I'm afraid of happiness. I'm tired of life

　Nice to meet you. I read your consultation. It's called “bad fortune is like a rope,” but when things like what you wrote continue, it's no wonder that “happiness always comes after misfortune.” Moreover, since it has not wavered for over 30 years, before rejoicing in happiness, they prepare themselves that “something will happen again.” I think that's the world you're living in right now.

I myself have been a person who has been happy and disappointed about various things since I was little. However, if you look back over a long period of time, events that you thought were “happy” will eventually become everyday if they continue. Conversely, the scenery changes little by little over time, even when the events were difficult. I feel that the very feeling of “being happy in this state” has changed little by little in my life.

So now, I'm starting to think, “Basically, normal driving is the most reassuring.” Sometimes there are mountains, sometimes valleys. In other words, it means letting go of “I want to be happy” a little bit. I spend my days carefree. I was happy when I got married, and it was hard when I sent my father. However, what I spend the longest time on is a “normal, flat day.”

Transferring values to that will not be easy. However, when there is something happy, I rejoice at that moment, and when there is something unhappy, I am sad at that moment. Then back to everyday life. I think that repetition is fine.

Since you have lived a life where “when you are happy, misfortune comes,” you may not immediately begin to think so. Even so, if little by little, the number of days where you think “today was a day that wasn't particularly happy or unhappy” increases, I think that accumulation will surely show a different landscape of life than before.

I read it.
I read that you have lived with misfortune until now, and that you are worried about what to do with such a life. I don't know the details about you or until now, but I understand your painful feelings from the bottom of my heart.

You've been unhappy as soon as you've had happiness until now. I don't know how you can accept such an encounter, but it's quite difficult to accept it.
I don't know the exact circumstances of your life up until now, but I really understand that even the fact that you are happy makes you even more anxious.

In ancient Chinese folklore, there is a saying, “Everything about humans is a horse.” It shows that even if there is misfortune, good luck will come around again, so it's important to respond calmly without getting caught up too much and not being disappointed.

But I don't think that's quite the case when it comes to you.
As you may feel uneasy, life often doesn't go well, and there are many painful and sad things.
Please share your thoughts here as well. And share it with us and many others.
Also, please tell the Buddha, gods, and ancestors about your anxiety, sorrow, and painful feelings as they are. The Buddha, God, and your ancestors will gently bury all of your thoughts, stay close to your heart, and save you by relieving your anxiety and painful feelings.

Each one of us is very weak, and the Buddha, gods, and ancestors always watch over us kindly. I'm sure the father and mother will also be saved by Buddha and God, and close people and ancestors who have gone there will welcome both father and mother. Furthermore, both father and mother were saved from any hesitation or suffering, and they attained Buddhism cleanly and successfully. And they are watching over you kindly.

I sincerely pray to the Buddha, gods, and ancestors so that you can live a safe and healthy life from the bottom of your heart and be gently protected by Buddha, gods, ancestors, and parents in the future, so that you can survive the life you have been given. We wholeheartedly agree

Life is like that. I watched Mito Komon on TV with my grandparents and parents when I was a kid, and the following theme song is always played when it starts.
“When life is easy, so is pain ~ ♪ (abbreviated hereafter)” (“Ah, there are tears in life” by Kotaro Satomi)
That's really true. So it's a good idea not to look at life in its entirety, but to look at it from moment to moment. When I'm happy, I enjoy happiness to the fullest. When I'm unhappy, I shed tears and feel sad. Let's put the future aside for a moment and try to look at the present moment.
Note that both good and bad things happen due to multiple relationships (causes). Therefore, reducing even one thing while thinking about the cause of bad things happening will lead to reducing bad things.
I wish you much happiness.

When you think about the circumstances you've been put in, you're exhausted from life because of such a difference. If you keep repeating the situation again and again, the next thing will be nothing but a sense of anxiety, and you will probably not be happy about the present.

Certainly, what you've experienced isn't familiar to everyone, and it may seem like bad luck. I think it was a real hardship to be able to stand this far, despite the pain of not being able to say anything to anyone.

Life is complicated, and everyone wants to live the way they want. That feeling is natural, and I feel “happy” through repeated joy and peace of mind. Therefore, even if you get a time to feel happy, when anxiety and pain strike, even your happiness fluctuates.

The human mind has such a big impact, isn't it? If we take matters as whether we are happy or unhappy, we end up just evaluating the present moment until now.

My heart is shaking, so it's also difficult to control, but it would be nice if I could take what's happening now as a great power (experience) to support me next time.

Various experiences are said to be the greatest weapon for overcoming difficulties and setbacks. In psychology, it is called “resilience (mental resilience),” and learning and experiences gained from past experiences are also a driving force for overcoming new adversities in a flexible manner.

By objectively looking at the current situation as to what is the cause without being swallowed up by emotions, the next countermeasures can be seen. Let's train our mental strength by clearing it again.

Hasunoha has many troubling questions. There are a lot of answers there. It means that there are solutions as there are people. Please rely on it whenever you have a problem. While doing so, let's increase your resilience.