About funerals and denominations

Maika-sama
Nice to meet you, my name is Tetsuya Urakami from Nagomi-an, thank you for your support.

They say they grew up overseas and don't have a good understanding of Japanese religion and Buddhism.
Even within Japan, there are various customs depending on the region, so it is natural to think “I don't really understand” when compared with knowledge from overseas.
Also, even if you were born and raised in Japan, unless you are really interested in Buddhism, I don't think you are familiar with your family's denomination or the manners of that sect.
There are monks from almost all denominations and various regions in this hasunoha, so I think you can get a variety of answers if you ask here.

Aside from that, it's about your question.
I don't know the denomination of my grandparents, and their graves are unknown (don't you know even if you ask your parents?) That's it.
Also, it is said that their parents' generation did not become a temple parishioner.

In this kind of situation, I think it's a natural progression for Maika to choose the denomination she has in mind. Also, there is the term “family denomination,” but individual beliefs do not have to be bound by the family denomination. “When asked about denominations etc. at funerals, etc.,” I think it's okay to say what denomination you like.

However, if I go one step further, I don't think it's very good to ask the funeral home “I want to ask for a request in the ~~ sect” at the time of the funeral.
This is because a monk who just happened to come isn't necessarily a great monk. Of course, there is a possibility of “Atari,” but it is not recommended to gamble for an important once-in-a-lifetime ceremony. There is also no shortage of possibilities that “it wasn't this way.”

Therefore, on a regular basis, I should search for a temple called this, and a monk called this person and interact with them. You don't necessarily have to be a parishioner or a believer (there may be a decision depending on the temple).

If there is a temple of the denomination that Maika has in mind nearby, and if it holds puja, shakai, etc. for the general public, I think it would be a good idea to visit and take a look at the personalities of the monks.
Even if it's not being held, it would be nice if we could take a walk and talk. The hurdles may be a bit high, but if it's a temple that treats sudden visitors comfortably, I think it's a temple where you can feel safe.

If you have any further questions, please contact us (-person-)

　I would like to answer that there is no solicitation of eagles here, but as a premise, freedom of religion is recognized by the Japanese Constitution, so I recommend that you don't worry about it and choose from various religions, not limited to Buddhism.
At that time, we do not recommend searching for nearby temples, churches, or religious institutions as much as possible. Please start by visiting Motoyama and sacred places. Religion does not exist for funerals. It's for your own faith. Please feel that you are yourself, even if your family is of a different religion. From now on, we will enter an age where faith is the same as cars and TVs, and not just one for families, but one for individuals. Believers are becoming the same as individual memberships and credit cards from their families. The number of such people is increasing even in my neighborhood.
As an adverse effect, funerals are held in cooperation with community associations, but the number of people who refuse even that and end up with their relatives is increasing. The relationship between funerals and religion is already becoming tenuous. This may be an adverse effect of having a religion as an individual, but there is no problem if the person feels at ease.
Please enjoy your faith to the fullest without worrying about funerals or graves. Then find a religion that supports your heart. Various obstacles and barriers come up there. Then post your questions here again. We look forward to seeing you.

　In a case like yours, the most important thing is choosing a monk to become a mentor. It's the same as seriously choosing medicine or a doctor with all your heart that you want to cure when you have an illness. There's no way anyone is good.
Also, no matter what form the reception takes, at the wedding, you must have a pure and compassionate heart that pledges to make happy not only those who become companions, but also invisible people such as Buddha gods and ancestors, and in some cases even to nature and the future. If that is the case, when honoring the lives of people who have done their best in this world and left for the other world, you should be unable to help but do as much as possible with the sincerity of wanting them to go to a world of peace of mind, no matter what the farewell ceremony is like.
Who to choose as the funeral mentor is an important scene where the views of people who stand in a position to send and those who were aware of their position to be sent during their lifetime are questioned.
If possible, I'd like to meet them. Alternatively, check the website etc. to see what kind of temple, what kind of chief priest, with what beliefs and policies, and what kind of legal affairs.
If it's in a black box, it's a problem. In the first place, temples do not belong to the chief priest or denomination; they are public institutions, and if there is recognition of that, information should have been disclosed.
Also, of course, temples that do not hold funerals unless they become parishioners or pay expensive alms are also a problem. The principal image, no matter who the opponent is, is the Umi Buddha who saves without choosing anyone, and temples must not brush away with convenient conditions.
Now, the way to become a Buddhist is clear. It's about devotion to the Buddhist monk's Three Treasures. If you feel reverent in front of the principal image, feel a deep sense of reason in his teachings, and respect monks who are about to become Bodhisattvas, and people who work hard for others like Bodhisattvas, then you are a great Buddhist.
Becoming a parishioner or offering expensive alms is not proof of being a Buddhist. The only requirement is whether or not you genuinely care for a Buddhist monk.
Visiting a temple will inevitably feel like a hassle. However, if you imagine the seriousness of looking for a doctor or choosing a wedding venue, there's nothing you can't do. First, let's look it up on the internet. Then, if you check it in your own way, you will find a temple open as an original public instrument, and great peace of mind will surely await you.

It's not a stupid question.
It's very important (^^)

Today, various religions are mixed in Japan.
Faith is of course free, so you can choose your own religion.
I think it's good to read books and try studying, and I think it's also good to visit temples and religious institutions.

Of course, each monk is a believer in each denomination.
I'm a monk because I'm attracted to that denomination.
“What is fascinating about this religion?” I recommend asking a simple question.

Maika-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

Basically, there is “freedom of religion,” as Mr. Otetsu has already mentioned, so the freedom of each individual should be respected in choosing a religion or religious denomination, but I think it is important to be aware and responsible for being firmly convinced and involved with religion or religious denomination rather than being free about anything.

In the case of Buddhism in particular, there is a strong philosophical aspect of practical thought. I believe we should never have blind or blind faith. In order to thoroughly learn and practice Shakyamuni's numerous teachings of good, clever, and convenient, I think it would not be good if we could start by outlining the teachings of Buddhism as a whole, basic laws, and basic doctrines of each religious denomination, etc., and then gradually decide from that. Also, if you want to learn other doctrines from among them, I think that's fine at all.

Jusei himself is still in the process of studying a wide range of topics, from Theravada (early fundamentalism) to Tibetan esoteric Buddhism.

Now, as a supplement, the following is a supplement, but with regard to funerals and denominations, I have briefly summarized the essentials of funerals for each denomination in my own way in the following humble discussion, so I hope you can take a look.

“About funerals” Heisei 26/8/Obon handouts
http://blog.goo.ne.jp/hidetoshi-k/e/0816eb5e788bf5ecfc8eed8e901b1a76

Also, I think the following humble answers so far may be slightly helpful.

Question “About funerals and conversions”
http://blog.livedoor.jp/hasunoha_kawaguchi/archives/1006716402.html

Question “Can I change the monk?”
http://blog.livedoor.jp/hasunoha_kawaguchi/archives/1006677441.html

Truly, I also know that the Buddha relationship and the Dharma marriage are also things. I pray that Maika will have good guidance from the Buddha.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho