The meaning of living in trash

　Nice to meet you, Aki, and I read the documents, and I think they are really kind parents. It means I don't like children, but I think it's a good thing to be willing to get married. I feel like I'm really tired every day, but I think it would be nice to calm your mind and spend every day. Above all else, instead of living alone, I think it would be nice if we could live our lives with the support of our parents and the people around us and the feeling that we are each other. Gassho

Aki Sama

I read your question.

You're taking yourself quite seriously, aren't you? It's common for me to struggle with the gap between my ideals and reality. I'm also a monk and I'm not good at mornings, and I live a hectic everyday life using the fact that my blood type is type B as an excuse, so I feel like I understand how you feel.

But I'm sure they've been working so hard until now. Otherwise, you won't be able to go to graduate school and get a job. Never think of yourself as a scum. It's not trash, it's stars. It's a star that shines brightly when illuminated by my parents.

From a parent's point of view, the fact that a child was born is already filial piety. Since then, they have grown up, become adults, and are living a splendid social life. It's quite embarrassing to put it into words, but I think that's enough for parents (in my opinion).

There are times when people meet good relationships even if they don't hurry to get married. I've heard that human hands are not just for grasping things or eating, but to hold loved ones. Maybe the timing for marriage is when you meet someone you want to take good care of even your heart.

Don't be afraid, love yourself, and shine even more. I'm cheering with little effort.

Gassho

I read it. I see, I read it slowly. I felt like I could understand how you feel about yourself.
Well, since you've been nurtured and haven't grown, it doesn't mean that you don't understand the feeling that you call yourself trash.
When you want to do filial piety, you don't have parents, and people in the old days say that, so maybe there isn't a life without regrets as people live.
Since this is a collision, I also think that your feelings can't be helped as an accumulation of what you have lived until now.
Looking back now, I wasn't able to do filial piety to my father... It's very disappointing. There are days when I think I should have left it alone.
But it's unavoidable.
Maybe parents actually don't want filial piety that much.
I feel that I want you to take your time to reflect on it as you live.
I also felt that it would be good to go on a trip for a change of pace.
I also think that by looking back at yourself, looking back at your surroundings, and taking a look at your new environment, you can also feel a different situation.
If you don't mind, be sure to visit a temple or shrine.
I would like to pray that it will breathe new life into your feelings.

Otaku is a Buddhist word. Did you know that?
The unit for “one disaster” is “the period during which a celestial maiden descends once every 100 years, strokes a huge rock mountain with a soft coat, and the rock disappears due to that friction.”
That's 100 million dollars, so it's a ridiculously long period of time.
Just thinking about it for such an incredibly long period of time makes me nervous, doesn't it?
That is the origin of the trouble.

That doesn't mean I want to show off my knowledge of Buddhism.

For example, I can't read a book a kilometer away, why? Because I can't see it.
Yes. So how about 10 meters away?
Unless you're an African ethnic group, you can't read it in a blurry way.
If it's right in front of you, you can read it.

Similarly, if the target is far away, it becomes blurry and invisible.

“I want to do filial piety” ← “I have to get married for that” ← “I have to make a lover for that” ← “I have to meet someone for that” ← “I have to do this or that at a marriage agency”

Well, I don't think the route is wrong, but isn't that goal far too far away? That would be a hassle.

Let's do something that seems closer to the goal of “I want to do filial piety.”
Like rubbing shoulders, inviting them on a trip, or going out to eat.

“Which is better, get 1000 yen now or get 1100 yen a week later?” When asked, they usually answer “now.”
To improve Gutara, it is effective to set a perspective on the “now” rather than a distant goal.
The meaning of being alive now is only “because my heart is beating right now.”
Focus on the present and try to spend every minute and every minute to the fullest.
This is the full use of life given to us by our parents. It's a great act of filial piety.

Aki

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

Don't fall into too much self-loathing, don't think enthusiastically that you have to do filial piety, and above all else, if you spend your time happily and lively, I'm sure your parents will be happy too.

When it comes to marriage, it's a matter of having a partner, and if you have a good relationship.

For example, there are temples that actively engage in matchmaking in order to have a good relationship.

There are no complicated things like marriage agencies you are attending now, and I think it's a place (and it has a sacred atmosphere) where you can meet and talk. I know that entry is not that difficult, so please feel free to contact us if you are interested.

Incidentally, there are also things like the one below. Just for your reference.

Marriage hunting “good luck party” at a temple
http://www.kitien.com/

Temple and Shrine Con
http://jisyacon.com/

I wish you happiness.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho