Daughter's death

Junchi-sama
I hope I can answer the question in my own way. The reason I became a monk, and my relationship was the death of my younger brother. 2 of my 4 siblings have passed away, and now I have another younger brother. My parents are already about 30 years old, and the thought “I should do it at that time...” will never go away. It's an affliction, so it will never go away while you're alive. However, there were times when I myself tried to live by thinking that I had to live that thought until my younger brother's, but I almost collapsed myself. Not that “life,” I felt that it was important to “live together” with my younger brother who passed away. The person who will always be with me is my younger brother who has passed away. I think they're always watching something. It doesn't give me any good answers, but when I think about watching it all the time, I feel like “strength” came out in my life. However, it took me a while until I came to that thought. So please take your time until Junchi-sama slowly comes to terms with that death. You probably won't be convinced... but I think the time will come when you can slowly face those thoughts.

In response to my previous question, it's Shamen's Mitsumi.

As I answered at that time, now is a time when your own feelings are fluctuating,
It's natural that so many thoughts about my daughter have come up.
Please accept it without ruling it out.
By eliminating them, it will be difficult to sort out your feelings later...

Also, you said, “I have something to worry about. I think my daughter passed away without understanding the translation. It becomes painful to think that they also have regrets. What should I think of them? “But right now, that's fine with that thought.

Also, it's good to write it here like this,
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Junchi-sama

It was already 20 years ago, and when I was a college student, my classmate passed away without waking up from surgery. It wasn't originally a life-threatening surgery, though.

He and I weren't particularly close, but I still remember him from time to time. Maybe that's because I'm a monk, but it's also because his presence is an important “trigger for me to think about life.”
Also, when I think about his regrets and regrets, I feel encouraged that I have to work even harder.

Unfortunately, the eldest daughter's friends don't think about the eldest daughter all the time. As time goes on, the frequency of reminders may decrease. But I think there are things I remember when I happen to be, when it's important.

People who have died are sometimes called “Buddha,” but I don't think that deceased = Buddha.
Remembering a deceased person is an important moment of awareness or encouragement for that person = it can be said that the person who died is active as a Buddha.

For the eldest daughter's friends, I'm praying that the eldest daughter will become an important Buddha.
Also, it may take some time for the family and Junchi-san, but I sincerely hope that such a day will come someday.

The feeling of wanting to meet changes from a certain point on to the ability to interact with the deceased.
Let's say the reason you wish something for your young lady's friend is because it makes you feel like your daughter is still alive today through her friends.

The three practices of “speaking, releasing, and leaving”
You might want them to stay with you the whole time,
① Calling out loud to the Buddhist altar is also a memorial service,
② Someday I'll let go and let you be free,
③ Even if the distance is far, it is also a memorial service to live separately in this ocean called this world.
To speak, let go, and to let go is spiritually synonymous with the word hanath.
Even if we leave, we are together in this sea of Buddha called this world.
One day, you will overcome this misfortune and say, “It's fine.” That's because it's Buddhism to live a strong way of life.

Keep telling your daughter what you should tell your daughter clearly, and don't neglect every day so that both your daughter and husband can make reassuring reports, saying “Mom is doing well, please keep an eye on”, which is the anniversary of death when you should graduate. Of course, it's important to have discussions with your family, and sometimes accept what the other person is saying. That's because it's also “letting go” of each other's heartache and loneliness.
As we do that, the relationship will surely change to a brighter one.

First, please calm down, then look at yourself and have the following correct perceptions.
“This is me who is suffering right now. My daughter has now been brought to a state of peace. I am the one who is sad.”
What is suffering now is “yourself,” and the young lady has already been freed from all kinds of pain and suffering and entered a world of comfort.
You may think, “Maybe my daughter has regrets in this world,” but it's just that when we are alive have feelings for the deceased, it's just that sometimes it seems like that.
Right now, the first thing you need to do is loosen your own strings of suffering.

To that end, I would appreciate it if you read and enjoy the following content carefully.
① The people involved in the deceased who passed away are all sad from their respective standpoints, and it is impossible to determine who is the saddest.
→Dad, young lady, and friends are all sad.

② As long as your own life continues even after death, your relationships with the deceased have remained proper.
Although the “way to get involved” with the young lady changes, such as visiting graves and making arrangements at Buddhist altars, it's just that the “way to get involved” has changed, and there is no end to “getting involved.” →You should continue to “get involved” through thank-giving and thank-you offerings for the young lady who gave you a wonderful encounter and a happy life.

③ Until what age do people live there is no such thing as “this is fine.”
Just as we had good relationships in our lives, we will continue to have relationships that are good even after death.
Have a good relationship with your family and the deceased from now on.
→ There is a need and responsibility to gradually change a painful, painful, and sad heart from darkness to light for the husband, who is the father who loved the daughter, and the second daughter who is the younger sister who would have liked to take care of, as a mother, wife, and for the late daughter.