I slapped my 4 year old daughter on the cheek

I'm worried about my daughter who cries a lot. My daughter has been crying a lot since she was a baby. During the period when my ego began to sprout, I was able to remove circular hair due to tantrums every day. Even so, I sympathize with my daughter's desire to do it herself, and I've raised her not to yell or hit her even though bad things aren't good.
I'm young now, but my tantrums are pretty much gone, but I cry every day.
The reason for this is that they cry because “Mom went to the bathroom first” or “I wanted to talk, but I forgot what to say because of my mom.” Every time, I'm scolding them for things they don't want to be scolded.
The whole family ate breakfast well this morning, had plenty of skinship, and tried to go to kindergarten in a good mood, but I stopped at the stairs of my house and was nervous, so I said, “If you don't get off early, you won't be able to make it in time for kindergarten,” and if you go down the stairs first, it's no good if you knock me down the stairs! I said that and started crying. There is also time for the train to go to kindergarten, and at first they gently soothed them, “If you want to be number one, don't stop, you should go ahead,” but I never stopped crying, and I became frustrated and said, “Come on every day already! What don't you like so much!” I said that and hit me on the cheek. In the end, I couldn't get on the train, so I contacted the kindergarten and drove them off.
By the time I arrived at kindergarten, I had calmed down and apologized for hitting me, and my daughter also apologized and made up, but it seems like every day I get neurotic from this kind of exchange. When people cry in places where there are a lot of people, such as department stores, it becomes miserable because they seem to be exposing “selfish kids and bad parents.” To be honest, even when compared to my friends around me, I don't think I'm spoiling them as a mother or, conversely, being too strict. I have no idea I'm crying this much.
How should I treat my daughter so she can better control her emotions?
I'm sorry for the long post.
(I don't have any siblings. (They seem to be kind to their friends and enjoy being good with their teachers at kindergarten)

4 Zen Responses

This body is something I can keep

I read it. I can hear that they are able to think carefully about their children on a regular basis, and that they are working hard to raise them. It really makes me bow my head. On the other hand, my child is cute, but there are times when I get angry because I'm my child.
Now, do you know the phrase “this body is in custody”? It means that our bodies are a gift from nature. If you think about it, if this body is your own, it seems like you can control it so that gray hair doesn't grow and wrinkles don't increase, but it's not what you think. My mind also wants to stay calm, but it quickly gets disturbed. If even my body isn't my own, then maybe it's ego to have a child as my own. Children have a child's personality, have their own personality, and have their own unique life. After all, parents can't freely control it like owners. Maybe it's hurting for parents because they want to do something about it. If we don't think of children as “our own,” the questioner's worries may also be alleviated. As far as I read it, I see that children have developed a firm sense of self and are growing healthily. I wish everyone in the family every step of the way.

Sonoko becomes the strongest creature from the age of 80.

... let's think about it.
My 4 year old kid is the same.
It's bad if you're not mom, this is bad if you're not dad.
There seems to be a commitment to first class.
That child's flower blooms only after overcoming it.
A person who was addicted to dieting became osteoporosis in their 30s when they were around 14 years old and hardly ate any meals.
There are people like that.
That kid is the same.
I'm bothering my mom right now! troublesome! You'd think so. But hey, just throw it away, think it's a self-investment, and now just dare to support your child's SOS Wen Wen (crying).
Please accept and quench your thirst by turning around the child's mother's love on the spot and expressing your love in words with plenty of affectionate expressions.
“Why can't you do this!” It's not,
“Hey ♡ (*'▽') I wanted to do this. that was great. Together with “Mom is happy too,” they inflate a happy balloon every time with that child.
The color is different every time.
Try it thinking about 7 pieces a day, they will expand together 🎈.
Gradually, in place of Gokigen-chan, she is filled with love, and now that child will return the love for you. This is a very important self-investment of love for your child.
At the ascetic dojo, I was sleepy at work in the morning, and I decided that I was sleeping right away just by closing my eyes a bit, and there was severe bullying that made them sit upright for hours even after that. It just looks like they're sleeping. Actually, it looks like they're trying their best not to sleep. The same goes for kids. I'm not bothering my mom.
There is something very sad in my heart, and since I'm a kid, I can't express it well enough, so I feel grumpy and scared in my heart.
And since they don't understand it as it is, it's “why can't you understand it even though it's a WHY mom, Sigapy (crying).”
Motilon may not be the case.
But first of all, let's not stop crying today, but “Oh, I'm sorry I didn't know that. I'm so sorry.” With that in mind, please hang out 7 times and blow up the 7 colored balloons together.
Before I knew it, they both had a rainbow ✨ in their hearts.
Oh, try it until you know if this is it.

Crying every day until elementary school is normal

We have an older child, and he still cries every day.
It's normal for kindergarten kids to cry every day.

What is the lawn next door

I read the text.
It's a strange situation. My child is also 4 years old (boy).
My house also screams, gets angry, and cries every day.
As expected, they don't raise their hands violently, but when they do something really bad, they get into trouble... σ (°°lll)
The lawn next door can be seen very well. It just makes all the kids from other places seem smart.
When my son was selfish and turned upside down when I went out, I was pathetic and compared to that child, saying, “My child... even though that kid is such a good kid.”
However, I don't really care if children from other places cry when I go shopping without my kids. because it can't be helped! I'm watching it with that feeling.
When I thought about it, I thought, “Oh, my house is like that too. It made me feel at ease when I thought, “You don't have to feel so embarrassed...”
Either way, when you do something bad, you have to scold them.
But when I scolded them, I hugged and patted my head tightly. I'll get skinship by doing that for about double what I scolded you. And I'll do lots of fun things for you.
Please don't worry too much about Niconico and get angry when she gets angry. But if you get angry, hug them as much as they get angry, no more than that. I'm sure it will be conveyed.

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