I hate religion.

I worked for a black company and retired due to personal reasons
I've been doing job change activities for about half a year.
Currently, I have successfully changed jobs and am currently employed.

It's been a few months since I started job hunting
When I got a job offer from a top company known to everyone, I was at a loss as to whether to refuse.
This is because work in hazardous areas is involved, although it is limited to 3 years.
Is it my life or the stability of my family's life
When I declined again, I was most worried about whether my next job change would be decided when I was alive.
As a result, my income went up for a while, but I was convinced myself that there was no point if I had no income if my health was harmed and I was hospitalized, so I declined.
At that time, I told my father-in-law, “If you kick that company's job offer, you can't get a job anywhere. I'm not dreaming about a moratorium as if I were a student forever.” I was told.
Having a 0-year-old child and being unemployed, I don't have any dreams I can have.
It was a time when I couldn't even dream about going to sleep because of anxiety.

Also, my wife's father-in-law was a monk of the Jodo Shinshu sect.

I am
Right now, I've been dreaming of opening a design office here in the future and working on active duty for the rest of my life.
I don't want to be tainted by anyone. It's worth living.

And all of my wife's parents didn't like it.
They didn't deny it, they didn't hold my shoulder, they just said, “I've put up with it until now.” My love for my wife who says that has gone as close to zero as possible.
But kids are so cute.

But when I see my wife with me, it sticks to my nose and makes me feel bad.
At first, let's somehow rebuild as a family! I did my best desperately.
However, if you look at the wife's indifferent attitude that turns the abominable memories and efforts described above into nothing
Recently, I've been thinking, “Let's get divorced.”
I can't do my best anymore.

I wrote about the hardships and circumstances, but that's the main subject.

So I have a question.
“Why does Buddhism preach that the Buddha's teachings are correct?”
Why do you look at things from above as if you know everything?
Please tell me.

5 Zen Responses

Buddha is right

Buddhists are people who respect the Buddha and believe that I want to be that kind of Buddha.
Therefore, for Buddhists, the Buddha's teachings are always correct and precious.

However, this is not the case when it comes to whether people who believe in that teaching say the right thing and do the right thing.
Humans make convenient use of the Buddha's teachings.
I try to persuade my opponent as if the Buddha were saying that, using only places that are convenient for me.

I'm a Jodo Shinshu monk, the same as my father-in-law.
I just hope that even if I don't like my father-in-law, I don't hate Buddhism.

Your right mind is never true!

I felt it while reading it. I hate religion! Not that, I feel like I don't like my father-in-law.
Because they don't understand why you don't like it.
If your right heart and your father-in-law's and wife's right heart collide, each other's hearts will be broken.

It's not just your heart that's about to break.

Even if you compare what's right, you won't be able to find an answer! Weight and length are incomparable.

It's about working hard at any job! Nobody knows tomorrow's life. That's why I'm just trying my best to live in the present.

Please change the angle again and take a close look at your child and wife.
You might be able to see the truth.

I feel like a heart that tries to understand rather than thinking that it understands is on the path of truth.

I also hate strange religions such as “I'm right.”

that's a pity.
I'm so full of myself.
It's sad that you've worked so hard that you haven't been evaluated and haven't been rewarded.
However, the cause and source of your biggest problem is actually that you are too strong.
Anata is the one who thinks she is right the most, so everyone around her becomes the bad guy.
Let's watch the hero program every Sunday morning from the villain's point of view.
There might be something you feel.
Before that, if you were really right, your wife and everyone would already be happy.
What do you think your wife has been putting up with all this time?
I think it's because you've been denied that you haven't even been able to have a proper conversation.
That is because you have fallen into a reckless mentality that only you, a narcissist similar to a narcissist who says “I'm right.” Let's throw it all away once. Honestly, why would you go against the point where you say sorry for your wife's hard work?
You've been holding on to “you” the whole time.
“This is my dream!” “It's the most important thing for me!” It's like they keep playing rock musicians that don't sell. If it's a really good song, it's been selling a long time ago.
“It's my greatest masterpiece that I've been warming for 30 years!”
“That's a great song. I wonder if it will keep me warm for another 30 years.”
When the Islamic State says “it's right within itself,” it strictly makes women, children, and many people cry and suffer.
No one will admit that such a “simple” statement is correct.
Your in-laws and Buddhism are probably scolding me for that. Apart from that, I'm not looking at it from above.
It's not Nivea, but “I want to protect” myself is too strong. that's my weakness, isn't it? That's it. People around you probably won't go all the way to the bottom, so I'll just say it crunchy.
Being “right” is a type of dangerous thought. If everyone says I'm right, it'll be a war, right?
I feel like they are too particular about that.
Also, it's better not to blame others.
I don't have a bad wife or anything like that.
It's been made into Kotenpan a lot, but did you feel like it was made into Kotenpan again?
If that's the case, your “I” hasn't left out yet.
Let's take it easy at the temple until you think that Anata's wife and in-laws were actually on your side.

Aren't they blessed with a Buddhist connection?

I read it. I don't know if Buddhism is all right, but I think it's a wonderful teaching. This is because original Buddhism explains how to gain peace of mind through self-discipline. There aren't many realistic religions like that. There is no style of being saved by God like Christianity and Islam, which are said to be the three major religions along with Buddhism. (Japanese Buddhism is Mahayana Buddhism, which was formed after the death of the Buddha, and there is a big gap in teaching with Buddhism that Buddha opened up to.) The questioner probably doesn't know true Buddhism.
Monks are dependent on society for their lives. Therefore, originally, you have to be humble. Otherwise, they will be turned away from society. Just because I did a little bit of training once in a while, I said, “I'm different from a normal person. It's great.” There are also people who misunderstand and are arrogant, but that is a big mistake.
The questioner grouped all Buddhism and monks together, but I think it's just that they haven't met the true teachings or wonderful monks. I pray that you will be blessed with a good Buddhist relationship.

What is incorrect

I read the text.
First of all, I understand that you were struggling between dreams and reality.
It's confusing when everyone is confronted with reality while chasing ideals.

As a monk of the same Jodo Shinshu sect, I feel sorry that my father-in-law said so many heartless things. Even if you don't mean to hurt them, they can hurt you.

Now, speaking of what is taught in Buddhism (especially our Jodo Shinshu)
“How Incorrect Are Humans?”
I'm explaining it.
There can be no truth for humans. By the way, there's no truth for the boy either. Any great boy is a human being. Humans can't be right. The more you learn about Buddhism, the more you come to understand that humans are “people who don't get used to stories” and that there is no way to save them. No, you might not even think so. Humans just assume it's right when it's not supposed to be right.
What I don't like about Mum-yo is also in the monk's answer above, but I saw that she is not a religious person but a father-in-law.

There are also various Jodo Shinshu monks.
If you get a chance to talk with other temples and monks, you may have a slightly different image.

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