I am also influenced by my father, who works hard, and by being able to work, people
People who are recognized and can't complete their work are not recognized as people
I grew up being told, but is this way of thinking correct?
Hello Mappy.
Apparently, he's caught up in the “words” of his father's words.
I think Mappie probably “almost” understood the straight meaning of what your father said.
However, it sounds a bit tough when you divide it into two parts like “people recognize you for being able to do your job” and “people who can't complete their work aren't recognized as people.”
Mappie's question was, “Well, are people who can't work bad people?” I think that's where it is.
Certainly, if you only capture “one thing” called “work,” and if you dare limit it to that, the answer would be “it's not bad if you can't do a job,” and I also feel like “as a person” is going too far.
However, as you can imagine, the word “work” that your father refers to doesn't just mean work in terms of simple occupation.
You can imagine many meanings from the word work.
Duties, occupations, studies, homework, given, choices...
Also, the way to capture it
It's an order, it's an obligation, everyone does it, so I can't help but aspire to do it for myself, for someone else...
There must be various scenes and ways to capture them, etc.
But please think about it carefully.
Whether someone told you to do it yourself, whether you wanted to do it or not, who ultimately decided to “do it.”
Yes, it's me.
In the end, I am forced to decide whether to say “YES” or “NO” no matter what.
You should be able to say “NO” in any situation if you don't think about your own position or public body.
However, the fact that it is already right in front of you in a state where you have to do it means that you chose “YES” yourself after replying “I will do it” myself, in other words, in the situation where I chose.
Try replacing the word “work” that your father says with “YES.”
People recognize them for being able to say “YES,” and people who can't say “YES” at all are not recognized as people.
Wouldn't it be easier to understand if you think about it this way?
To me, it sounds like Dad is telling you, “Do whatever you choose.”
He may be harsh in his way of saying it, but he's a warm father.
In order to be appreciated by the public, it would be more certain to complete work that meets the needs of the public.
In that sense, what my father said is true.
However, in Buddhism, people don't really trust public evaluations.
On the contrary, there may be cases where the values of people in the world are the exact opposite of Buddhist values.
For example, in wartime, he is a man who can do his job if he kills a lot of enemies in battle. But it's different when it's peaceful.
Social evaluations change from time to time due to social conditions, etc.
Meanwhile, in Buddhism, killing is evil at any time.
Now, wanting to be recognized by people is also annoying. Worry is something that causes trouble and suffering.
Your father has a strong sense of pride, and there is probably one aspect where he was able to work hard because of that, but he may have struggled twice as hard as anyone else because he was concerned about evaluations from others and superiority or weakness with others.
If you live a proud life like your father, you'll have a hard time if you don't work hard at work.
In fact, not worrying about other people's evaluations is quite difficult because it requires mental training, and it may be easier to work hard.
Even if it's a father who can work, it's also important whether he's a father who is loved by you as a child.
The answer is in the question.
Puppy (dad) is probably just telling me that “you have to be evaluated” and “you have to be recognized,” and that it's okay to do it.
(^<^)
I'm sure that's important at my dad's company. As a man, it's probably important for dads to be evaluated.
Dad is always watching you, so maybe he threw it up thinking this might be good for you to cheer up now.
“Evaluation is also important. Being recognized is also important. If you have it, you can maintain a true way of life.”
You can take it as clumsy advice for a father's beloved child.
What parents say is a word for children to make the child think and move them in a good direction.
So, we don't need a way to take hurt.
So what do we gain?
Just the fact that you received advice from your father and son is probably enough of a message from parents to children that made you think deeply about things.
You don't need to thank us, so please buy some peels for your father.
It's not right or wrong
I think I can nod myself or not.
Mappy
The fact that I asked the question here
I have doubts about that idea,
If there are things that can't be suppressed by that alone
Isn't it because I feel it?
Does that thought make me happy
Does it just happen to make you unhappy
Are you closing yourself or opening yourself
I will cherish the sense of incongruity I felt and walk along
I think that is what makes humans successful.