Will I have a hard time in the future without siblings

Lonely children have nothing to learn as siblings, so I think they'll struggle with relationships in the future, but when I asked my husband, that's not the case...

I don't have any fighting experience, so I really hate fighting, and I don't even know how to do it.
I seem to be good with my friends, and I don't have a chance to learn by fighting outside.

Also, I'm worried that I can't practice the basics of interpersonal relationships necessary for the future that siblings can learn, such as unreasonable things, patience to get used to them without going the way I want, and techniques to show off myself.

When I learn naturally at school, my husband says, but I'm worried that the number of places is so different for children who have siblings that they won't be able to keep up with the same.

I'm trying not to struggle for the sake of my kids, but my husband slaps his neck too much, and that's something he can solve and learn, so it's okay to struggle.

It was because of my feelings that I was alone, and a life without siblings was not decided by children.

That's why I think it's my responsibility as a parent... so as not to cause trouble. The psychologist also said it was excessive responsibility, but I don't understand it at all.

Is the idea that my child will have a hard time because I don't have siblings too much?

5 Zen Responses

You became a mom and sister

Hello.

When I'm playing with my kids, my wife laughs at me when they say “it looks like there's another kid.”
You, too, can be a mom and sister, and play with your kids by fighting and playing with them!

It's not the kid's fault. Don't you have another problem?

I've always been worried about that...
I haven't heard back, so while reading everyone's responses, I'm wondering what you're feeling.

I think there are other problems than the problems of an only child or the worries of raising children.
Marital dissatisfaction, family, relationships, etc. Isn't something bothering you?
It's not the kid's fault.

I don't understand it at all.

　You're looking for an answer that says, “Yes, it's just what you think, right?” It's not like I want to learn Buddhist wisdom, I don't want to listen to anyone's experiences, and I don't want to listen to academic results.
Master Nakata has already detected it, but “only child poop” seems to be a superficial problem.
Or shall I just say it? “It's your fault. He's going to have a hard time in the future, but it's your responsibility.” What do you gain from being told that? It's not complacent either; it just makes me anxious, “Oh, the problem is going to happen someday, now or tomorrow, what should I do at that time...”

In other words, aren't you diverting your eyes from other issues by “creating immediate issues”? That's it. No matter how many times you ask questions, you probably won't get the answers you are “looking for.” I infer such a thing from the act of constantly repeating the same question without a reply.

I'm thinking too much. China has a one-child policy

China has had a one-child policy for many years, and the majority of citizens are single children.
However, everyone has grown up properly.

Worrying too much about being an only child will only make life less enjoyable, and nothing will come of it.

By the way, Nobita-kun and Zuka-chan are only children, but they have completely different personalities.

Don't get attached to the concept of an “only child” (don't discriminate by looking at them with colored glasses) and take a look at each person's personality.
There are individual differences in everything.

What is the lawn next door

If an only child has the suffering of an only child, then probably siblings have their own suffering.
There are also cases where no matter how many siblings they have, they are not on good terms and go to trial, and there are also people who blossom by fulfilling their inner world by themselves.
Why don't you talk face to face with your child without stretching your shoulders and elbows.
“I'm worried too, what do you think?” and.
Even parents and children have different personalities.
If you face it as a single person, I think your child will take it seriously too.
Wouldn't it be great to be able to have a serious one-on-one conversation between parents and children?
The more siblings there are, the more difficult it is.

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