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I'm tired of life

 Nice to meet you, I'm a man in my mid 30s.
Currently, I have a regular job, a lover, and friends (I'm not thinking about getting married)
I don't think it's a particularly disadvantaged environment, but I'm getting bored with my life.

It's not going well, but it's not “hopeless,” it's “boredom.” The peak for both humans and males in terms of age has passed, and the most enjoyable period has passed.
Is there no choice but to live well for the rest of my life, spend my old age well, and die well?

As an analysis in my own way.
I was relatively blessed when I was young, enjoyed romance and play many times more than others,
There are “things I want to do,” but there are no “things I want to do.”
I don't have a wife or children, so I don't have anything to protect, and I don't want to actively get married, which will hinder my death in the future.

My parents are alive and well now, so I have a feeling that they will take good care of them until the end of their lives, but after sending them out, I think they will really lose the meaning of living.

If the best period has passed, I can't help but seem like there won't be much of a difference between dying in a few decades and dying tomorrow.

5 Zen Responses

When is the best time?

Thank you very much for your question, YT.

I feel rather envious when you say that there is nothing “wrong to do.”

But there are “things I want to do.”

Humans certainly have a feeling of “getting bored.”

They probably think they can't take their place even if they're alive.

In the old language, “get bored” is a word used for the thought of “feeling fully satisfied.”

When it became normal to think “sufficient” and “satisfied,” they probably became “bored.”

Humans live in relationships.

If we have a different relationship from now, wouldn't we also be able to see a life we haven't gotten tired of?

Please look at various things from a slightly different point of view.

Live by reducing something

The feeling of being satisfied is important.
But what happens if you stay satisfied forever
you'll become obese like me... orz

What I've been trying to do recently is “reduce one by one”
That's it.
Leave out something important to you.
I don't watch TV, videos, etc. with my favorite snacks
I'm living that kind of life. What can be reduced is steadily decreasing.
Then, it quickly becomes inconvenient.

Actually, the internet environment has also been decreasing for a while.
It was extremely inconvenient!!

But thanks to that, what is important to me
I felt like I understood.
It's something only you can find on your own.
That's because what's important to me and what's important to you must be completely different.
Incidentally, it wasn't money or anything (good. (As a boy, that was good)

Everyone in your family is taken care of, and your life
I hope it will be Yutaka.
good luck. good luck.
Gassho

How did you know when it was the happiest time?

How did you know when it was the happiest time?
That might be your assumption.
Isn't it only when you're about to die that you understand it?
If you have a wife or children, it might be the most enjoyable time to be with your family.
Only the Buddha knows the future of this world.

Instead of thinking about the future or the past
Why don't you take another look at who you are now?

Today I live may be tomorrow for someone who wanted to live longer

YT-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

First of all, in Buddhism, there is no life or death. In other words, it's immortality. As stated in the Heart Sutra, it means “immortality,” but we have dealt with “immortality” in the following questions until now, so please take a look.

http://blog.livedoor.jp/hasunoha_kawaguchi/tag/不生不滅

Also, by all means, I hope you can give us your thoughts on what kind of content is “immortal and immortal” explained in the Heart Sutra, or the “eight no” (immortal, constant, abnormal, undifferent, indistinguishable, not coming, not going away), which is explained by Dragon Tree Daishi at the beginning of his “middle theory.”

Also, “the meaning of life” has been dealt with in the following questions until now, but in fact, “there is no meaning of living.”

http://blog.livedoor.jp/hasunoha_kawaguchi/tag/生きる意味

However, as a supplement so as not to cause misunderstandings, the above needs to be written in parentheses, and since “there is no life or death (as an entity)” and “there is no meaning of living (as an entity),” “there is life and death (as luck),” and “there is a meaning of life (as luck).”

By all means, I know that if you learn Buddhism by considering these differences, you will be able to explore the view of life and death without getting bored.

Day by day, I want to live in this impermanent world where the same moment never happens again, every new day, and moment to the fullest without regrets.

Kariyushi 58 “Owari Hajimari”
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iOh6Sy7dXTo&list=RDiOh6Sy7dXTo#t=61

Finally, I'll also quote a verse from the lyrics of Kariyushi 58 “Goodbye.”

“Today I live may be tomorrow for someone who wanted to live longer”

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

I'll get bored if I only do things about myself

It's a bit bitter to say, but I'm probably the only one who came up with me.
I think they came here to benefit and satisfy themselves no matter what was done.
Of course, I don't think you were really aware of it.
Self-interest, selfishness, selfishness.
When humans try to live faithfully as their desires for life are unknowingly and unknowingly, emptiness boils up.
Your emptiness is proof that you are human. It's an SOS signal to stop my selfish lifestyle. A way of life steeped in selfishness inevitably becomes non-religious, inhumane = animalistic. Therefore, a sense of religion to live higher is necessary.
It's a desire for better humanity. It can be said that it is a natural Bodhi heart. When the Buddha was young, he was also a monk and prince Sama, so he was so blessed that he had nothing to get for himself, and he was in vain.
Even if you get involved with people, there's probably a risk that you'll lose something somewhere.
Your own ideals have taken precedence.
It's not an attitude of learning from facts; it's just cooling off by competing with one's own ideals.
Aren't you dissatisfied with your fears and insecurities that you haven't faced in a place 5 centimeters deep where you say you're empty or empty?
Maybe it's my self that others didn't understand,
The self that I keep in touch with others at some distance
My self being oppressed by my parents,
My self hurt by something... I don't know what applies, but I think you know it best. The proselytism of Buddhism and altruism are neither fictional nor ideal.
As you deepen your way of life, sooner or later it will naturally happen.
There is a way of life that makes the other person happy, and a way of life that makes the other person happy.
Instead of benefiting yourself, there is a way of life where you benefit others, and a way of life where you can be useful for others. Your fresh start is about this question.
I think people who sympathize with your question will read this and someone else's “thank you” will be added.
It's a small step, but we should be able to make a big change in direction from there.
Please make use of your experience to live a way of life that is useful to others.
Live better and be a better self.
To that end, try to find a truly satisfying life by awakening a sense of bodhicism and a sense of seeking direction.