How to deal with a boyfriend while living together

Thank you for your consultation. The long message from him while living together made me feel as if all of his personality had been denied, and it must have been really painful. I would like to express my deepest sympathy.

Failing to keep his promise may certainly be a point of remorse for you, but in response to being tired and asleep, you can't help but feel a bit “unusually narrow” in the sight of him putting words to hunt down his partner to such an extent. Drink when and how you like. If you don't keep your promise, you just have to enjoy it again at the next opportunity. Originally, “tolerance” is essential for connections between people. However, from his words, I can see and hide his biased obsession with wanting to insist on his “legitimacy” rather than his compassion for you.

If you are currently living together, you are probably looking ahead to “marriage” as an extension of that. Marriage is about making up for each other's immaturity and going a long way while respecting each other for a lifetime, in some cases. If you're in a relationship where you're constantly being “denied your personality” and atrophied, I don't recommend stepping into it.

Nonetheless, since it is impossible to estimate all of the relationships between the two of them using only this limited text, I'm not saying “we should break up right now.” First, stop blaming yourself too much, saying “everything is wrong with you,” and have peace of mind. Also, why don't you set up a period to look back at whether he really is the right person as a “partner who can support each other throughout life” with a slightly calm eye without being impatient. I hope your life will be peaceful.

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I read it.
I see, if it's written in such a long sentence, it answers, and I feel like I can understand that you're worried about what to do. I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.

I think the first thing to do is calm down and reflect on yourself. It's probably true that he feels that way, so I'm sure he'll take it seriously and think back.

And why don't you calm down and honestly tell him how you feel? I don't know what he is like, but why don't you tell him your thoughts without getting emotional, listen carefully to his thoughts, and use them for your future way of life and attitude.

You probably have your own way of life and attitude, so it's about dealing with him and the people around you in your own way, isn't it?

Even so, I think there are times when it still doesn't fit. That's because people have different relationships, values, and ways of life. There may be things you disagree with, and there are things you can agree with.

At any rate, let's treat him sincerely. Also, please take a close look at what is good about him from now on and make your own judgments. We wholeheartedly agree

Things he has pointed out a lot...
Is that what people say this far?

You seem to be aware, too, but even so, you have your say.
It's sad that it was said a little too one-sided.

A relationship is about building a long-lasting relationship by respecting and coming to terms with each other rather than one side blaming each other.

When you live together, you can often notice the other person's behavior, but since two people with different environments and values grew up with each other live together, it is natural for differences of opinion to occur.

How do you walk in such a situation? There is no choice but to have a thorough discussion. Also, it is important to feel compassion and think (I want to be with this person) that discussions do not proceed in such a way as to clash thoughts.

Rather than being swept away like this and continuing to live together, I think it's a time to face your partner and envision the future.

Mii-san, please contact us.

I had promised to have a drink with my boyfriend, who I live with, but I completely missed my promise.

If I only say this, I'm sure they were looking forward to drinking.

He probably is, but when I look at this sentence,
I want them to respect you.
I want you to respect me.
I want you to show a humble attitude.
I don't want you to spoil yourself too much.

I wonder if it's like that.

If it's someone you live with, I think this complaint is a common story.

I also feel that habituation has hurt the other person's dignity a little bit.

However, this one also has it, right?

Women often think things on their own and move forward, and they want him to sense their feelings, and since it's not a job, they want to stay in their shell if something happens.

But if they say they're being pushed by someone you want to spoil...

Discuss opinions and search for a landing point where both parties are satisfied
→This makes me think, even after getting married

Maybe it's because I only think about myself (being satisfied) when I start taking action?
→It's a wonderful story. You can only satisfy your partner once you've satisfied yourself.

Drinking alcohol → because I want to make myself feel better
→Isn't that good?

It is thought that they have no social skills or empathy.

Somehow, the two of them have an atmosphere where men and women are reversed.

Seen from the side, it's a fight between close lovers, but...

However, since they both have biorhythms, it would be ideal for them to overcome them and grow together as human beings.

However, it doesn't go as ideal, and there are places where you can't relax in ideal places.

It's annoying, isn't it?

Is it also possible to physically cancel cohabitation once? Maybe.

I think he has a full capacity right now.

If we get a little older and can grow with each other, I'm sure there will come a time when they end up being cute, just like Mii-san is now... that would be great, though.

After all, people who demand that they don't take things for granted want praise, I want them to be appreciated, and I want love

Isn't there such a thing? I feel it.

It's casual, thank you, and it's important, I love you,

If you whisper it into his daily life, even just a little bit, his feelings may calm down.

I feel it is an expression of affection.
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