hasunoha

I ended up here because I wanted help

I'm busy with work every day, and I don't have time for myself.

Day after day, I'm chased by work, work reluctantly even in my dreams, get scolded, and cornered by having nightmares over and over. I don't have a single friend to go out to play with, and no one close to me to talk to. I hit my family every day, and I don't want to live a long time anymore, and I think it's okay to die at any time.

I think the world is all about money. I think I have no choice but to work because I don't have the talent to generate money myself, do work that I don't want to do in this way, and live boring days full of stress without getting much money from working. I have nothing and no talent, so I have no choice but to live such a boring life.

I'm often told to find small pleasures and happiness, but to me, it only seems to me that every day is made that way. I think that's enough time to relax.
Anyway, every day is hard, there are no fun things, I just want to die quickly, and I'm lethargic and sad. I don't think I can get any more words for this unpleasant way of thinking, but I thought it was the last rescue ship, so I posted it.

5 Zen Responses

If it's hard, run away

In front of people who choose their own death and execute it, no matter what kind of voice anyone makes, it won't be heard.
I have had that kind of experience.
It was a very painful experience.
If you really choose your own death, you won't be able to save even a monk anymore.
After all, you're the only one who can save you.

If Mabashira believes “money is everything,” I won't deny it.
If you think there's no point in living, I can say that's true too.
So, you can decide for yourself whether to live or die.

But I want you to at least see the world before you die.
I've been alive for close to 50 years, I think.
Time is much longer than I thought, and the world is much larger.

If your job is hard, you should quit.
If you feel like you're dead, you can do anything, right?
You're young, you have plenty of time, and money is something you can manage without
By all means, I want you to step out of the world that surrounds you right now and experience a wider world.

There are so many things in this world that you haven't seen and don't know.
Values also vary from person to person.
Isn't it okay to look at them, listen to them, taste them, and then die?
Everyone will die someday anyway.
But my parents gave me this life, and I was born into this world.
I want you to fully enjoy your time until you die.

The world is big, and it's pretty interesting.

Don't be crushed by capitalism

The future world will probably be dominated by people who say money is everything. However, such societies were not the only ones in history. There is a history of valuing the heart: India during the time of Buddha, Japan during the time of Prince Shotoku, the time of Kobo Daishi... It just so happened to be at a turning point in history that they have become money worshipers now, but such a world won't last long.
It's also a matter of chance that they posted it here in search of a path to devotion to Buddhism. Please find a temple with a monk that matches your feelings. I'm sure you'll be able to think in a different way than before. Let's all take back a decent Japan.

Stories that aren't helpful

I took a look at your question,
“Then come to the temple right now!” It's called
I honestly confess that I felt a very irresponsible feeling.
I'm sorry that I had to cheer for your “here and now” perseverance.

Well, what is an unhelpful story
Actually, for the past few days, I was remembering talking about completely unrelated things during consultations with women in their 20s (not hasunoha, in real life).
That's the story.

... She just can't forgive the fact that her colleagues and seniors around her work for money! I complained while crying. (Of course I had a lot more trouble)

They say, “Money is important, but that's not what it means to do a job.”

From my standpoint, while nodding at her words, I had to take the place and somehow manage it anyway, so I responded as follows.
“I don't think getting paid is such a bad thing, but I'm sure that fuss is because Mr. 00 isn't able to connect [the balance] between what he wants to cherish and his money.”
“You don't have to force yourself to agree, but for now, when I talk about monks, everything in this world is always connected to each other somewhere, and it seems like nothing is unrelated to anything.”
“I'm sure money and your beliefs are actually connected somewhere, but if Soko's logic isn't clear, it's unavoidable for anyone to get confused.”
“For now, think you've been deceived, connect the two and think about it. I tried connecting my belief in work with the fact that money is important, and from then on, I have no choice but to think for myself where to place my important points and imitate other people's values.”
“From a monk's point of view, I'm recommending that we imitate the Buddha's values for the time being, but the Buddha didn't say that money is bad or that it's a ladle ruler.”
“When it comes to what I said then, I didn't say anything. That's a problem.”
“Instead, make yourself a 'lame' to illuminate the darkness.”
“Look, you don't understand the translation anymore. “I thought I was serious, but did you solve it a little?”

So, we just nodded together rather than admonish our other worries, and in the end, we spent less than 2 hours crying with her.

Life is hard for you and me, isn't it?

The value of money

Dark Hashira-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

Money is necessary for living as a matter of course and for living. However, in the first place, it is free metal and paper, and it seems that it is made up precisely because everyone trusts that it has value, and its value also changes moment by moment depending on everyone's creditworthiness. The same goes for stock prices/exchange, prices, etc.

Maybe it can turn into paper scraps in no time...

Well, it's better not to get caught up or get attached to money by looking at it as a reality. It's not something you can take with you even after death...

Of course, you have to earn what you need, but you don't need to have it unnecessarily, it's like that.

Rather than that, in Buddhism, more emphasis is placed on the state of karma and karma that people will continue to carry even after death.

Now that the reality of suffering has been accepted, I think it is a good time to enter Buddhism. By all means, I would be very grateful if you could start studying Buddhism from here on out.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

Aren't you close to being depressed because you've worked too much?
Do you keep overtime within 80 hours?
Are there any holidays?
The fact that a new employee died from overwork was also a hot topic in the year before last.
First, let's review the details of the work and how it is processed. Don't do anything you don't need to do. Don't do anything you don't need to do right now. Please leave the work that can be entrusted to others.
Let's make time for ourselves that way.
It's definitely not dead.
Working hard for money isn't a good thing, but if it's a driving force for overcoming current suffering, that's fine now.
However, if possible, think that each and every one of your jobs revolves around creating happiness for someone somewhere and supporting your life.