About escaping from bullying

First, I am a believer in Sugyo Masamitsu, and I joined the faith on the recommendation of my mother.
I'm worried about the relationships there and whether to continue my service activities.

There was a problem at my former workplace, and the leading person there was the same believer.
I didn't talk to my boss or the Labor Standards Bureau, etc., and I thought about how I could get through with it, so I consulted with my psychiatrist and my mother.

However, they were also forced to take it off, and I became severely depressed, and I decided to leave my workplace.

They didn't seem to be convinced by that, and it seems that they have always had it at their roots.

They were secretly speaking ill of it at religious gatherings, but when they heard it and told it anonymously to a public consultation area, it was determined, and they were made to describe gender identity, and the surrounding area is a rural area full of rice paddies, and it is treated like a spiritual sandbag.

There are volunteer activities until December, but in principle, absenteeism is not permitted.
Is it better to make it through to the end even in a last-minute state of mind?
After that, I decided to leave.

4 Zen Responses

You can change, you can change.

If you've decided to leave, I don't think you need to worry about being absent.
When you're worried and depressed, you may assume that you can't even do what you can.
As much as you are absent, you may be fine with “I will be absent” or “Yes, is that so?”
There's nothing wrong with people saying, “I'm in trouble if you don't have them attend.”
Unless it's determined by law,
You can decide what you do.

People make their own characters, or rather restrictions, and they feel reluctant to break their own characters, thinking that they are supposed to be seen by others as such characters.
I know it's hard to beat the characters that attend every time, but matter changes moment by moment, and characters from the past and you now are different objects.
What I don't want to change is the affliction of laziness and pride.
Why don't you fight your worries just a little bit this time around?

Religion must be something that can be ignored

It was said that you had already decided to leave.
That is, let's just say that.

Religion must be such that various people can live with peace of mind.
Don't refuse what comes, don't chase what leaves.
You must also be free to be absent.
I don't think it should be something that puts pressure on or torments people who want to be scolded.

If you feel uncomfortable, isn't that true?

Live the real thing

Apart from the outward signs, are you actually really saved there?
The answers are probably already out for you, so I don't think it's burdensome to live true to your heart. No matter what kind of activity they are, how are those people from a human point of view?
Even within the religious industry, there are people who are not religious.
There are people who are anti-religious even though they think they belong to a religious organization.
I think it's better to choose by content rather than the label on the front.
This is true not only in religion, but in every field.
Have an eye for discerning the essence of things.
There are humans before religion.
Humans can choose their own thoughts and religion, and they must not be controlled or manipulated by religion. (^<^)
No matter what kind of bullying happens, I have no choice but to live my own life.
It's within me that causes people around me to handle things like this when they say something like that.
Being aware of that sense of emptiness and living without being swayed by the information in one's mind or brain is immovable.

Think about pleasing yourself!

If service work causes you heartache, quit right away.

There may be a way of thinking that pain is inherent in ascetic practice, but ascetic practice is something that is done with ambition.
It's not something anyone forced to do.

Religion is founded on faith.
There can be no religion where there is no faith.

If being in a religious organization is causing your mind to be disturbed, then for you, it's just an organization, not a religion anymore.

Religion must bring peace to people's hearts.

If so, if there are people who speak behind the scenes of others at religious gatherings and take words and actions that degrade their personality, that person is also no longer a believer.

What do your mother and family say about leaving the religion you entered on your mother's recommendation?

I think it would be nice if you could decide whether or not to leave, but more than that, I'm worried about your position within the family.

I've also read the questions and answers up until the previous time, and it looks like you're thinking about your own way of being at your parents' house, including religious things.

Apart from childhood, I don't feel like the cause of your current worries is somehow related to relationships surrounding that religion.

People who bully or talk behind people are poor lonely people who always worry about people's eyes, bluff to protect themselves, desperately try to get others to look at you so that people don't move away from them, and work hard to attract people's interest.

There is no need for you to take these people seriously and keep dealing with them forever.

You have to enjoy your life.

You'll also need to talk to someone you can trust, such as a close friend with no strings attached.

Either way, if you don't move on your own, no one will save you from that trouble.

Why don't you think about it, including leaving the house?
If you get out of a limited community in the countryside, your mood will change again, and if you look at the house from the outfield, you should be able to look at it in a different way.

It's not a life where you live while adapting to others; please think first about making you happy that is within you.

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