

Childcare would have been a one-off operation too. You, too, have worked hard.
How involved was the husband in the family and childcare before blaming his wife for not being able to save money? If you don't like economic design that much, you've probably taken good care of your family, such as not just leaving it up to your wife and reviewing it regularly. I think my husband's statement is pretty aggressive, too.

I provide DV support as a counselor on a daily basis, but please be careful about negotiated divorce for husbands who insist on one-sided conditions. Don't let your husband push you over.

Paying child support is an absolute legal obligation for parents. The claim that they don't pay with conditions doesn't go through. Also, make sure that you are properly satisfied with the division of property during the 10-year marriage. Get a lawyer on your side

There is also support for single-parent families, so please ask about your future lifestyle at the Child-Raising Generation Comprehensive Support Center.

Divorce is painful, and you may think you'll lose even what you've built up until now, but it's a divorce to protect what you've cherished. Please work with your lawyer to help you and your child live a safe life in the future.

At Law Terrace, you can receive free consultations up to 3 times 30 minutes. Please summarize what you want to ask and move on.