Should I announce to people around me that my son has autism

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Kumakuma-sama

“I can't believe I'm hiding it!” What is
It would be nice if the teacher could also be a little more careful with each other.

Maybe it's better to change your perspective a little
Now is an important time for adults to arrange their children's school life

And Kumakuma
First, with someone who has an autistic child
It might be a good idea to actively come into contact

My son has the same mild developmental disorder called ADHD as me
The diagnosis was made a few months ago
Since they are involved, children's disabilities have been examined since they were young
I was telling people around me that there is a possibility of a developmental disability

At the beginning of enrollment, teachers and parents of classmates
I still don't understand it, and problems have occurred frequently
My child entered my friend's house's site without permission
The parents in that house suddenly rushed me all the way to the house
“Wouldn't it be better to do something a little more to fix the kid?”
There were times when I was told
There is no end to when I start telling you something like this

anyway, keep in touch with the teacher on a daily basis
Especially when it's not easy to calm down
I also went to class and participated with the face of a temporary teacher

Now I'm in 4th grade
Rest assured that there are so many understanding people at school
Can now be sent out
(Fights and bullying often occur, so we frequently listen to children and cooperate with schools to respond in the early stages.)

First, I wonder if it's okay for Kumakuma to find a proper counselor (ally) within the school
If your homeroom teacher doesn't seem to be good, even if it's a special grade teacher
I think it's fine whether it's the vice-principal or the principal

And the point of saying hide don't hide

What is bullying
I feel like it's more likely to occur if people around you think it's “normal”
My friend thinks it's normal and I try to communicate, but I feel that it's not “normal”
If that gap accumulates, it means that there are opportunities for bullying to occur everywhere

in my case
I'm not hiding that I'm involved
I also try not to hide my son
It's so much easier mentally

Incidentally, I always try to teach my son, “I have an amazing brain that is completely different from humans.” (laughs)

I'm so sorry~
It's not a sermon at all, is it

Then, this book
If you like it, it's in most libraries, so please read it

With the Light... -Holding an Autistic Child-

Gassho

Kumekume-sama
You're worried about your son, and I'm guessing it's a pain.
You're on the autism spectrum, and you have a disability that people around you can't understand.
I'm a little picky, and I'm hyperactive. You have that kind of personality, don't you think?
In conclusion, I don't think it's necessary to forcibly announce it in the first year of elementary school and lower grades.
You will be able to accept your child's disability and when the time comes when you are satisfied, you will be able to say that it is natural.
There is an advantage of being able to get detailed support by enrolling in a special grade,
There's no such thing as “hiding that you're a special grade is disrespectful to special grade kids.”
I think the reason teachers bathe biased language is because the teachers themselves don't understand children with disabilities very well.
If you have trouble understanding a teacher, I think it's a good idea to talk to other teachers.
Please clearly communicate your thoughts to the teacher and walk along while cooperating with each other.
It's also good to talk to your senior's mom without worrying about it alone.
The way will open up.

There's a slight difference between not publishing it and actively hiding it.
If you actively hide, chances are you'll have to lie.
In terms of Buddhism, lying is not good, so please make it an environment where you don't have to lie.
Note that the Buddhist term “not good” means becoming a source of trouble and suffering.

Perhaps the teacher has a duty of confidentiality, and if the mother doesn't disclose it, she may have to lie to other children in order to hide the child's disability.
It can be difficult for teachers to lie to children.

　First of all, I'm really sorry, but I think it will be published, so please let me write it in a wrapped manner in an oblate, sorry.

First, I think it's important for parents to do the best they can.
For reference, I'll show you what my wife and I have done as far as I can remember.
Guidance and consultation with Dakko Law, psychologists, and specialized teachers through the connection between language classrooms and language classrooms. University education consultations, specialized hospitals, intensive parenting training (this is my wife), guidance and consultation with the child minister, lectures as much as possible, workshops, participation in various meetings for developmental disabilities, children's services...
At the kindergarten stage, the teacher in the language classroom explained the characteristics, way to treat our child, and precautions twice to the principal, and homeroom teacher, but the director didn't understand it, so they visited various places, and transferred to the nursery school where they understood the most, and added 1 teacher here.
As for choosing an elementary school, I first went to discussions with the school district and elementary school outside the school district, enrolled in special support for the elementary school outside the school district that I understood the most (I borrowed the address of an acquaintance and was forced to change the school district), and after entering, my academic ability was rather, slightly superior, so I increased the proportion of regular classes halfway through the class (at first, a special needs teacher followed me).
At the same time, thankfully at school, people involved with our child gathered together and held a conference 2 or 3 times at night at elementary school, and discussed understanding and class and school policies with the principal, vice-principal, chief, special needs officer, and homeroom teacher of the commuter class, and put them into practice.
My child is an Aspie and is now a college student.
I think there are still a lot of things I haven't finished writing or that I've forgotten, but I did everything I could at that point. Surprisingly, there are many ways to get along.
I've been in the baseball club since the 1st year, and there were a lot of hard problems both in class and in the baseball club. But each time, I had discussions with my teachers, related teachers, and parents with developmental disabilities.
You should let your children know little by little as they grow, and at school, it would be ideal if you could tell them little by little things that children are not good at through lots of discussions, and use them in reverse for education, leading to everyone's understanding. We were lucky enough to be able to do that. There are many similar people in the world, and it is said that the number continues to increase, so it's necessary, isn't it?