This is a temple bride. My husband is on an affair trip.

Do you protect individuals or protect your home?

Hello Mizu.

Please allow outfielders with different purposes and different regions to make selfish statements.

The outside is nice, but my family just has a hard time.
I'm sorry for the patience you've been putting up with until now.
On the other hand, since he is a monk who can't become a Buddha, I can't deny that he has a human-smelling part.
Regardless of denomination, I think there are several cases of monks getting divorced and remarried.

As you can see from the text, in the case of Mizu, her parents-in-law are on their side.
If you think about being in a temple, wouldn't you be able to create a more specific path if you could talk to the disciple officers?

Looking at the attitude of the current husband, maybe my parents-in-law also have a feeling that they can't entrust the temple to them.
Maybe there is a part where I think it's better to entrust the children to take care of them than to raise your husband again.

I get the impression that time has passed until now without realizing that the habit that my husband has done until now disregards the “things that Mizu and her parents-in-law cherish” that they think are “important as a temple.”

Whether or not to enter a temple is largely determined by the intentions of each denomination and the current chief priest and head priest.
I think it would be reassuring for the parishioners to take Mizu's side too.

However, the husband's conversion is the best way to build a temple, and leaving Mizu and her heir's children may be the next best thing.

Let's practice at another temple for about 20 years until the habit of cheating gets over!!
Maybe the point of compromise is that my parents-in-law say that.

I hope that the burden on Mizu's heart will be lightened.

Hello Mizu!
You're having a really hard time, aren't you?

Now, it is possible for the owner to leave the temple and Mizu to remain at the temple, which is the implementation of the temple.
The question is who will be the next chief priest, right?
The options are
a. Husband's brother
B.mizu's child
C.mizu's remarriage partner
D.mizu himself
e. Others
Is it a place like this?
With A.E., I think it would be difficult for Mizu to get to the temple.
If it's a denomination where even women can become the chief priest, you might say that for now, you should prepare so that Mizu can become the chief priest and wait for your child to grow up.
Anyway, I think Mizu's adoption by her parents-in-law is the first step in protecting Mizu's self. In this way, not only will inheritance rights from parents-in-law occur legally, but since they are treated as children of the temple, there will be no problems when Mizu or Mizu's remarriage partner become the chief priest.
Why don't you talk to your parents-in-law?

Thank you for taking the plunge and consulting with us.
Other than that, I think there are many people who have the same problems.
It's hard for a temple bride to raise her voice, so I hope this question will support such people.

thank

I don't think it's enough just to be told by family members.
Perhaps my husband's biggest problem is coming to light.
Why don't you take the plunge and ask your parish, people you have relationships with, people who are teachers, and people like that?
The following is a conversation with my husband that presupposes divorce
If communication remains imperfect, it will only cause each other to suffer later.
It is necessary to understand each other's actions so that both parties are satisfied.
I simply cheated on you, unforgivable! Instead, I think it is necessary to calmly understand my husband's actions and motives in order not to leave behind a source of envy or disgrace. Of course, selfishness is selfishness.
What is your husband looking for?
Simply speaking of selfishness and desire, that kind of humanity is enough.
It is said that cheating is not 100 to zero.
I gave up 100 steps, and I think there are probably complaints against you.
I'm not blaming you for this. Of course, the bad one is my husband who betrayed his family and had an affair.
However, I think it is necessary for the questioner to understand the motives for his actions in order not to become angry, displeased, or hurt himself in the future.
The female side, who is the husband's wife, used to be lovers, but as soon as they became a mother, the mother was chased by child-rearing and housework, and the husband lost his lover. I think the pattern of asking for a lover from another woman because you can't get that lost ❝ lover ❞ even if you ask for a wife, and that is an affair is a pattern of most cheating in the world.
The questioner himself gives up 100 steps (tax included), affirms his own faults, and does his best.
People are able to correct their collar only because they have the brightness and illumination of other people's eyes.
I think it would be better to gratefully accept my father-in-law's offer.
Wouldn't it be fine for the prodigal son, who is the husband to be the heir or successor candidate for the next temple, to take the form of kanto from his father, who is his father-in-law? I'm going to ask them to become my father's apprentice.
If you have any questions, please email us anonymously.
I pray for the children's peace of mind.

I was born and raised in a temple, and my parents are divorced
I know if I can express my opinion from the standpoint of Mizu's child, so I would like to say a few words.

My parents' divorce helped me a lot since I was in college.
And I'm glad. Right now, we are both on a happy path.
I was also able to take a bird's-eye view of things to some extent, so I was able to handle it.

What if I got divorced when I was in elementary school or middle school
I think they probably didn't come to this point of view, and they had a strong grudge against either of them.
While noticing that parents are having trouble with each other
The fact that I grew up being loved by both of them has become a huge asset for me.

I am grateful that my mother was generous to her children.
I am grateful that my father had a strong back for his child.

When I express my gratitude to my mother for giving birth and raising me, she comes back saying, “It's natural as a mother.”
It's a moment where I always feel like it won't come true.

It's an answer from a “child” point of view, and I don't know if it's for Mizu
I hope you can refer to it as an experience story.

　It's OK for eagles to get divorced, but in cases like this, children are thought of as heirs, so it's a case where the child is taken in at the temple and I go back to my parents' house. But your parents, or rather the chief priest? I think I was blessed with a really good relationship with someone who understood, but for now, when my husband comes back from that trip, let's have a family meeting. Please let the child sleep. I think your will is firm, so it would be wise to take your parents on your side and proceed with the conversation.
If you stand on your husband's side, Mrs. Teraniwa (the wife of the temple) is like that, and it's not like she's destroying her family and her followers. I think it's your fault for looking at your phone without permission.
If you ask me, they've never had a hard time with money, and they probably go to entertainment districts frequently to have fun. There are serious monks in the world, but even if you say it's a temple, he is the owner of a small company, so that son can't help but be called the prodigal son no matter what. If it's for children, I think one option is to maintain this temple with the feeling that you control it based on your husband's personality.

Mizu-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

I've already seen your thanks... it looks like you've gotten sick, and I sincerely apologize for the inconvenience...

Anyway, please rest your mind and body well first, calm down a bit, and then move towards a good place.

However, it is said that my husband continues to break the “Fornication Commandment” even though he is a monk... it is extremely unfortunate.

Regarding “Fornication,” we have also answered each of the following questions.

http://blog.livedoor.jp/hasunoha_kawaguchi/tag/不邪淫戒

Among them, we have also received the following questions about monks.

Question “I was confessed by a monk”
http://blog.livedoor.jp/hasunoha_kawaguchi/archives/1013595169.html

Anyway, not only does adultery lead to one's own destruction, but it can also cause a great deal of inconvenience to those around you, so I really think it's something we should strictly refrain from.

However... this time, it seems that the master who deals with Buddhism has lacked that awareness quite a bit...

If there is sincere remorse, apology, sincerity, and redemption, I know there are things that cannot be forgiven, but... that may also be difficult at the moment...

Also, if the cause of an affair or infidelity is dissatisfaction or stress due to a temple (work), relationship or feud with parents, etc., it may be possible that it will disappear due to that improvement, but if it is a slightly personality or mental illness problem, as my parents-in-law say “dual personality,” I think it may be necessary to consider another improvement policy (psychosomatic counseling, etc.).

There may also be various concerns about children and future lives, etc., so I think it would be nice if discussions were made for the right place through a third party (head of the family or lawyer, etc.) while consulting with parents-in-law who have a good understanding after recovering.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho