I can't go to school anymore

Anko sama

I understand your mother's feelings. You're worried about your kids, aren't you?
However, it is the children themselves who are most in trouble. I'm sure you don't even understand what you're worried about and why you don't want to go to school.
Even if Anko asks this or that from a parent's point of view, she may not be able to see her true intentions. Anko-sama is confident, and I have to go to school as a parent. There's probably that feeling, and I think there's also impatience. If you have that kind of feeling, you may become emotional.

Here, please take a look at children without putting yourself in your own position. (Keep your emotions in check)
According to this, my lower back may be getting heavy because I've taken a break. As is the case with adults, when they continue to take a long break, they say, “I don't want to go to work.” What do you think. If that's the case, we have to give them momentum. I'm forced to take them to school even if I ask my school teacher to cooperate with me. Or I think it's okay to have them pick you up. (It's very difficult, but it's important)

If you have a problem that you can't even tell your mother, you have to have someone to listen to it. If school teachers also ask, it might be a good idea to ask education professionals (self-reliance support facilities) such as NPOs that watch truant children to listen to them.
It's a time for body and mind to grow, and it's a time to think about the body, friends, romance, parents, and the irrationality of the world.

I hope I can clear my mind during this summer vacation and be able to go to school comfortably from the end of summer vacation.

I'm glad that the day-night reversal has healed. Also, I am very thankful that I have received cooperation from my friends and teachers in club activities. What my son is worried about is that if he takes a break like this, he may not be able to go on to college, and if he doesn't live a student life like a normal kid, he may regret it for the rest of his life.

If you do a little research on the internet, you can see that there are many high schools with a correspondence system. And take a look at the career paths of those high school graduates. You'll be surprised how many times they have gone on to what are called difficult universities. It's a much better passing record than schools around here. Most children who become truant are inherently excellent. It can even be said that he will be truant because he is an excellent kid. So don't worry.

Please hold on to your mother and tell her that she is on your side no matter what happens. I don't want to make fun of others and turn them into truancy. Most kids probably hit their frustration on the kids in their class or their families, but I think Anko's child hit it on themselves, not others. He's a kind, nice kid with a sense of friends and family. Please take pride in that.

Also, even if they are ignored, think that they are taking care of a child of an international student who doesn't understand the language, so please call out to them. If your friends, teachers, and family watch over you warmly, you will always feel better. If I feel well, I will naturally smile, and someday I'll be able to go to school. If you force them to go to school, they may dislike life itself, let alone school. First, let them fully feel that “whether I can go to school or not, I am needed by my family.”

This is only the case if bullying is also the cause.
I have been bullied from kindergarten to middle school.
Even at the ascetic dojo, I was noticed by a mean senior monk, and I was personally harassed and mean, and even at the dojo where I went out of my way to seek Buddhism, I spent my days feeling very uneasy.
There is bullying even in monasteries that are supposed to be sacred. People who bully bully them with a sense of relief from their melancholy in places where the manager's eyes are out of reach. It's a really clever trick so you don't get caught.
However, there are people who don't like that kind of thing.
We should let the wind and flow of justice infiltrate the mainstream.
Therefore, if bullying is the cause, I think the immediate solution is to ask understanding parents and boys and girls in the class who dislike bullying to provide information.
Parents can't help but feel like their kids are being bullied.
They are appealing for that in order to gain sympathy.
You should immediately request the provision of information via email between parents, etc., and identify and eradicate the culprit of bullying.

Below is a draft email between parents
“(Abbreviated) Unfortunately, my child was bullied at school and is currently refusing to go to school. I was also absent from the closing ceremony, and as a parent, I am very sad, and I am living difficult days where my heart is gouged out. It seems that bullying is a horrible structure where someone becomes the first victim, and when that child is no longer in class, the second and third victims come out. Children are powerless to solve these problems with each other. Before your children become targets of bullying, I would like to eliminate bullying itself and provide children with a safe school life for both parents and children. So please provide some information.
If you can cooperate, please give your children the following email address, line, or phone number, and we will send a reply postcard at a later date, so you can stay anonymous. I would appreciate it if you could post it. I would like to work together to create a school life where everyone can feel safe.”
This is limited to cases where bullying is the cause.
Children don't talk about bullying, even if it's happening.
Please casually let them see through.

The behavior of adolescent boys is uncharted territory for mothers, and it's difficult to deal with it, isn't it?

I don't know if bullying is the cause, but if my club mates and teachers are also worried, it means that my son still has a number of places to escape.

Please take a look here first.
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/1581

If you take a look at the above, dare I look at it in a different way

That's very rude,
When did they become independent?
Are you separated from your husband or widowed?

The impact may be small if the children are bereaved or if the children are separated when they are young, but if the children are separated at a certain age, there must be no small impact.

In particular, if the husband is a strict, unreasonable, or violent person, the mother may become a “comfortable place” for the child at the same time as being a place to escape.

It can also be said that it is a good environment if it is just comfortable, but in discrete mother and child families, there are many cases where mothers are treated lightly as “convenient people” for children, such as being easy to handle, not scary when angry, and going the way they want.

In the previous question about truancy, I wrote about being an understanding person, but if a child sees it that way, it cannot be solved by simply being an understanding person.

It becomes necessary to deal with children with a resolute attitude.

It is important to never take sides and have the greatest understanding, and never take sides with children.

First, we need to let the child decide for himself what to do.

I said my friend would go, so I'm going.

It's fine to feel like that.
Don't push it against an absolute object.

What your mother does makes you promise to “do what you decide for yourself.”
That's all.

Children find only minor irregularities in adults and use them as excuses for themselves.

Raising children who don't say convenient excuses is also an important process for not creating truancy or NEET.

This is an important time for puberty.
It's not a parent's job to keep them in a good mood.

There is no need to force them to go to school, and humans can live without going to school.
However, if you learn to run away from things that are not convenient, you will not be able to live in society in the future.

Please be resolute and teach your son the right thing.

I'm sorry if that's off the mark.