About temples and monks getting married

There is nothing wrong with being a temple bride in trouble.

Monks are representatives of “religious corporations” called temples, and they are also leaders of temples as religious groups. If you get married there, you will be asked to act as a co-operator.
However, it is a very valuable role, and it is also a wonderful job where people around you, including parishioners, say “thank you.”
There is a difference between hardship and misfortune.
If you can live a rewarding life, wouldn't that be a very happy thing?

However, what bothers me about this consultation is that only my niece has seen the story yet. How does that partner's monk feel?
If your partner also wants it, how about talking to the wife at an active temple through your partner's monk?

I still felt like it was a bit more of a relationship or unrequited love than a marriage.

In the case where the partner is a monk, I think it is necessary to be prepared for inevitably having to get involved in a temple.

However, there are actually various ways in which temples are located, and how monks and chief priests are.
I'll tell you some actual cases, including my own, so please refer to them.

1. Get along with me
I was born to the eldest son of a temple, and after going through twists and turns, I have a monk's license and practice law. Tsareai has medical qualifications, and even after getting married, she has been working as a medical practitioner for a few years. Meanwhile, things at temples are only related to holidays, and it is not something that can be called a part-time job. There seems to be a feeling that they will become partners to protect and operate the temple together in the future, but for me it is enough just to greet those who come to the temple with a smile.

2. Family of a close acquaintance of a monk
My partner who married a monk doesn't usually live in a temple and lives exclusively as a housewife in another house. I'm not fundamentally involved in temples. As a monk, he also explained the idea of dividing work and family to parishioners, and has maintained a relatively smooth relationship.

3. Husband of an office worker
The chief priest of that temple is struggling with legal affairs while raising children as a mother. The troubled man continues to work for the company, and while cooperating in raising children, he takes time off from work on holidays and important memorial services to help the temple. In the future, they intend to obtain monk qualifications and protect the temple together, but now a female chief priest is loved by parishioners, and it is managed while being supported.

4. Temples still need cooperation
Married to a relatively large temple, she participated in various trainings and fulfilled her role of welcoming parishioners at the temple as her “way of life.” It seems that the biggest anxiety was “a lot of people coming, not knowing manners or manners,” but the parishioner won't price her for marrying her at the temple, she will tell you things she doesn't know, and if it's rude, they will properly admonish her.
It is said that since that person got married to the chief priest of the temple, the number of close families increased many times over at once.
It is said that not only were they connected to their loved ones through temples and through Buddhism, but they are also able to share their lives with many people, which is their current joy. That's wonderful.

... the anxiety is correct. If it's a close family, it's natural to worry that “you should stop it because it's going to be a hard time.” But actually, as a person involved in a temple, I feel lonely.
Surely, along with the hardships, a different world will open up.

Himawari-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

The question is whether they want to get married “because they're a monk,” or do they want to get married “because they're attracted to that man”... what about that...

To be honest, monks are still just immature people, and even if they have worked hard at ascetic practices and acquired some insight and ability, they are still not that different from normal men in the world...

However, if you have feelings like “it's okay because you're a monk” due to longing or envy, you may be worried that you will later become disillusioned with reality...

The rest will depend on how we feel about each other. Even if there are hardships and difficulties, it is important whether or not the two can support each other and overcome them by helping each other.

There are also things we have to leave to each other in terms of mutual love, bonds, and relationships of trust...

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

Hmmm... I can't say anything. Even if you say temple in one word, there are a lot of differences.
There are different busyness, lifestyle, and requirements at 1000 mammoth temples with 1000 parishioners, about 300 medium-sized temples, and about 30 small temples.

“Waka-san” came back to a certain temple in the town next to my house. This is a “young man” around 50 years old. I didn't have the financial strength to feed my father for two generations, and when I was young, I worked in a regular job. My wife was an ordinary housewife during that time, wasn't she? Opinions are divided on whether to take this as a period of freedom or that there may be financial unease.
Conversely, at mammoth temples, there are also brides who leave everything to hired staff and go on trips (slapped in the back). Even at the same mammoth temple, there is also a bride who feels like the landlady of a ryokan and is always busy.
On the other hand, there are also voices saying that if you are going to specialize in monks, about 300 houses would be just right. However, when it gets to that point, every time I go on a family trip, for some reason, there is always a funeral and a marital fight... a certain story stands out.

Recently, due to mechanization of vacuum cleaners, dishwashers, etc. for garden cleaning, it is also possible to dramatically improve efficiency. However, there are many people who dislike mechanization at temples. Extreme people don't even want to use email, even in their 30s. Seems like mine is more extreme for him (_)
Even if they are local monks, there are people who are bothersome enough to death, and there are also people who personify inclusiveness. I don't feel or don't think that there are regional biases around here (whisper)

Well, that's because temples a long time ago were places where young local women gathered for servitude as apprenticeships or bride training. I think what was required of a temple bride back then was really difficult. I feel that the world still has images of those days. But this is not an age like that. There is a slight difference, though.

That's why it's Jūji Jūrō. I can't say anything. So I don't think it's a place like this where you can decide whether you should stop it or push your back, right? Why don't you meet up and talk to an example monk? You can also understand my niece's real situation.

However, if I were to stick my nails just one word, if dealing with people is stressful and unavoidable, then it's better to stop it. That's all.