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I can't find the meaning of being alive.

I'm still NEET and withdrawn in my 20s.
Even though I thought I had to get out of this situation, I was lazy and my head was heavy, I had no idea where to start, and I just got into trouble with my family and lost my energy at all. I felt depressed because they only cursed, and when I asked them why they only said such things, I was surprised to be told “I'm encouraging you.”
“I raised them, so return that amount of money properly”
I think it's best to be told that, but no matter what, it also makes me feel “different.”
My mother and I have been told for many years since I was a kindergartener that “you are a skipper,” and she didn't like enduring hunger, and she was particularly nervous about disobeying her mother, probably because of that, and now the days of ignoring her family continue.
I've always been dumb, and I still can't get a decent job. My part-time job was also frustrating, and I couldn't stand the storm of complaints, so I quit.
I want to leave quickly, I want to earn money by myself, and even if I think so, “but how?” When I looked it up, “Can I do something?” I worry about that every day.
If that went well, I lost confidence that I could live well even after being shouted at by society and even quit my part-time job.
I am fully aware that my parents are unfaithful, but what is the meaning of my life like this?
If you don't mind, please give me some advice.

4 Zen Responses

To live is to live

Nice to meet you.

Wouldn't you be mad if someone took your money or time? Why don't you yell?

Both time and ability to work are directly linked to income from the hiring side of the company or store, and the reputation of the company or store also affects it.
Small mistakes often lead to losses of hundreds, tens of thousands, or hundreds of millions of dollars in society.

I'm not saying that's correct, but being yelled at in society is extremely natural, and if you quit because of being yelled at, no one works in this world.

I'm sorry for saying it so harshly, but...

You're there right now, enduring being blamed a lot at home, aren't you?

Does that mean that even if they were yelled at, you should have been at work where you could put up with that, but you used that as an excuse to quit?

Or are they putting up a premium on whether it's okay for parents and family to cause trouble?

If you're really worried that you want to get out of your current state as soon as possible, don't give in to your own excuses.

Isn't it about time we end up thinking up excuses for ourselves and skilfully manipulating words to run away?

Each person must have a meaning to live.

If there are 7.2 billion people on Earth, there is a sense of 7.2 billion ways to live.

However, the meaning of life can only be found by oneself.

To search, you won't be able to find it until you start walking on your own feet.
This is because if you don't move from that location, you can only see what you can see there.

Any trigger is good.
Anyway, if you don't start something, you can't move forward.

Not all people in this world live their lives finding the meaning of life.
Everyone lives while repeating fun and pain every day.
They find something worthwhile out of it.

I think the meaning of life can be found when you start walking on your own feet and feel that “you are alive.”

Rather than being afraid of the momentary reaction of those around you to failure, it must be really tough for yourself to lock yourself in your shell and make it harder for you to get out of there day by day.

There are many encounters in this world.
That encounter once again changed my current self into my next self.

Rather than worrying, why don't you write a resume and start walking right away?

How many times is it OK to fail

“I'm encouraging you”
“I raised them, so return that amount of money properly”
“You skimp on rice”

What other words have you been told?

At the root
You're probably not being accepted by your parents
I don't think so.

That's why I can't nod to myself unconditionally

What is a child who is not accepted
Do you do your best to be loved
or
Maybe they can't meet expectations and lose their ability to live

I wonder what to do in the future

“Can I do something?”
What is the question to myself

What can and cannot be done is only a process.
Nobody can do it at first.
Experience a lot of things you can't do
It's becoming possible.
So don't worry about it.

What is holding you back more than that
It's the word “something like me.”

You can't do what you're told
Through me who can't live up to expectations

“Something like me”
I think they are assuming it.

Humans have the ability to learn
through an environment where you are not accepted
Assuming “something like me”

It doesn't matter how many times you fail.
It doesn't matter if it doesn't continue.
Please carry yourself.

The joys of everyday life

Work is hard, but how about finding joy outside of work?
If you make money, you'll be able to enjoy things you haven't been able to do until now.
Like traveling alone, going to see a live artist, or reading a book you like.

Also, for Buddhists, it is a joy to learn and practice Buddhism in their daily lives, and since they can do it in their room, it is fun even when they are in seclusion.

I don't care about other people's evaluations

Nice to meet you, Anonymous.
This is Nakamura Taishaku from Tokushima Prefecture, the temple of Dharma and ceiling paintings.

You're struggling with words thrown at you by your mother, and you think that even if you work part-time, you have no choice but to retreat due to bullying and complaints.

I think what Anonymous feels most difficult is evaluation from others.
“Anyways, who am I”
“After all, it's skipping rice, isn't it?”
“It's scum that you can't even pay the money you raised.”
And so on, I feel like it's swirling in your mind.

Why don't you start by not having to worry about other people's evaluations?
Even if you can't do anything, people will be happy just by participating in volunteer activities. There are plenty of things to look for, such as volunteering to collect trash at beaches. They seem to be happy even if they weed in the temple grounds. Local people were volunteering at elementary schools. There are also people who clean the park even though they haven't been asked to.

First, why don't you leave the house where it's hard to see?