Marriage without ceremony, betrothal, or ring

Nice to meet you.
First of all, congratulations on your engagement ^^

What I thought after reading the post was, do you and your mother both have a strong tendency to be a little bit particular about the mold? That was it.

The mother had a “daughter's marriage” model she had imagined in her own way, and she got angry because it was completely different in reality, I see, sorry.
You yourself are also heartbroken that there is something wrong with the “marriage” that you had in mind.

However, each person has a different form of happiness. If you stick too much to the “shape,” you'll lose sight of your “heart.”
What's painful isn't the depth of your greed, but rather your strength of commitment?
In addition to that, he's not particular about it at all, so it's extra confusing, isn't he?
It's definitely not a bad thing to be particular about it, but when everything goes too far, things don't get easy.

Happiness isn't something you can get; I think it's something you can find where you are right now.

Let's calm down a bit and sort out our thoughts.
If you really want to build a happy family with him, have a thorough discussion and look for “lost ground.”

“It's not enough to compete; if you make concessions, it's left over”
That's it.

I read it. I read it, and I thought there was a difference in attitude and form between you and him about marriage.
He probably doesn't know the general trend of marriage, customs, or common sense.
There are probably a lot of things written about that in more detail in marriage information magazines, so there are probably many people who are interested or not, but I think it would be helpful for the two of you to read it.
I don't know if everything written there is correct or not everything, but it's also important to acquire general common sense as a member of society.
There will probably be many differences in values and differences in sense of life for the two of them in the future. This is because marriage is when two people respect and trust each other while thoroughly consulting, and help each other, while comparing them to the world in general.
I sincerely pray that the two of you will have a happy, fulfilling, and heart-rich day while helping each other in their future lives.

worship

What you need to get married is not common sense
Imagination to care for each other

When a silver ring is made by hand
I think my husband's feelings are very pure.
It's up to you whether you take this as something special or something pathetic

What is the idea itself of wanting to give something special made by oneself
I feel that my husband's personality and kindness shines through.
Doesn't that freedom always bring peace of mind to your heart?

To me your “I want this to happen!” That feeling is a little too strong,
It's a very comfortable match between that and my husband's freedom of thought
I feel like they have a perfect balance.

But I want a platinum wedding ring...

there is one more thing that is important for a happy marriage
“The ability to have fun and constructive conversations.”
Be very careful not to feel uncomfortable with each other
It conveys your desire to “want a platinum wedding ring.”
After all, no matter what the mother thinks, these are prohibited words along with the word common sense because it's a matter between the parties
If “I want to show it to my mother” comes first, it won't be clear where
Including that, you can pass it through just “I want it”
Above all, be calm from beginning to end

I cherish my husband's thoughts, and now I say “this ring is enough for now”
I think it's a good idea to have them buy it in their first year of marriage when they've saved up money.

Be happy for a long time

Gassho

Hmm, I feel a little uneasy about him because he finally proposed after reminding him, and that he gave me a handmade ring as a present, but he wouldn't buy me a platinum ring even if I wanted one.
To put it better, he's probably a nice guy who can do anything by hand without being bound by old customs, but to put it worse, I think there are places where he lacks compassion for you and your mother.
Nonetheless, the heart is something that can be nurtured, so I can only hope that the two of them can nurture the two hearts of mercy that are just beginning to sprout by pouring Megumi's water little by little while there are rainy days, windy days, and snowy days.

I'm happy with the handmade ring. However, silver tarnishes easily and is easily scratched, so it's a bit unsuitable for everyday wear. If possible, I'd like to keep it safe. So let's buy a platinum ring for our wedding anniversary in a few years. Why don't you gently tell them that platinum is hard to scratch or discolor, so you can wear it all day long.

Also, there are many people these days who don't get married, and there are also many people who don't buy engagement rings. Also, at a Buddhist wedding, you don't exchange rings; you exchange rosaries.

Also, I think it's better to have a wedding. What do you mean, even in the sense of putting up a corner. But if it were to be done, would there be another disagreement and a fight? However, I also think that if we don't fight there and don't join forces to overcome it, a happy marriage will not continue after that.

No matter what, please capture the other person's feelings, communicate your own feelings well, and understand each other.

If your boyfriend is in a difficult financial situation, you probably “can't shake your sleeves when you don't have one.”
If you're getting married, you should also know the financial situation of your boyfriend or her parents' house.

If you don't have any money, why not buy a handmade silver ring as an engagement ring and split the bill for a wedding ring?
Or, I don't mind if you pay for everything.