Recently, when I get frustrated, I get really upset. Even if you think it's because you're tired, when you feel like you're being hit in eight with others, you feel sorry after getting angry. So sometimes I fall into self-loathing. What kind of way of thinking should I have in order to better control my emotions?
Hello, Shige-san.
It's a stressful world, isn't it?
I also get frustrated a lot.
I'm frustrated, calm down! Even if I tell you
You can't control your emotions, can you?
If it's a hand or foot, they'll listen to what you say
Emotions are extremely difficult.
Even if you bring someone's proverb or way of thinking, that's
For the most part, it's easy to become transient.
You have to learn about yourself.
In order to control your emotions, it is good to learn abdominal breathing.
There are many things such as yoga, zazen, mindfulness, meditation, etc.
Try out what works for you.
Most anger is just imposing one's own rules.
It doesn't turn out the way I want it to, so Pun Sky Lyla Super Okopunpun Maru.
Cell phone and smartphone settings cannot be seen in bright places during the daytime if the screen is dark.
If the ringtone is set to loud, it's all over the sound if it rings in the middle of a wake.
That's because it's an inappropriate setting for the occasion.
You, too, should change that angry setting to a setting suitable for this world.
There is such a thing as a Buddha setting.
That is what Buddhism preaches about selflessness and selflessness. In other words, I'm “Oreole, myself,” and I have little awareness.
I have my own settings beforehand, and those My settings aren't suitable for this world.
examples
Frustrated by red lights and traffic jams when in a hurry (setting)
I'm frustrated by the cash register line when I want to finish (settings) quickly
My opponent doesn't do that when I think “I should do this” (set).
People with angry personalities have their own rules and settings in themselves that they are right.
If you have awareness of that, change that setting, and change it according to the situation, anger won't occur.
I'm going to do a slightly mean experiment.
“It's probably Wakaran to say this to someone like you, so this is a waste of time too. Please go elsewhere, haha!” Let's say I throw it away all of a sudden.
Then, if there's no pretense, it should kick in.
Why is that?
If you were a monk, you should be like this, or should you be kind,
Invisible pre-settings are working in various forms, such as how abusive words even though it's the first time we meet, and the feeling that we don't want to be belittled.
The actual “situation, reality, event, real time” is something I first encountered today.
Any encounter is an “encounter.”
The other day, I went to the local ramen shop “rich tsukemen” for the first time in a year, which I have been going to since it opened. However, what came out was completely different from the usual rich dipping noodles.
“Rich” is sold, but isn't it “shabi-shabi”! OH
I was dumbstruck and said, “What's this! Who made this soup!” Like Yuzan Umihara, I ran out of steam and threw the soup inside the store.
... and others are going to be a big deal, so of course I didn't do it.
Humans “expect” something like this before they know it. I unset it and ate it. Rich shabi-shabi noodles.
To Shige-chan
Hello. I took a look.
They say they want to calm their anger. Certainly, if you get frustrated, nothing will go well, and even from a Buddhist perspective, if you create a “habit of the mind of suffering” and get buried in it, it's painful because you end up biased against everything.
I read the text and thought, but it says it's frustrating, but in fact, I think I live with “dissatisfaction” somewhere on a regular basis. I'm trying to find balance by getting frustrated. Maybe you're living by lying to your deep feelings, or maybe you have a lot of “unfinished” (feelings you haven't been able to resolve).
I can't talk about people, and I also put off assignments, but I think it's important to complete them one by one first. If you're frustrated, it's essential to know your own heart by writing down what you're frustrated about instead of suppressing what you're frustrated about. On the contrary, I try my best to get frustrated. Sometimes you can see it because of that.
One step in controlling emotions is to “know that emotions cannot be controlled.”
Dissatisfaction comes from trying to control emotions. It's about feeling “what your heart feels.”
First, let's say “words you wanted to say” and “words you wanted to say” to the person in your heart aloud to yourself.
It seems that in Hasunoha, contributors can write thanks for consultations. There is no need to thank me, but since many monks have answered, say “thank you” first. That's “getting it done.” I appreciate it. Why don't you start there? I'm rooting for you.
Gassho