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Please tell me how to deal with a husband who doesn't earn money

Hello.

Please let me discuss your marital problems.

I got married a year and a half ago to my husband, who runs a restaurant alone, and now they have a 9-month-old baby.
I now leave my child at a nursery school and work part-time, but the profit at my husband's store is less than my salary, and I don't expect it to increase drastically in the future.
My husband feels that the store is worthwhile, so he seems to want to continue, and he wanted to let them continue, but I don't want to increase my work hours until I spend any more time with my kids, and I want my husband to earn more money for my kids.

It's bad to the point, but the owner is a nice person, and his children love him, but since he spends a lot of time involved in the store, he hardly raises children, and on top of that, he earns little money... and he takes a tough attitude towards his husband.
It's also my husband's fault that I hit him so hard that I hate myself. He does all the things he loves... and he gets stressed every day.
I didn't know what to do anymore, and I wanted to get some advice, so I used this one.
Please go ahead and look forward to your support.

4 Zen Responses

It's about thinking thoroughly about how to prosper.

My main business is a temple, but I aim to be a temple that is not particular about donations, and I run an osteopathic clinic. I've been eating and drinking part-time for a long time, but I did. The kitchen and the waiters too. The first thing to do is to thoroughly think about how to attract customers without spending money. Never spend money. First, please thoroughly clean the store and keep it clean. at every corner. Next, I'll review the menu and refer to the ones from the best-selling stores. After that, it's the internet age, so the launch of a website. This is also a ridiculous amount of money if you ask a dealer. Right now, you can make it for free. If you can do everything yourself, you can make it while having fun as a couple. Turn to an external professional only for top search countermeasures. Sales increase with almost no money, and the couple's bond deepens. Please try it. We wish you every success. Jōkō-ji

Why don't the two of you think about creating a store that specializes in something?

Hello.

There are several reasons when observing places that have been going on for a long time at restaurants, but for this reason, there are restaurants that have one dish that is absolutely unbeatable to other restaurants, and in towns where there are many students, the taste is normal but the amount is high, so young students are busy eating lunch.

Recently, there has also been a cat boom, and it seems that there are places where customers come thanks to the presence of signboard cats.

Even if it's not a niche one, it's fun to think about creating a store with a theme that makes us want to stay for a long time if it's a customer, and if it's not strange, I'm sure there are customers who agree.

Because your level is about that

I think your husband's level is on par with yours.
If you didn't level up yourself, you would probably only be able to get married to guys you were similar or close to, after all.
Instead of hoping too high, let's accept reality.
Even if you say that earnings are poor, you must be living a much more convenient life and eating delicious food than the lords in the old days.
I think it would be a happier family for children if they live cheerfully, well, and happily even if they are poor.
Let's ask your husband to set a time limit to give up on the store.
If business doesn't get back on track until a few years from now, let's ask them to give up, or save money by doing another job now so that we can run a store as a hobby in our old age.

Gathering information on part-time job recommendations and child-rearing preferential treatment systems.

Our temple is a small temple with 17 parishioners.
I have protected temples by working part-time with doctors, teachers, and office workers for generations.
・We should think more about how to prosper,
・There is not enough seriousness.
・Clarify your strengths and philosophy more clearly.
・I gave up because it didn't fit my height in the first place.
I was also told a lot of things, etc.
I didn't think it was someone else's problem.

Instead of being obsessed with one thing, how about a part-time job?
Restaurants with multiple stores these days
It takes a lot of time and effort other than cooking beyond what individuals can do, such as marketing and strategy.
While there are many places where individual management is struggling, a form that has continued for a long time at nearby stores secures a certain amount of income by working part-time for about 4 to 5 hours at supermarket side dishes and meat packs during the daytime.
Then, the store opens in the evening.

If you only run restaurants, the risk and psychological damage when there are few customers is huge.
It's fine if you just earn less, but it's hard when your debt increases.

I think it's important not only to think about doing what you like, but also to lay the foundation for doing what you love.

My family's life is also covered by my wife and I's labor income, not temple donations.
For that reason, I don't worry about the restrictions of not being able to consult or preach without connecting to a gallery, and my current stance is just right.

Also, if a child has just been born, don't just focus on the husband's earnings, but gather information on deductions and systems that can be used. I mean, I think it's fine for Dia to share it.
I hope it's helpful.