Is it bad to change temples

My grandfather was in the Meiji era
After moving from Nagano
It's a temple of the Shinshu Otani school that I'm indebted to,
Generations changed from the chief priest at the time to his grandson,
There are also a lot of things that have changed,
Somehow even if donations are solicited, they can't pay
My family talked about wanting to change the temple.

My aunt passed away the other day, and I asked for a funeral,
Originally, they are unfriendly and can go home without replying when visiting the moon, even when old people talk to them,
Even when old people were alive,
So much so that I said, “I don't want to ask that chief priest for a funeral”
There were a lot of things that seemed dishonest.
Number one, they should arrive at the crematorium
On the morning of the day, I was suddenly told to give the sutras from before cremation at the funeral home because I couldn't go.

For funeral companies
“Wouldn't it be a pity if my aunt was the only one at the crematorium had a lousy coffin.
Wouldn't it be a pity if there were no flowers?”
I was told to upgrade
What was the most pitiful thing
We were the only ones who didn't have a temple, and they were put into the furnace without any sutras.

My grandmother visited the moon on the 4th the other day
I was completely reminded that I had forgotten
I was told that I would visit my father's moon together on the 14th, so I wrapped it up for 2 times.

At that time, take the plunge
The intention of changing to another temple of the same denomination
If I talk
Enraged
Call even an old mother who can't walk properly into the Buddha room

not going to the crematorium is the right thing to do
What to do with the placard
What to do with past books
Because I have to continue to the next temple
Tell me the name of where it will change

In amazing shape
I was yelled at for close to 2 hours
I felt very, very frightened.

On Friday again
It seems like it can be seen
It's depressing what to do.

They asked for advice at the funeral
At my daughter's classmate's temple
I'm asking about the future,
Because even before, I was disturbed by the parishioners who changed from that temple
They have been told not to name the temple for a while.

If you can sow it again on Friday
It seems like they'll do what they say.

What is changing the temple
Is that so bad?

5 Zen Responses

There's nothing wrong with changing temples! Rather, in this case, I think we should change it. It would be difficult if we could do well again on Friday. > <) I think it would be better not to meet up for some reason, such as having an urgent need. Just as patients have the right to choose doctors, parishioners have the right to choose temples. If you want to change temples, that is your legitimate right as a human being, and there's nothing to be afraid of. The Buddha is on your side too. ^ ^)/

As the same chief priest, I feel sorry.

I'm sorry that you took great care to connect the Buddha relationship.
As the chief priest and monk of the same Shinshu sect, I apologize.

You don't need to go out with that temple anymore.
I think it would be nice if you said “Please go home” without opening the key.
If you feel uneasy about the future, why not contact Higashi Honganji Temple, the head temple of the Otani school of Shinshu?
You can honestly say “I want to change the temple,” “I'm scared of being scolded by the family temple,” and “I don't want you to come back.”

There is absolutely no such thing as a bee being hit or your ancestors getting angry when the temple changes.
Please don't worry.

Unfortunately, there are more than a few chief priests like that.
Maybe that's probably been good until now.
However, I think temples will be selected from now on.
I think the parishioners and disciples system will collapse.

Shinshu Otani School Higashi Honganji Temple http://www.higashihonganji.or.jp/

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If you don't want to meet on Friday, I think it would be better to tell them in advance by phone that you don't have to come.
Even if we meet on Friday, it is likely that the monk would yell at him again if it were just 2 women. Even if someone isn't a relative, I think it would be better to have a man stay with me.
If you want to change temples, it's normal to ask them about procedures, etc. Response was, before that, a quality issue for monks...

As a monk of the same Shinshu Otani school,

I feel sorry for Joe. Aichi prefecture in particular is an area with many temples of the Shinshu Otani school, so there may be chief priests who misunderstood that. They say [you can't afford not to answer when asked], but no one will ask such a thing, so don't worry. There are probably many followers who feel similarly disgusted.

Now, when changing temples, there is no need for communication or handover between temples if you have a past record of your home. For future memorial services, etc., please bring that past book and consult with your daughter's classmate, the temple.

The punishment is that “outrageous chief priest.”

It hasn't been answered

I heard Joy's question, and I've witnessed a similar scene, so I'm posting it.

This is a story about when I was still working as a temple employee, and my boss (chief priest) was a very tyrannical person, and he was a terrible person with swearing. I can't feel the slightest hint of yelling, cursing, and being close to the bereaved family.

Then they say that the price of the donation is cheap, and they turn it back.

Naturally, the funeral home was puzzled, and the important funeral was ruined because of the chief priest.
“Why does that chief priest keep talking about money! Unforgivable!!” The mourner blasted that thought on me.

But the funeral director said this to me. “The chief priest has nothing but bad feelings, frustration, and resentment. But I feel sorry for my father who died here. We will put up with it a lot for my father's memorial service.”

I was very moved to touch the hearts of those families.

I'm sorry for not responding to Joy.

Now is the time to choose a temple, and we will work hard day and night to make the funeral home happy.

The sight of him taking the position of chief priest and misunderstanding that he is superior... is very ridiculous. Let's break up the relationship already. My aunt isn't happy when we put our hands together because we don't like it.

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