Dispelling grudges with inheritance

It's a scary title, but now my husband's niece is doing it.
My husband's sister died of illness before my father-in-law passed away. The father-in-law and mother-in-law took care of everything from nursing and hospitalization expenses to wake and funeral expenses for their precious daughter. My sister-in-law has two children: a daughter and a son. My brother-in-law was overshadowed, and it almost felt like my sister-in-law was staying at her parents' house with her children.

My mother-in-law is gone and my father-in-law has passed away, and I'm ready to talk about my father-in-law's inheritance. There is a will, and the executor of the will is my husband. We talked for 4 hours in the conference room, but no settlement was made and it was shelved. My husband's niece was forced to give up her insurance claim from when her grandmother died in a traffic accident in the form of being held back by her grandpa, but after that, I don't know the amount, but my grandpa transferred cash to my niece. However, my niece was dissatisfied with the fact that she was forced to abandon it, and now I had individual negotiations with my grandpa to give me a house with 30 square meters of land in individual negotiations. It seems that they were also severely knocked down, and their son told them that they were going to do it. And it seems that my grandpa told me the name of my niece's mother, who passed away, saying that my only daughter had zero children.
My husband told me about it later. My father-in-law originally spent a lot of money, so the money left over isn't a big amount of money. However, the husband, niece, and nephew of the executor of the will did not go so far as to seal the agreement based on the will.
We talk to the tax accountant who requested tax-related processing, and it's not enough money to set up a lawyer, and it just becomes a quagmire. I was told that the tax accountant was present once again and tried to set up a discussion, but it seems that my niece will request a lawyer. I'm tired of it. It's someone else's matter, but just making them get a lawyer will only reduce their share of the inheritance. It seems that you can't trust your uncle, whose grandpa's blood is flowing. I hated my niece from the first time I met her. That's because I had kitchen sickness. It seems that kitchen sickness continues even after the age of 30. It seems that they want their father-in-law's inheritance this time according to their own wishes. My husband and I are mentally exhausted. What should I do?

6 Zen Responses

After all, I think it would be better to talk to a lawyer as well.
If you inherit an inheritance according to the law, no one can complain.
My niece probably fell in love with her greed and obsession with money.
It's sad, but in reality, it's also a human weakness.
Please suppress your anger, stay calm, and use the law as a shield to protect yourself.

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Tax accountants mainly help with document preparation, etc., but lawyers act on behalf of the husband and deal with the niece, so if the husband's stress seems to be severe, it may be better to have a lawyer handle it from here instead of his niece as soon as possible.
Also, if the content of the will is unfavorable to the niece, I think there are cases where the story is settled by the person who inherited according to the law without following the will. Please tell your husband too.

Can you get inherited property for free shelf

Inherited property is income from botamochi off the shelf, not what you or your husband earned.
I thought it wasn't there from the beginning, and I would feel refreshed if I handed over the legal inheritance to my niece.
In Buddhism, obsession causes trouble and suffering.
If you feel like it's a shame to rely on an inheritance, or that you don't need an inheritance, it will clear up and clear up.
Also, the inheritance your husband will receive is not yours.
I don't think you have anything to worry about.
Whether you get it or not, think it's my husband's pocket money and leave it alone.
“I don't like my niece” is an affliction of anger, and this also causes trouble, suffering, and stress.
Let's take good care of Kuriya Ninbyo, who is cute and like a child.
Note, my wife's father has passed away, and I have no sisters or interest in confirming how much my wife received the inheritance.
(My wife is on good terms with her siblings, so there are parts I'm not worried about)

Please entrust all practical work to experts and restore serenity to your heart first

When my father-in-law passed away, I sincerely apologize for all the hardships up until now. Even if you are your husband, you have witnessed fights between relatives, and it must be really heartbreaking. From the words that they are mentally exhausted, it is painfully conveyed that the two of you are close to the limit of patience.

Buddhism explains that most human suffering comes from “obsession (obsession).” My niece, who is trapped in a strong obsession with resentment about past events, money, and wanting to make situations her own way, can be said to be in a state where she herself is in the flames of deep suffering, so to speak. Forcibly changing someone's mind is extremely difficult. What's more, even you and your husband are dealing head-on with that negative flame, and there's absolutely no need to get burned together.

I also understand the feeling that “just making lawyers make money will reduce their share.” However, in order to protect your couple, why don't you choose to let go of your immediate obsession with property just a little bit. Please think that having a third party called an attorney come in between is not simply an expense of expenses, but a necessary expense (investment to protect yourself) to regain the couple's precious “time” and “peace of mind.” Speaking without fear of misunderstandings, it's a fair price for buying mental health.

No matter how emotional your niece is, you cannot surpass the logic of the law. If it is possible to quietly hand over the minimum right called the remaining portion and “separate the relationship” from past struggles and negative feelings, then it should definitely not be a wasted price.

Right now, above all else, protecting the couple's mental and physical health is a top priority. Losing the smiles of the two of them is a bigger loss in life than a slight loss in wealth. Please take a step back from the quagmire of strife, entrust all practical work to experts, and restore serenity to your heart first. I sincerely hope that the two of you will have a peaceful and peaceful future.

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I think only legal action is fine

I read it.
You and your husband are both very exhausted. I don't know the details, but I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
Anger, resentment, hatred, and selfishness come back to me. And then I'm going to calm myself down. Ancestors will feel sad that they were governed by such selfishness, and they will fall into suffering themselves. You will never be saved unless you reflect on your own and make amends.
Please pray with all your heart that those who have passed away will be at peace from the bottom of your heart. I also sincerely pray for you.
As you probably know, inheritance division agreements are discussed at the Legal Affairs Bureau and submitted to the Legal Affairs Bureau. Please consult with the Legal Affairs Bureau. And please take legal action.
Other than that, I think everything else can be cut out. That's because it's just bothersome.
More than that, please cherish your relationships with those who have passed away and hold a memorial service.

I would like to pray to God Buddha and your ancestors so that you can always cherish your relationships with your ancestors, make offerings with all your heart, and live a peaceful and peaceful life. We wholeheartedly agree

Also, they will eventually meet their ancestors again, and I wonder what kind of faces they will have and how they will meet again at that time.

I'll leave it up to the lawyers.

It's not just about money.

I recommend getting a lawyer so that you can feel at ease even a little bit.

For many years, I have been involved in administrative affairs related to subsidies and work related to administrative sanctions and incidents. There is a duty of confidentiality, so I can't go into details, but I have some knowledge and experience with the law, evidence, and document preparation than the general public.

However, I delegated my problem to an attorney.

This is because disputes with close relatives make it easier for emotions to enter into.

In inheritance issues, if discussions are not settled, family court mediation may be used, and if agreement is still not possible, it may proceed to trial.

In the process, you must organize materials and evidence and communicate your arguments in writing.

I'm used to office work, so I organize the evidence myself and prepare plans for documents to some extent.

On top of that, legal confirmation was carried out by an attorney teacher, and expressions and details were corrected.

Do what you can do yourself.

However, the final legal decision should be made by an expert.

I think that's fine.

Especially in close relationships between parents and children, siblings, etc.

“Why don't you understand?”

“Why does this have to be said?”

No matter what, emotions come first.

However, what is important in court is not the intensity of anger.

What are the facts?

Do you have any evidence to back that up?

There it is.

In other words, it's better to stay calm and calm.

The meaning of getting a lawyer isn't just to win a trial.

It also has the meaning of reducing the burden of directly communicating with the other party and protecting one's own heart.

If you're exhausted due to inheritance issues, leave it up to the experts.

Also, please take care of your own daily life.

Don't let a fight take your whole life.

I think that's the most important thing.

Don't get directly involved. Let's set up an agent and ask them to proceed.

That is daunting, isn't it? My niece's feud and obsession with her grandfather is amazing. So I guess I think it's a natural claim of rights that I don't want my uncle to inherit or pass it on.

It's not going to be a discussion in this way, is it? Experts are probably the ones you can rely on precisely because those who are cornered end up breaking down.

Inheritance problems are common. It's not about getting into trouble because there's money; it's probably going to happen that you can't get away from the causes and circumstances of relationships up until now. The people who got caught up in it didn't accumulate, did they?

In order not to get exhausted, don't get directly involved. Let's set up an agent and ask them to proceed. This will lead to the couple's safety and security. I hope they can reach a solution as soon as possible.

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