About marital relationships and activities

The Buddha told us to “stop it.”
Just because you can make your life easier doesn't mean you can do it.
I am selfish in thinking that this would be good, but the Buddha said no good.

“Don't belittle evil. Even if it's a small leak, it will eventually become a big turbidity.”

These are the last words written on the evangelism bulletin board by an indigenous resident of my temple during his lifetime.

That would be good, I wouldn't mind this much. As a result of pampering themselves, there are more than a few foolish people who expand their desires and desires, overstep their lives, and make their families unhappy. As a result, the family fell apart. Drug addiction Drug addiction I became addicted to alcohol. I committed a criminal case and went to jail. I'm going to choose that kind of life. It looks like you're at that entrance right now.

As far as I know, the respondents on this site are close to the concerns and suffering of the questioner and are sincerely thinking about the answers.

Humans have desires as long as they live. I also have sexual desire. However, “even if you make friends with benefits, it's fine if you don't get caught.” I think it's okay to ignore questions of any level. However, the other day, he said, “I experienced a pilgrimage last fall because I wanted to change myself. There, as a stranger, I was encouraged and energized by many people who took care of me for entertainment etc.” You were expressing your impression. Let me say it as one of those who answered the question at that time.

“I wonder if the results of going to the pilgrims are like this. that's disrespectful to the master, isn't it? These are words and actions that trample on those who have given alms to you. Shame on you.”

Previously, I had an answer to someone stating that they were about to have an affair. Please also refer to the answers at the address below. http://hasunoha.jp/questions/541

What is a married couple?
They should be your only partner to walk through life together.

Isn't it largely due to your wife that you are who you are now?

Desire is not denied in the Shingon sect.
BUT! Don't get me wrong!!!
Don't leave desire as desire,
I'm saying let's raise the dimension of desire to a place of purity.

I don't think it's okay to betray your wife and have an affair.

It is just like animals that they let their instincts go wild.

Don't call it a master's relationship. (In the thank you section from the questioner, they said that the master was asking for help...)
I don't want to say this, but it is punishable.

The master is very caring and always guides people in the right direction.
If you do something wrong, I'll scold you loudly.
You will be harshly scolded for that.

You might think it, but it's true.
I think this is the mysterious place of Esoteric Buddhism.
I've actually seen a number of such situations.

If I want to be made to do what you say,
Please file for divorce from your wife, pay her a large amount of alimony so that she doesn't have trouble with her life for the rest of her life, and get divorced.

while being afraid.
Husband and wife are not part of their sexual desire; they look forward together
They are two companions to walk together.
It is said that they went to the pilgrimage,
At that time, the master was accompanying him,
An ordinary walk becomes a wife. It can be said that the wife is the master, so to speak.

It is said that what is wrong with directing sexual desire outward,
According to the Buddha's teachings, a sutra called Udhanavarga

“Fools are hurt when they come back in search of pleasure.
However, those who seek themselves in this world won't get hurt.
A fool harms others and himself because he earnestly pursues pleasure.”
There is such a thing.

It's natural to look outside as an outlet for greed.
because it's an animal.
However, humans created a society, lived within it, and were kept alive.

If you unknowingly seek an outlet for greed outside,
If it ends up hurting someone, and even yourself,
A person called the Buddha taught me things that are actually taken for granted.

Even more fearfully. Asking for something outside means
It's like saying “I'm thirsty” even when I'm in the water.
Even people with friends with benefits that you say you were will eventually get bored.
That's because as long as what you want is always outside, you'll be thirsty.

So I'm looking for even more friends with benefits. ask for it.
The rest is like it's already in newspapers and internet news
The results are self-evident.

What you really want is “yourself.”
There's no way anyone else can be satisfied.

If you let go, your hands will be full.
There's something you really want where you've let go of everything.
you and, ma'am,
May the people you meet be at peace.
whoa whoa whoa. We clasps.

Fukukuru-sama.

It seems morally useless, but I'm not satisfied with my heart just because of right and wrong.
I got that impression.

In the text, isn't your own desire stronger than the “care for others” you should have received during your pilgrimage?

Greed becomes a source of contention.
Buddhism is not about strengthening greed, but rather about letting go of greed and obsession.
Why do we seek sexual desire?
What do I want to be satisfied with by seeking sexual desire?
I wonder why my wife satisfies what corresponds to her own sexual desire.
You must have a firm answer for that.

If you have the impression that they are continuing their marital relationship only because of an outlet for sexual desire, it is a situation where Fukukuru may deny the preciousness of Fukukuru's life up until now.

I think there is a range of allowable relationships for elementary school students, love for middle school students, and romance for high school students.
How much is cheating, and how serious is it?
To what extent was it recognized by people around them for being treated as friends who rejoiced along with Buddhism, and how much went beyond what was acceptable to the wife, and did people around them use Buddhism for simple dating communication?

As I've told you before, the heart is not only compassion and kindness, but it also has an emotional side that is self-centered and doesn't think about future responsibilities.
After having respect for your wife, children, and partner, I don't think it's too late to attack even after thoroughly thinking about your own sexual desires and what to put on the balance.

I hope that control of greed will be based on mutual compassion.