She worked at a sex shop

As the title suggests, it turns out that she works at a sex shop.
Actually, it was discovered that they had worked in the sex industry once before, so we discussed it.
At this time, the job advertisement that was posted at the store was false, pretending to be a normal part-time job, and since they applied for it, they were forced to enter the store, so it was not completely the person's intention, so I strongly reminded them “because there is no next one,” and the person himself also said “I will never do it anymore,” so they continued their relationship.

However, it seems that they entered the store of their own will this time
The reason was “because I can make money quickly,” and I was so shocked that I was speechless.
Since that time hasn't passed since the last time, I feel so shocked and betrayed so much that I'm very sad.
We originally said “there's no next” here, so we broke up right away, but that doesn't mean I don't like her anymore, and I definitely still have the feeling that I like her.
If anything, questions such as “why did they betray you so quickly” and “why did you tell a lie at that time” are bigger.
I still don't know if I can forgive myself when it comes to being lied to.

Should we break up
Also, even if they continue to be in a relationship, I think they will have doubts such as “are they really not doing it now” and they will not be able to trust in the true sense of the word, but what should I do?

4 Zen Responses

If your values don't match, it can't be helped

Are sex shops legal rather than illegal?
As long as it is not illegal, there is freedom to choose an occupation in Japan.
Everyone has different values about what kind of career they choose.
If your values don't match, it may be difficult to stay in a relationship for a long time.

It must be painful. But it's true.

Meta-san had a really tough experience.
I was betrayed by someone I liked...
why? What should I do. It's painful.

However, it is true that she lied to me.
But I like it.

Well then, I have no choice but to understand her.
It seems like they're really lost, but if you like it, you have no choice but to overcome it.
If you don't trust them, you have no choice but to choose to break up.

You have choices, and you're responsible for your decisions.

But I just want to tell you this.
You can't change others unless you're a wizard.
So, the only way to improve your current environment is to change yourself.

Let's break up once

　Yes, I said with momentum, “There's no next one.” But that was a lie. I don't feel like breaking up. It was the same with her at that point.
So the recommendation is to keep your distance for a while. But I'm not bringing up revenge from you. If you come from over there, I'll accept it. Otherwise, her word “absolutely” will remain light.
There have been several similar consultations up until now. It's a good idea to do some research in order to predict future directions.

Awaken to a higher love.

I think it would be nice if you could change the shape and quality of love.
Change the shape of love. It enhances the quality of love.
It's about living with more real intentions.
Now, frustration similar to that anger, similar to contradiction, should be made public outrage. You don't have to get angry, though.
If you love, there is also love that makes you angry.
In fake morality and fake human rights, they say that there is no such thing as nobility in any occupation, but no, that's a lie.
“What kind of parent would be happy to make their daughter work in the custom and give birth to this world!”
By raising your level of love, you are being more affectionate than your parents, and having a “protective” feeling towards her even though it's not Nivea. True love is a feeling that you can even let go of that person if it's for that person.
Otherwise, love won't resonate with her, even if you say love. damn it, it's bondage.
Even if my boyfriend says, “I don't need women who surrender to manners anymore,” it's the love of parents that they still don't abandon them. This is because there is love that can forgive any title or sin.
What did actress Takahata Junko say when Suspect Takahata was caught? Apart from the good and the bad, that is the true meaning of parental love.
If you really love her, you should love her with the intention of “beyond parental love.” Love doesn't need conditions.
Shouldn't we awaken to love equal to or greater than that of her parents and help, support, and save her mentally and financially?
There is no such thing as nobility or equality in any occupation.
She doesn't have that consciousness.
Manners and customs are dangerous occupations where infection with bacteria carried by others occurs.
People who seem to be spreading pathogens will also come as customers. It's dangerous in that sense, too.
I have come to think that “money” is more valuable than “selling oneself.”
But if that kind of moral talk isn't someone you can get through with, you really have to struggle to stop it even if you break up. For her, when she becomes an adult one day, when she has children, it will be a stain she doesn't want to look back on. There is someone who seriously tried to stop it. That's love.
However, it's an obsessive attitude. You should refrain from high-pressure attitudes.
I also say it for you, letting go of her is also love.
Above all else, love protects her from getting hurt.

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