hasunoha

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Hello. Nice to meet you.
I'm a 4th year college student in job hunting.

Recently, I fell to the company of my first choice, and I lost all motivation.

Looking back on the past, I think I've thought about everything in the public eye and made choices, such as honor students, high schools, universities, club activities, etc. There's no way you can encounter what you really want to do or what you love by worrying about other people's eyes like that. I just feel like I've gone through someone's satisfying life without hesitation.

I think I should go my own way now, but I don't know how to see such a path. In the end, I chose companies because I was concerned about the social situation, so I felt that everything was different, and I even thought that there was no such thing as a job that would suit me.

How can I walk my own path instead of being a part of the world?

4 Zen Responses

confidently

Job hunting is pretty tough, isn't it?
But please be confident.
Even if you think in a social way and live your life until now, the knowledge, experiences, skills, and relationships you've gained from it are not for nothing.
It's your precious asset.

Working is a social contribution.
Let's make a social contribution you can.
There is no need to worry about company status, job type, salary, location, name recognition, etc.
I'm sure there are companies that need you, and workplaces where you can contribute to society.

I don't know which job is right for me.
That's because we don't really understand ourselves.
Why don't you understand?
That's because every act is impermanent.
That's because we're changing every day.
Because what we are today is not who we were yesterday.

I'll do what I can do today. It's a repetition of this.

Make yourself happy with easy

maple. sir

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

I think it was good to be able to notice my weaknesses or problems that I hadn't noticed until now.

This is your chance to change direction towards a fulfilling life.

There's no such thing as saying one's own path from the beginning. Your path is the path you choose of your own will, and it becomes your own path.

Please take another look at what you want to do.

Also, “to work” seems to have the original meaning of “to enjoy” and “to make the edge (surroundings) easy (happy)”. If you have a feeling that you, your company, your customers, and everyone around you will be happy, then I think it's fine as long as it's not a very black company.

If it doesn't fit, it won't fit, and if you think it's different, you can move on to the next one without overdoing it.

Have a little bit of emotional leeway. Instead of trying to adjust your appearance by overdoing it, let's work with the Buddhist “self-interest and others” mentality of making yourself and those around you happy.

Everything depends on the circumstances. I pray that both companies and people will have good relationships by making positive efforts towards good relationships.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

People are free beings.

maple. Mr.

Understood. Similarly, in the past, I was very concerned about the public body in my life. That way of thinking and education remains deeply rooted in Japan, so they look at people's faces and act only by worrying about the reactions of those around them.

In my case, I was so worried about my surroundings that I felt afraid that no matter how I made the next step, negative things would be said by people around me. At that time, I talked to someone.
At that time,
“Are you in trouble if people around you think of something?” I was told. I was taken aback by those words.
I said, “Nothing bothers me.” I answered. I'm not going to hurt myself just because people around me think
I think it's okay to make decisions the way you want. Humans are inherently free.

After all, before the social world, humans are inherently free creatures. Please think carefully about what kind of work you want to do with what kind of people you want to do without limiting yourself with critical thoughts.

Abilities and talents are acquired and blossomed in the process of challenging things that couldn't be done

maple. Mr.
Nice to meet you, my name is Dateryuho.

“Being yourself”

If I can't find this
There is no end to the flow of people who come to consult.

Me too for a long time
What talents and abilities do you have
I didn't know if it was there.

Naturally, my mission and role
I didn't understand anything.

At that time, from a certain side
I was taught something like this.

Competence is from the beginning
It's not something that exists,

Things I couldn't do
Something created in the process of taking on challenges.

and

Things I couldn't do with talent
By taking on challenges, flowers blossom.

They told me that.

I was completely mistaken.

Since there's nothing I can do,
If you don't have abilities or talents
I was thinking about it.

for 10 years,

I can't speak in public.
I can't communicate with people.
A series of inadvertent mistakes at work.
No matter what I do, it won't last.
I can't find the answers myself.
I don't know what I want.

etc, etc.

I can't compare myself to people around me
There were mountains of things.

I almost gave up so many times,

Be positive about what's in front of you
In the process of taking on the challenge,
My abilities have improved.

It's still in the process of growing,

By developing one's abilities,
A talent unique to myself that originally existed
Little by little, the flowers began to bloom.

I think it's really a happy thing.

Advice I heard ten years ago
I feel like I was finally able to digest it after 10 years.

It's always inside of you,

Talents and abilities that are like treasures
What do you do to polish it?

Common sense in the world,
Compared to the people around me

I lost sight of my own goodness,
Not giving up on possibilities
Maybe it's important.

I'm telling you about YouTube
The content of the “Happiness Series” may be useful.
Please take a peek when you have free time ^^
http://bit.ly/1JXVj41
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maple. Mr.'s
May your life be a happy life in your own way even a little
I'm cheering with little effort ^^