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Please tell me

My father-in-law, who had been estranged for many years, passed away at the hospital this month. It's been 10 years since I moved into the home... my relationships were completely out of control, and my life was just stuck in my shell.

I visited the body, wearing a special mask and guard clothes for tuberculosis bacteria carriers.
I wanted to donate my body even before I was alive.
However, we were only puzzled by the sudden death, so at that time, we said, “There's no way for you to burn incense while wearing a guard apron or mask, so when your bones come back, let's have a farewell party.”
I was taken straight from the hospital to the university hospital.

I told my relatives that it will take the form of a body donation as soon as the bones are returned (farewell party), so thank you for your support at that time...

But I regret not taking the method of donating my body... after having a wake or funeral. I bought a cemetery 20 years ago for graves, but I don't know any monks.
Is it OK for ceremonies etc. at the time of the ossuary? I have absolutely no idea what to do about the kaima and the rest of the future. Could you give me some advice...

4 Zen Responses

Let's pray for the peace of the Spirit

 There are many funerals for those who donate their bodies at our mountain.
The basic flow is not much different from a general funeral, but the difference is that the body is handed over to a research facility without going to the crematorium, and then returned as bones a few years later.
In your case, there was also a problem with Mycobacterium tuberculosis, and we were unable to follow the procedure to send it to you, but even if it is not a body donation, there are many cases of lonely deaths.
Future methods are as follows.

1. Without the body, as usual, only a wake, a funeral, and a memorial service for up to 100 days, or a funeral will be held in search of the commandment name.
After the bones are returned 2 years later, a funeral is held in search of the commandment.
3. After the bones have returned, a memorial service is held and the bones are buried.

The most common one on this mountain is (1).
Also, some people ask for the commandment name and are told, “Please keep a memorial service anyway.”
If you hold the image of a body being treated at a research facility and don't do a cultural act to send it away, feelings of incomprehension may remain for a long time.
There is also a religious viewpoint about whether it is possible to attain Buddhism without being given guidance (India) from the Buddha to separate this world from the other world, and setting a division by specific acts is necessary both for the deceased and for the bereaved family.
Mibutsu is a Buddha precisely because he saves people regardless of who they choose, and at this mountain, they perform the practices required by everyone regardless of religious denomination, regardless of religious denomination, including whether the deceased or bereaved families needed the kaima or not, without distinction.
In addition to the need for a farewell ceremony to be announced socially, what is more important than anything else is a funeral where guidance is given to those who have passed away.
Please consider the difference between a wedding reception and a wedding where you swear in front of the Buddha.
There is no problem with the number of participants at all, and it is not uncommon for funerals to be sent by only a few people.
We recommend that you search for a temple somewhere and practice the act of burial along with human history.
Let's lean on the Buddha and pray for the well-being of the Spirit who made the noble decision to donate his body.

Cherish the relationship with the Buddha.

In the Jodo Shinshu sect, I perform Buddhist rituals so that I can listen to Buddhism when I am alive, using the lives of loved ones as an opportunity.
Having a funeral is very precious, so please cherish your relationship with the Buddha.
I would like to thank my father-in-law for being an opportunity to come into contact with Buddhism.

Specifically, first of all, I think it would be a good idea to consult with a temple near you.
Depending on the denomination, the path to attaining Buddhism is completely different.
However, the style of the Buddhist rituals they perform is similar and close to every denomination.

I hope you will meet a good temple and a good monk.