About myself being jealous of my sister-in-law

Smiling Niko-san

My mother-in-law
Even though they don't readily allow me to go home
Will I accept my sister-in-law's homecoming even for a month

My sister-in-law is spoiled by her warm and beautiful parents' house
Even if I go back to my parents' house, it's a garbage house or something
My mother is bedridden, and my father says it's disgusting

This
I think it's natural to be jealous of my sister-in-law.

Find what you're looking for nearby
What if there were people who got it
I think I'll be jealous.

from the bottom of my heart
“Please relax”
Wouldn't it be nice not to be able to say it?
If you can laugh amicably even on the surface, let's do it.

I'm really not convinced, and I think it feels absurd.

just
Did your mother-in-law grow up as a daughter in that parents' house
I don't know if they got married as a bride

If a family business is like this
Maybe my mother-in-law herself said it too

While talking to my husband
Express your feelings little by little
Let's seek understanding.

Comparing yourself to people close to you may be a natural human mentality.
The more I compare, the more frustrating it is.

Maybe it would be nice if I could leave my mother-in-law like that. It's the same for my sister-in-law, isn't it? Keep it up, and I think this person is like this.

For example, I don't worry and suffer because of people like this, and I don't have much time. Let's leave it alone. Thinking about it, it might be one way for me to pursue happiness in my own way.
It may be necessary to devise ways not to handle that feeling when you are frustrated, such as creating opportunities to go outside due to work or the couple's hobbies, etc., and live while feeling refreshed.
It may not be easy, but I think that your mother-in-law or sister-in-law is doing a mess in the palm of your hand. That point of view is also important.

Claim your rights regardless of whether you are disliked or not!
You should keep a distance from your mother in law! Rather, it's about being nice with my sister-in-law.
Also, she becomes my sister-in-law who goes back to her parents' house all the time (laughs). Bang bang, let's go back to my parents' house.
Rather, I think it would be better to go home as a matter of course.
It is a natural right for both husband and wife to perform filial piety without a partner at their parents' home.
That doesn't mean my husband is bad either, and it helps me a lot.
They are nothing but negative restraints on each other.
The only thing the mother complains about is within the beginning.
It's about going home without question or answer until they make them realize the value of “Oh, if I don't have a wife, I can just relax with my son and family.” (lol)
As a result, the husband can also do filial piety to his mother, and in a state where there are no only married women, it is easy for the husband's parents' house to be able to talk about the family only at the husband's parents' house.
In that sense, your sister-in-law is a sister who is often nervous. They became good friends too.
It's a cute claim that I want my husband to protect me even more.
If that doesn't work, it's a grumpy operation.
You have to be mentally independent from your husband and your family over there.
Don't become a convenient wife.
When I want to go home, I go home right away.
In this Heisei era, it's ridiculous not to have to go home. (lol)
The phrase “bride or marriage in a few years” is a discriminatory term. (lol)
The fact that a wife should do this is nothing but a good theory on the husband's side of the house.
This is what I would say.
“I didn't marry your family. First of all, what would you do if you were in my position. Even so, my wife is isolated, and even though she has narrow shoulders, the husband she married to doesn't protect her. On the other hand, if I were in your position, I would protect my wife's position even more, and even my sister just came back home, so I'll take the initiative to make them go back to their parents' house in the name of filial piety.”
Well, aren't they simply imposing marriage rules?
Rules are born in the real world of each household.
You should stick to your will. However, communication is important.

Nice to meet you, Nikoniko.

This is Nakamura Taishaku from Tokushima Prefecture, the temple of Dharma and ceiling paintings.

You got married to your husband, who is your eldest son, and you are dissatisfied with the fact that only your sister-in-law takes shoulders because your mother-in-law didn't get well at the marriage site. Also, it seems that their parents' house is worried because it looks like a garbage house.

I wonder if I have to put up with it since I'm the eldest son's wife.
Certainly, the eldest son's wife is sometimes told to support her husband and stand up and say hello.
However, I don't think it's necessary to listen to my mother-in-law's selfishness.

Judging from the text, the mother-in-law loves her grandson, but she is holding her sister-in-law's shoulder, and it's hard for her to smile. My mother-in-law is just being selfish as she pleases.

There are always good things in life, even when things are bad. There is half of both, plus or minus 0.

My mother-in-law may be fine now, but things will not go well.
Smiley may be having a hard time right now, but something good is sure to happen.
You don't have to put up with it just because you're the eldest son's wife.

Kobo Daishi Kukai said, “If there is a cause, there is always an effect. This is not a coincidence; it is inevitable. Take care of yourself and others,” she explains.

Please take care of yourself, Nikoniko herself.
Note, it's a cobble, but if your real parents are also in a state where the refrigerator is filled with spoiled food, why not receive welfare-related services or consider entering a facility?