Isn't it impossible to have a new relationship due to trauma

he was a terrible man. I would like to express my deepest sympathy. It is natural to be deeply hurt and traumatized by heartless words and unreasonable behavior. It was a really painful experience.

In Buddhism, there is a teaching called “bow down (bow).” It means to gently let go of the burdens held in the heart and the clings to the past. Cruel memories are holding you back now, but please try to carry that heavy baggage called “fear” here once.

There are “bad relationships” and “good relationships” in this world. You just had a bad relationship with your previous partner, and that incident in no way detracts from your value. The person I'm meeting next time is a “different person” who has lived a completely different life. There is no such thing as ten people and ten colors, and no two relationships are the same. Above all else, it is important not to superimpose the illusion of a bad relationship from the past into a new encounter.

You should trust your own instincts that you feel are a “kind and humble person,” and first determine who your partner is without being impatient. If you feel even a little uncomfortable, you can fully protect yourself by keeping a distance there. Please break away from the past and take the step of touching new relationships at your own pace. I wish you peace of mind and good relationships.

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Ah-san, please contact us.

We met on a matching app, confessed that our face was my type, and when we met when we were tired, our faces were different from the app.

They are forced to do sexual activity and during menstruation, and if it hurts, just practice. I thought to put up with it, something didn't feel good at all,

That man is a scum guy.
In the first place, don't forget that there are a certain number of men on matching apps who just want to have sex with convenient women.

To put it more, there are a certain number of marriage fraudsters.

When it comes to Aa-san's personality, I actually have a feeling that matching apps don't fit in the first place.

that's unfortunate. Take care of yourself.
Also, I recommend marriage agencies rather than matching apps.

There are also people who get married on matching apps, but it's how they use it, and it feels like those who have been able to self-analyze just happened to be married (dating), so really, there are only a handful.

I don't recommend matching apps because they make you feel traumatized and worn out until you feel hopeless due to worry.

However, if the next person is kind,
First, it might be okay to meet up,

First of all, it's because it's a person from a matching app

If you keep in mind starting with 0 or a negative image

You might not be shocked.

You are not a product to be presented at a fair.

I'm looking for my partner,

If you don't have strong will and pride in a good sense

For years, it's just that my mind and body are used by men who don't understand why,

Your wonderful petals will also wither and fall apart.

In order for beautiful flowers to bloom all the time, draw a line and be somewhat alert without showing everything

Oh, is this guy?

It's about not moving cheaply until you have that feeling.

Don't be judged; try ruining your opponent.

Your view of the world will change 180 degrees.

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PostScript
I reacted too strongly to the words trauma and hopelessness.

It was really nice that they seemed to have solid ideas.

Of course, even among matching apps, there are people who are honest.

I was also able to understand the feeling of wanting to start spinning from the beginning of an encounter.

I pray that it will be a wonderful love affair.

I read it.
You've been deeply hurt by not being in a relationship with such a terrible person. I feel so understanding that you feel so anxious about new encounters. I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
I feel like I understand that you would be traumatized after breaking up with someone like that.
I think it was very painful for you to be told terrible things by that person, and I think breaking up was the right answer. So please take care of yourself first.
You're an irreplaceable and important person, aren't you?
First of all, please take care of yourself. Please take care of yourself and heal yourself. Please try to slowly heal your mind and body and live every day with even a little peace of mind rather than unnecessarily seeking new encounters.

So don't be in a hurry. You will eventually meet someone new. And I think you've grown an eye for people in this case as well. You will think about what is important as a person, what kind of people it is desirable to be in a relationship with, and what kind of people you want to live with, and decide what kind of relationships you want to be in a relationship with in the future.
It certainly can be traumatic, but in order to protect yourself and survive your precious life, please cultivate an eye for looking at people by referring to this time.

I sincerely pray that you will be healed and recovered both mentally and physically, and that you will be blessed with truly wonderful encounters and relationships in the future, sincerely respect each other with your loved ones, and live a rich and fulfilling life with compassion.
And I will support you from the bottom of my heart. We wholeheartedly agree

That was a terrible opponent. If you have painful experiences or sad feelings, you'll be afraid of meeting people, and you won't be able to trust people.

When anyone is hurt like that, they are wary to act. But that was also an important reminder. Many people don't direct such malice at people, and they probably strive to find comfort in each other.

It's not your fault, it's just that your partner was an uncaring, horrible person. Also, without being misled only by kind words, let's equip you with crisis management skills so that if you feel uncomfortable or resistant from the other person's behavior, you can take the courage to tell them that you want them to stop, and act away.

No matter what kind of encounter you have, keep your guard tight and protect your body until you feel a clear identity or peace of mind. Know that there are risks for women, such as illness and pregnancy, so let's see through people who take that into consideration.

Thanks for your question, I felt like they received it very well. I wish you a good experience and a wonderful romance in the future.