I want to control the anger that is rising right now.

If you search for “anger” and “meditation,” you'll see that many sites introduce ways to meditate to suppress anger.

Buddhism teaches how to become a Buddha. It shows in detail how to control emotions such as anger and desire, and not only not be swayed by them, but also free from them.

I would like to introduce the one from the Japan Terraverda Association as one of the sites I can safely recommend.
http://www.j-theravada.net/qa/index.html

I'll just say it wasn't there.
However, it's not good for my heart as it is, so I calmed down and then faced my anger again.
When you're angry, there's nothing you can do about it.

Let's take a close look at the components of anger.
“I'm angry! that's annoying! It's irritating!”
I don't really understand this.
Let's get a little more specific.
“It's not going the way I want it, I don't like it, it's not fun, things that don't work the way I want, it's frustrating, it's annoying!”
It's getting more and more clear.
Let's get a little more specific.
“I'm in trouble! I'm in trouble! I'm in so much trouble here!” “I'm in danger!” “That is him! It's against my ideal world! It's against my rules!” “It's painful when things don't turn out the way you want them to!” “It's beyond my capacity and I can't understand it!” Doesn't that sound like I'm saying that?

Are your life, your five senses, and your sense organs angry?
Are your ears and nose likely to bite your partner?
Is your hair about to sting your partner?
I think it's probably just about one department in your body that's angry. I think the other departments are operating normally and operating normally.
One department within you is angry, so everyone is working together.

Anger is not something that can be cured after causing it.
It is important to get rid of the cause of anger beforehand.
Let's get rid of it now.
The cause of anger is the imposition of one's own demands and desires, the imposition of rules, and excessive expectations and demands.
In a nutshell, my ego energy is growing.
In order to be humble, humble, and tolerant, don't impose your own demands, expectations, and personal rules on yourself and your partner.

In my case, when I'm frustrated, I try not to open my mouth.

As much as possible, I will try to pass it on by myself without thinking about it.

Then, I direct my feelings so that I am aware of this moment when I am being kept alive in the “now.” This is to make me realize that I'm not worried about something that has already passed now.

I'm a Zen monk, so I often meditate (sit).
Instead of rejecting or avoiding frustration, I notice who I am now. I realise it's all in the past.

The senses, ears, nose, tongue, and body don't drag on the past. And notice that you're being kept alive.

Actually, I'd like to recommend meditation, but regardless of whether you're used to it, in a state where your emotions are high right now, if you close your eyes and think about it, you'll try to get to the bottom of it.

I couldn't get to the bottom of it, it just happened.
Solved ~ not anymore.

This is all you need, but if the energy exceeds capacity, let's reduce it by first dissipating a little bit of that energy somewhere.

In old youth dramas, etc., scenes of people shouting “idiot” at the sunset over the ocean often appeared.

Something just like “Seishun drama!” It seems like they would be ridiculed for saying that, but it's actually a very effective method.

No matter what you do, the energy that has exceeded its capacity comes out at an unexpected moment.

They don't hit people or objects; they shout loudly and simply scatter into an empty space without thinking about anything.
Hit your favorite percussion to your heart's content. It just scatters.
After all, your opponent is space.
The louder your voice or the sound you make yourself, the more it dissipates the energy stored in the house.

If you then meditate, your energy will increase, and you will be less likely to be quiet.

People used to be adults, weren't they?

However, at best, it's a place where it doesn't bother the neighborhood.