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Dear consultant, I appreciate that you have had such a painful day that your heart is being torn.

In Buddhism, there is the word “bow”. This means taking the plunge and letting go of the obsessions and worries that are firmly held in your heart.

You have been in a relationship while feeling sorry so as not to destroy your family. However, infidelity is an illegal act in the first place, and it is a dangerous path where you could be sued by your partner's spouse. On top of that, his new betrayal and irresponsible words “why scum” are nothing but “bad relationships” that drag you further into suffering.

I painfully understand the feeling of “I love you and there's nothing you can do about it,” but there are times in life that don't go the way you want. Why don't you take his other affair as “the last chance to break the bad relationship” the Buddha gave him?

Now is the time to let go of your regrets and anger towards him. By breaking up once and for all, you can only avoid a quagmire situation involving your partner's family. By letting go of bad relationships and creating a new space in your heart, new “good relationships” will surely circulate in order to look forward. Please take care of your own life first.

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Engiji Temple Shakujo

I read it.
I was able to read your feelings. I feel I can understand very well that you feel that way. I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.

You still love that person very much, don't you? I feel your deep love, anger, hatred, kindness, and curse. It's so natural for you to feel that way. You have an affectionate desire for that person, and you're probably very attached to it. I think the feeling that maybe I want to kill him even more will spring up.

If you want to get away from that suffering, break up a relationship with that person; abandon that person altogether. Otherwise you think it would be very difficult for you to look ahead and live. This is because it is too difficult for you to live alone while carrying suffering.

You probably won't be able to escape that suffering forever if you go out with that person. That person will probably repeat the same mistakes from now on. That person is probably an addict, so it will involve an unspecified number of people. If you do that, it will become even more difficult. Or the risk of various diseases will increase for you as well.

Please take care of yourself. Let's stop misdeeds and let go of bad relationships.
I sincerely pray that you will be able to move away from such bad relationships, let go of your obsessions, and live your life peacefully and peacefully. We wholeheartedly agree

Please contact us, Haru.

My friend of 30 years had an affair for 3 years.

Another affair partner has been discovered.

There are a lot of men in the world who say it's okay to have an affair if you don't notice it.

Instead of saying hello, there are also people who have physical relationships.

My will is weak.
But all of this can't be helped.
Sex addiction is a disease.
I say it's a sex addiction myself.

As long as there is nothing superfluous about this disease, really, anyone can deal with it.
It is far beyond women's imagination.
Also, I'm not being offended.

So if you meet a woman who will give you a break, you won't miss it.

I feel like I've been waiting.

If he still likes you and there's nothing you can do about it, that's what he wants.

No matter how you punish them, they just make another woman.

Speaking of staying close to me, I'll be there for the rest of my life.

Please also think about your body, such as uterine fibroids.

Take care of yourself.

He's not love.

Even if you put love on something that is nothing but exercise from the other side, it's just empty.

Please think about it carefully.

What should I do to look forward? There is such a thing.

If there is one thing I can say, this carnal desire, like being on drugs or alcohol

If I can get out, now is the only time.

The relationship, which had been around for 30 years, made me let my guard down that it would be okay to have an affair, and they continued. I was not limited to the feeling that I only needed to meet, but I was so addicted to it that it was hard to leave, and I even had a desire for exclusivity when it was just my own person.

He may be bad, but so are you. Having an affair even though he has a real wife is probably a kind of sex addiction, and he is aware that he is scum. Since there is such cleanliness, it may also be possible to say that they had an affair.
You also had an adulterous relationship while getting to know him for 30 years, so it's a vicious nuisance to his family.

I think it's fine to do whatever you like about adult circumstances and adult romance, but it also means paying the price. Even with this pain, when you are in a position where you can't have a monopoly on him in the first place, you know that there are other affair partners, and hatred has swelled up to this point. People like that aren't suited to have an affair.

“We have been dating while feeling sorry so as not to destroy our family”
If that's true, why don't you just throw him away and don't hate him like this? Divide it as just an affair partner or a playful partner.

But I got serious. Or did they misunderstand that only they were loved the most? It means that you, too, were selfish. If his wife were to say it, she would think so.

It seems tough, but you haven't been sanctioned by society yet. Think of it as just going back to work, environment, life, and before he wasn't there. If you get into shambles, you'll lose all of this, and you'll also be billed for alimony. You're not at that stage right now, are you?

Let's break up thinking this situation was saved.
There is always an end to an affair. That's what it is.

“I like it, I like it, there's nothing I can do about it, but I feel like my partner keeps a bit of a distance.”
This is him who still wants to continue the relationship. Once you're addicted to this scum guy, there's nothing you can do about it. If you want to look forward, there's only one answer. Let's delete all his contacts and evidence, and break off contact.

What will happen to a wife if she knows the fact that her husband is having an affair with multiple people? It's terrifying. What do you do when you can't live in this society anymore?
Let's be aware that we've done that much, and break up as soon as possible.

I want you to have a romantic relationship where you can feel excited and be blessed by those around you.