On marriage with Islam

Neither one is wrong, and both are correct!
If you kick your right heart and his right heart, you'll get an incorrect answer.

What if you were oppressed by him for the doctrine of Islam?
Conversely, even if he doesn't say Buddhism, if he conveys other doctrinal ideas, it's probably inevitable that he will fight back!

Religion must be driven by one's own mind!

Either your heart will move, or he will!

Making decisions is my life, but compassion is important. Thinking about the impact on your family and those around you is unavoidable.
Try simulating how to calmly think about the future after getting married.
Until now, you grew up with your parents' habits and thoughts as a Japanese person.
Your heart right now is a romantic feeling of likes and dislikes. Marriage is a true heart, a heart that “loves everything,” and whether or not there is a heart that accepts it.

It's a major crossroads of choices.
Taking him means taking his God too. In other words, it means making a contract with a contract religion. This would be tantamount to an undeveloped world for many Japanese people. Buddhism is a basic precept and is self-centered. Shinto has 8 million gods, and there are no particular restrictions. We Japanese people, so-called Japanese religion, is too liberal and defenseless against foreign religions. Therefore, I feel that entering his religion will force him to undergo a major change equal to reincarnation. This is my selfish imagination. As it was written in the sentence, his religion is being studied, so I think I have an understanding on his desk. However, religion is life. I wonder if you can put this into practice.

The Buddhist teachings that persuade him are probably to get him to join Buddhism. I don't think that's particularly true. Buddhism basically doesn't reject what comes and doesn't chase what leaves, so I don't think it's possible if he doesn't think so himself.

I think the difference in character between contract religion and religion that is not a contract religion is quite large. It would be nice if we could acknowledge that we are different from each other and that we can penetrate each other's beliefs...

One thing is clear: marriage with people of contract religion is a set with God. I understand why there are so many believers.

> They are ordinary Japanese people who celebrate Christmas, go on their first pilgrimage, and exorcise evil spirits.
> I want to do religious events as a Japanese person, such as visiting graves and Shichigosan.

Actually, it is very problematic to collectively group people who live with the religious views described above as “Japanese people.”

I live my life with Buddhism as my sole foundation, but how do you feel about the way people live like that?
Do you feel like a narrow-minded person who denies Christmas, Hatsumode, and Shichigasan? A slightly bad person who falls in love with shukyo? Other people are strangers, so I wonder if it doesn't matter.

Do you yourself have feelings of respect for his faith?
If you want to cherish him, I feel like trying to persuade him to compromise is a little different.

Even if it's insignificant to him, it's an important “way of life” for him and others.
If you can't respect his Islamic faith, he may surely feel denied his precious way of life.

> I think that if religion goes back to the beginning, there was only one religion, so everyone should get along well.

> He just doesn't disobey what God says, and everything else is a very kind, compassionate, and wonderful guy.

Words like those above hurt him deeply. Islam, Buddhism, shrines, and the emerging religion ○○ are originally the same, aren't they? There are always people who click when you say that.
Isn't it too convenient to hope that he will choose to marry himself against his “sense of faith”?

In conclusion, maybe you just like his “part that is convenient for me.” Of course, it's up to you to decide whether to get married or not, so it doesn't matter at all.

In Buddhism, afflictions such as greed, anger, laziness, and pride are thought to be the cause of increasing one's own and others' worries and suffering.

The reason he can't abandon Islam is because of his pride.
It can't be helped.
At the very least, I want them to be careful about the anguish of anger.
If you get angry, even for God's sake, religion, or justice, you'll be unhappy.
If you get angry because of God, at least the person who is angry doesn't feel comfortable.

You'd better not expose yourself to his pride or anger and suffer a secondary disaster of misfortune.
Let's ask him to promise that he'll stop getting angry for God.
If he says it's natural to get angry because of God, it will be a stressor to your marriage in the future, so please make careful judgments.
By the way, isn't it because of the pain of greed, the pain of laziness, and the worry of pride that you want to marry him?
Let's check your own worries too.

Muslims also have various interpretations in countries, regions, groups, etc., and there are interpretations that their marriage partner must be Islam, Christianity, or Judaism, and there also seems to be an interpretation that Hinduism or Buddhism is fine depending on the person.

For now, how about using the fact that we have been Buddhists since generation after generation and the fact that Japan has freedom of religion as a shield?