I worry about people's eyes when I'm little... I can't say what they think of them, and I don't want to be disliked... the inside of my heart is always fuzzy and cluttered... I want to keep the inside of my heart in the shell. Isn't it too late now...
Earlier, I was just answering a question I had about my job before.
No matter what anyone says, you can't be swayed by it, and it's something you really want to protect. If you find something more important than worrying about other people's eyes, I think it'll be easier.
I'm also a careful person who cares about people's eyes and can't answer with the original monk's name.
I think it's also important to have a picture that is thick enough to apologize 10 times if you don't like it once.
My life is about to begin. I'm cheering behind my back.
Nice to meet you, Rii. My name is Inoue Hirofumi from Hasunoha.
The Buddha's words are as follows.
“It's almost impossible for people to sit in silence, talk a lot, talk less, and be insulted by this world.”
In other words, “people are criticized even if they keep silent, they are criticized even if they talk a lot, and they are criticized even if they only talk a little bit. It means “there is nothing in this world that cannot be criticized.”
When I think that even people like Buddha are saying things like this, I feel that it is unavoidable for us to be criticized.
There are times when I'm concerned about people's complexions quite a bit, but when I came across this phrase, I was able to open up a bit.
Why don't you try reopening it, Rii too?
Gassho
Nice to meet you, Rii-san.
My name is Shakuri Kaoru (Shakuri-kun).
The other day, at “Hobonikan Itoi Shimbun” http://www.1101.com/home.html
If you want to be thought of well, you are doing the work (judgment) that your opponent is supposed to do by yourself
There was a story about it being impossible.
Exactly, how far can I go?
Where can I start doing things I can't do on my own?
Also, is it possible to “let go” of what you can't do on your own if it's not something you should do?
Even if you can't do it, I think it's important to notice what you can't do and know what you shouldn't do.
You can't be someone else.
You can't move others the way you want them to, and you can't know the inside of someone else's heart.
At best, I was able to do it, ask, prompt, and guess.
What's more, I can't make other people's judgments myself.
enjoy your work, do your best, and then become a field and a mountain lol
No matter how hard I tried, no matter what happened right now, I can't do more than that.
Let's leave the other person's job up to them!
I first learned about the term excessive self-consciousness when I read “No Longer Human” by Osamu Dazai in high school.
・I worry about people's eyes
・Match your opponent
・Try to be a good person
“Oh, this is about me! (Burning),” I thought.
After that, I was walking down the hallway with a piece of paper with “overly self-conscious” written on it, and as a result, I was popular with girls.
From a certain point on, the meaning of the term excessive self-consciousness changed for me.
・Thoughts actively happen
・There is a lot of unnecessary teasing
・Demands for people and situations flourish
・Negative awareness and negative feelings flourish
In the Mita state that appears in the drama “Housekeeper no Mita,” which was popular about two years ago, her sense of self-defense works excessively due to bad experiences in the past, and she always has an inner perspective. As a result, my consciousness turns me in a negative direction, I blame myself, and I suffer because of my own thoughts.
However, as a result of this excessive self-consciousness, there is a way to make it work in a good direction.
A Use the power to care about this person's eyes,
B Let's know what we have our eyes on right now.
Using the power to try to know what person A thinks of him,
B Let's focus on what we think.
The most important thing here is to take a close look at “what you are doing right now” and “not be bound by your thoughts.”
This is the most important point of Buddhist practice.
Observe yourself and make sure that your mind doesn't work in the wrong direction.
More importantly, let them not become internet residents in the world of their thoughts.
That is “looking at yourself” and “living the facts” = Buddhism.
・What am I thinking right now?
・Don't, don't you think badly again, stop, stop.
・Once again, I'm worried about the public eye, let's stop it.
... and it can be transformed into the ability to control oneself and look at oneself objectively.
◎ If excessive self-consciousness turns into the ability to observe oneself calmly, it becomes the power to control anger, sadness, and emotional feelings, so there is no need to be pessimistic about being overly self-conscious.
It's a power that works to protect you, so try growing it gradually.
The more painful and disgusting experiences you have, the more explosive your growth can be.
There is no fast, slow, or retirement age on the path to human improvement. (^-^)
To Rii-sama
You can't empty your mind.
You can just sort out the inside of your mind.
Every human being is concerned about others' evaluations and eyes.
That's because humans live in relationships with others.
First, let's sort it out.
On top of that, I began to reveal my true self
Let's leave the rest up to the flow.
Gassho