How to make amends

There is someone I've known on the internet that I've been in touch with for about 4 or 5 years. I loved that person, but there were times when I didn't get in touch with them. It bothered that person a lot.
Then, we finally decided to go out with each other recently, and we met once. However, it was confirmed that they would have sex. The fact that he eats something bad about me is an act to relieve his stress. They say it's an act to confirm love. We met for the first time. Maybe it was because he took bad things from me, or maybe he was brainwashing me. Since then, I've found someone I like in real life. When I told him about that, he said it was the worst woman, bad, etc. However, it turned out that he was actually still married even though he said he had also been divorced. Then, he deliberately broke up with his wife and told me that he would file an alimony claim, etc. I was so scared that I couldn't get in touch with him again. No matter what happened, he bothered him and helped me. And yet, I've found someone else I like. Is this a sin? I think that's a bad thing, so could you tell me how I can make amends?

5 Zen Responses

It's like each other

As far as I've heard, I think my ex-boyfriend is much older than Mami. And like each other. I recommend that you do not get involved any further.

It's just... is Mami herself guilty of her ex-boyfriend? If you say you want to make amends... how about blocking all SMS/emails, etc., then write the length of your thoughts and send them unilaterally??

However, I'm really concerned about what my ex-boyfriend said. Basically, we recommend that you prepare a system where you can consult with a lawyer when something happens without getting in touch.

What people you like can do is natural things

Mami

I can't fully understand the other person in the internet world. Something was different when we met. I was lying to my partner. I can imagine feeling deceived.
We met once, confirmed the other person directly, and then honestly conveyed our feelings, so it probably made sense.

The other person's words, no matter what they say, are just hitting you with frustration that didn't go the way you wanted them to.

There's nothing to worry about. A person I like was able to do it. Aren't you happy? Don't worry about the past and enjoy your new love.
But love is blind. There was a term called brainwashing. Try to live a calm life so you don't lose sight of yourself.

I don't think there's anything to worry about

Nice to meet you, Mami
I read the details of the consultation, but I don't think there's anything to worry about.
Also, it seems that they will break everything up with the other person's wife and claim alimony, but in the case of most married couples, I think it's practically impossible to talk about this kind of thing with the wife. This is because the moment we talk, it leads to family collapse.
When men and women meet each other, I think parting ways is the same. Even though they exchanged greetings with each other's families and even completed the betrothal, I think it would be unavoidable to be claimed alimony if they said they would break up, but that doesn't apply in this case, and saying pay alimony is thought to be a threat to keep Mami connected.
From now on, I think cutting off all contact and showing your intention to never meet again will benefit the other party.
If you think that atonement comes with the other party settling down and settling in at home, isn't there no problem?

You're not guilty

I don't know how indebted you were, but it was he who tricked you into a physical relationship.

Of course, you can't claim alimony, and if you're under 18, he's definitely guilty.

It's different if you're married to him, but the feeling that you can have someone you like is not a crime.

If he's the kind of person who claims alimony, etc., I think it's better to cut off contact.
If they say anything, I recommend that you consult with the police.

As far as I've read the text, I don't think there's anything wrong with you.

Please be happy with your favorite boyfriend.

Confront clever crooks with more wisdom than that.

“Hello, Oreole”
“Eh, ○○-chan?”
“Oh yeah”
“Actually, it's bothersome... I want you to lend me money.”
(omitted)
“Well then, I have 5 million at the usual place, so I'll leave the key at the front door, so I wonder if someone can pick it up. I'm going to the hospital. huh? I don't know. Please come pick it up yourself.”
..., in the end, there are cases where the culprit was arrested in cooperation with the police.

If we don't go above and beyond fraud, we can't protect ourselves. Taxes are actually a clever scam.

Humans use words to deceive people.
If you think about it calmly, he is the one who would be most troublesome if his wife found out about him.
If it were me, “I'm really sorry. Now, I'm sorry for your wife and I'm sending an apology to your wife through the trust office, so from now on, I will change my mind, cancel all cell phones, SNS, etc. from today, and go to the pilgrimage for repentance. I will be sending a letter to my wife at every step of my trip.”
Speaking of which, that guy is dangerous if his wife finds out, “Hey!” That's it.

It's about saving the details of the exchange in case of emergency.
Rather, you are the victim, and of course you shouldn't be fooled by sweet words either.
People can fall in love with whoever they like.
Oh, using the lesson as to whether people skillfully deceive people in this way, there will never be such a dangerous bridge in the future.
In your case, it's not a crime; it's a mistake.
It's just that I did it and was deceived.
Hosts, pimps, and girl brothels pretend to be in trouble, pretend to help them, raise money, and make sexual favors. Also, don't make them think they're fooling you.
I should wake up!!! That's it. You're the victim of a totally clever scammer. And that man is a really clever way of tricking you into thinking you did something wrong even though they had a sexual relationship.
Being ashamed of yourself and not doing such a thing in the future means repentance and taking care of yourself.
I should apologize to my parents and myself.

Don't be fooled.
Don't be fooled.
Don't let them fool you. That is non-murder, non-theft, non-adulteration, and nondelusional language.

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