Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Life doesn't turn out the way I want

Looking back on my life, there were many times when things didn't turn out the way I wanted, even though I thought I was doing my best. Every time I do that, I feel worried, anxious, and impatient, and I think, “Why would this happen to me?” Recently, in particular, I feel that there are many...

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I'm troubled by my son's rants and violence.

My second-year middle school son's rants are sometimes troubled by violence. I'm told to die every day, and my heart seems to break. The other day, I had cancer surgery for the second time, and only terrible things were said before surgery, such as “I wish I didn't wake up from anesthesia” or...

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death

I envy the sunny Japan where they were not exposed to threats from foreign enemies, cultivated fields leisurely, children grew up, laughed and bartered with neighbors and family mates. I can't go back to the world that was made up only of goodwill, conscience, and warmth back then. How...

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I'm at a loss about how I should change myself

Since my husband started taking care of my parents-in-law, my “son/older brother” aspect has grown. Even though my LINE is unread, my siblings LINE are constantly communicating with each other. I was told that even if I talked to them to talk about the house, they couldn't do it before listening...

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About the mother who interferes too much during job hunting for a 21-year-old woman

I'm a 27 year old graduate and 21 years old. My mom is a single mother and is very overprotective and overly intrusive. I think so. I was a very troubled child when I was little, and I think it caused me a lot of trouble and worry. So until college graduates, they tried to put up with all of...

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I can't stand being at home

Thank you for taking the time to read it. First, please forgive me for writing a poor sentence. I've been living with my family, and it has become mentally painful. Now, I'll explain how that happened. First, we'll talk about family structure and job type. I will be the mother, eldest...

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Is pilgrimage and praying to other denominations an ego

Nice to meet you. This time, I have a problem with Sega demon and memorial services, so I would like to discuss it with you. My parents' house is the Jodo sect, and my mother's side is the Jodo Shinshu, and I grew up in a family where the Nembutsu of “Namu Amida Buddha” was valued. Currently,...

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Boyfriend pretending to be single

I had a girlfriend that I've been dating for a year. The date of naturalization and cohabitation were decided, and my friends and family were delighted. However, a mutual acquaintance suddenly informed me that “that person is actually married and has 2 children.” He told me that he had been...

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Can I try contacting a man I like?

With the man I had both feelings for kindergarten in July We met again after 18 years and went out to eat We talked while eating shabu-shabu that day I was nervous The man said he wasn't nervous I had them take me home (^^;; We talked for about 30 minutes in the car. (^.^) It was...

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I want to die by taking responsibility that was born

Every day I don't listen to what my children say, it gets worse day by day, and I feel responsible for being born and want to die (I want my children to go away too). My husband (late 40's) and I (late 40's) both work full time The child is an 8-year-old boy alone, but since he wears a uniform...

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I'm sorry for my past mistakes

I have a past where I was a prostitute 4 years ago. It was to pay off debts. My parents' house was poor and I was forced to live alone along with getting a job, but it all started when I didn't have enough money to start living alone and ended up using revolving credit card...

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How to improve your sense of self-affirmation

Since I was little, I was reluctant to build relationships with people around me, and I had a negative image that it was bothersome. I have a few good friends that I can forgive, You can't have broad and shallow contact with anyone, Even if you can do it for as long as you can, I felt...

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I've been scammed, how can I live a positive life?

My mentor and the person I admired for many years was an impostor. Together, my mother and I were defrauded and stolen all of our 70 years' worth of savings. At the time when I wanted to quit the company due to power harassment, it became a story about “let's make a stock management company...

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Family name change due to marriage

I'm thinking about enrolling by the end of the year. As we discuss the future, of course, I'm confused because it seems like they were thinking about going to get married. My boyfriend is my eldest son, and my only older sister is already married. Meanwhile, I'm the second daughter of 2...

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I've been making all the wrong choices

It's a turning point in my life, and in the midst of being forced to make various choices, I always chose the path of failure. It's no one's fault or anything, and even though it's all a path I chose myself, they only take bad lottery I wonder if it's a characteristic I was born...

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What should I do to motivate my mind

When I was betrayed, I was convinced that if my former husband and son were happy, I would go in a good direction, and I thought I would do my best, too, I couldn't see the truth about the behavior of the guy I had been dating recently, I didn't know when he was trying to deceive him, I didn't...

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I'm struggling with my past with a monk

Due to mental pain, I broke up with the monk I was engaged to, and I am still suffering from resentment with nowhere to go. The reason we met was that they saved me when I was suffering from a deep wound. When I met him, he was really kind, and I thought he was like a Buddha. Living at home, I...

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About the “Jodo Sect” and the “Shingon Sect”

Also, thank you for your support. My husband and I have no successors, so Of the “tree burial with permanent memorial service” in the temple grounds The tour has begun. The candidates were narrowed down to two Both are prestigious temples, and I like them both Really, I'm seriously...

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Is the Heart Sutra meaningless in the Jodo Shinshu sect?

It was only recently that I became interested in Buddhism. There was such a painful event, and when I almost became depressed, I happened to watch a program explaining the Heart Sutra on TV, and my heart felt so much lighter. By the way, my family is a member of the Jodo Shinshu sect, and...

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Is he suitable for marriage?

I have a male friend that I made from 2.3 years ago to about 7 years ago, and why don't we go out with that person on the premise of marriage in the future? It is said. We are in a relationship where we can clearly talk about each other's hobbies, values, a sense of security like a family, and...

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