I'm sad that I can't trust my partner during pregnancy

I read your consultation.

You've been hurt by the words and actions of your partner during fertility treatment, and even now that you're pregnant, you're still in deep sorrow and at a loss.

Now that you're pregnant, I think the relationship between the two of you is even more uneasy because it's not just a matter of the two of them, but it also involves their children.

The reality is that lost relationships of trust are not that easy to repair. Trust is something that is built upon accumulation.

However, from the viewpoint of evaluating an opponent, I'm probably only concerned about the point deduction part, and I don't think it's going pretty well.

> Even if you try to be positive and cherish him

As you said, while you can still afford to do that, I hope that as you continue to do that, someday it will become natural rather than impossible, and if you notice it, trust will be born.

It's not conditional that you trust them if you do this, and first try living by taking an attitude of hypothetical trust (for each other, for your children).

Even so, if you can't see a future where you can happily raise children with your current partner, it is probably necessary to make a decision somewhere, but the two of you must first make an effort so that the child is not swayed by adult circumstances.

I think it's really difficult to do that with a broken heart, but I think about your child and hope the two of you treat them well.

I read it.
I read about you and your husband. I think both you and your husband are deeply hurt. I don't know the details about you and your husband, but I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
Various things have happened up until now, and I think both you and your husband have been very driven into it yourself. I think both of them were exhausted and deeply hurt because they had absolutely no time to spare in their hearts or lives.
First, why don't you and your husband take a break and take a good rest. What you need to do right now is for both you and your husband to rest well and be healed.
Of course, life doesn't go the way you want it to, and things don't go according to plan. There are mistakes, twists and turns, and things that are completely unpredictable come along.
Therefore, there are many things that await in the future.
Instead of arguing with each other over words, let's respect each other carefully from the bottom of our hearts.
I sincerely pray that you and your husband will first be healed by carefully caring for each other, and that they will live a rich life while caring for the future, and that the two of you will help each other and survive healthily.
And I wholeheartedly support you all. We wholeheartedly agree

You're pregnant right now, aren't you? From the bottom of my heart, I would like to send my congratulations.

It's so painful for you, the pregnant woman who is supposed to be the happiest right now, to be in the midst of deep loneliness and anxiety. Also, don't you feel sorry for your husband and baby (I'm sorry I'm the mother)?

I think he doesn't have enough words. If you don't say it, it should have arrived, and your thoughts about fertility and for your baby will come to the forefront rather than words you care about or love you, and you won't notice that you've left yourself behind. I think it's something that makes you feel an indescribable sense of urgency.

I want to understand your feelings too. That's because the person you've sworn to walk with has a big crotch and tries to walk first. I want to walk around here while taking a leisurely look at the scenery.

But I'm sure the future they both envision is the same, and the person who sees it together is you. There's nothing to worry about.
Still, when you think about pregnancy and the births and childcare that will come first, it's pressure on the mother. That's because it's my first experience.

My husband thinks it's the same. So, I want it to be like this! Don't want too much. Don't apply him to the image of an ideal husband.

I don't think we're having a proper discussion. So why don't you take a break from the emotions of the moment and mutter into this Hasunoha?

Let's sort out your feelings and feelings and tell them to your husband. Also, keep your mind at ease and feel the sense of unity that only exists now with your baby.

That's because I'm walking along a proper happy path without losing sight of it.

Life planning for an elderly couple, especially fertility, is a delicate matter, and I think it is something that is naive about whether it is OK for others to intervene.

At least, what I can say is that they both worked very hard.

I hear that there are many people who break up halfway due to fertility treatments.

Fertility, which developed from love, unknowingly turned into words and actions that seemed only to be one's own happiness.

I often hear that some men take the lead just because they want children, and they go further and further by neglecting the heart of their partner's woman.

I think he's really clumsy and bad at expressing himself

It would be reassuring if you could express your love in a few more words.

However, this pregnancy also puts a lot of stress on men.

Also, in the first group of men, it seems that there are people who think that a happy family and children are the most important purpose of life.

For such people, first of all, it is important to be able to meet someone who will leave their own descendants,

And if they meet, I think that the instinct itself of men who want to leave a crystal of love with someone they like is probably stronger than that of women.

I also don't think there are many men who have such a strong attitude.

I wonder if MK is happy in a sense? I also think so.

He said that if he complains, he won't do everything.

I think his words and actions show everything.

Among him, he probably spends his time with a lot of sincerity towards MK.

I also had children, and now we are entering a period where we must spend a peaceful time.

That's why it's such a time, when I take a step further and think about it now,

When I wonder what the two of them are lacking, I think it's charity.

I'm already going to be the child's father and mother.

It's important to love yourself, but what can I do for him?

I wonder what I can do for my newborn child.

Thoughts on that side will also become much easier once they develop.

Now is the time for a shift in thinking.

I think my thoughts will change once a child is born, so maybe my current conflict is just now.

Please take good care of your husband.