expiation

I was asked to discuss it a little while ago
Let me discuss it again.
I have been helped by someone via email etc. for about 4 years. I fell in love with that person, and even relentlessly sent emails and made phone calls, causing all kinds of trouble. And they helped me by consulting with me. There was also a time when we didn't get in touch at all. I met that person online, and we met in May. And there were things that had been promised before. If I cause trouble and I like it, I mean I'll have sex.
It seems like my opponent took that for granted. Also, if you didn't have sex, you wouldn't be able to heal that person, and I don't think it would have been possible to date them. Knowing that, we met and had sex. He was a strange person and said he took bad things from me by having sex.
However, I have found someone I really like. When I told him about that, at the very least, I was told a lot about being a girl with a disrespectful butt. But I think that can't be helped. It's a terrible thing to be able to have someone else you like even though they helped you so much and caused trouble, right?
It's true that he helped me a lot, and he caused a lot of trouble. And yet, my selfishness hurt me. How do you think I can atone for my sins? I started a part-time job to improve myself, even in the sense of atoning for my sins. This is because I had even a small social experience, realized how difficult it is to work, and I wanted to be a good and good self. This may not be redemption, but how can we make amends?

4 Zen Responses

Of course you can do someone else you like

It's natural to be able to do someone else you like.
That's because I've had a lot of encounters.
There are still so many attractive people of the opposite sex in the world.
You're not putting on two prongs, and you honestly said that you've found someone you like, so you didn't do anything that bad.
I'm not even engaged, so I'm free to have a relationship.

There is no need to make amends to him.
The relationship simply ended.
In terms of improving your own personality,
Be careful of the afflictions of greed, anger, laziness, and pride, imagine the suffering of others, and try to live kindly, sincerely, and rationally.
It's better not to let regrets drag on.

He is the sinner.

I answered the previous question, but you are not guilty.
It doesn't go through the logic that he shouldn't make someone he likes once he's taken care of, and he doesn't have that right.

Furthermore, even though he is a married person, he lied that he was divorced, and his words cleverly extended to sexual acts, threatening to claim alimony if he heard that someone you like this time around, and is trying to restrain you.

This is unforgivable in this world.
He is the one to make amends, and there is absolutely no need for you to make amends.

OK.
Please listen carefully from here.

Don't be brainwashed by him.

If you take care of them, shouldn't you like others?
Do I have to have sex when I'm taken care of?
Do I have to be restrained by my married boyfriend even threatening me to claim alimony on the contrary?

There is no such stupid story in this world or the world after.

It's an insanely selfish theory created by only one person in the world.
He just wants to bind you down and go his own way.

Even if lives are saved, there is no right to restrict such things.
Even if he is God or Buddha, that logic doesn't work.

What's more, even the Buddha can't take bad things in sex.

What's more, isn't he actually a married person?

They threaten you by claiming alimony that you haven't even told you about, and they use your fear as an outlet for your sexual desires.

He thinks such things will be recognized, and it may be strange for us monks to say, but he is “the worst human being.”

Actually, it's a matter of consulting with the police rather than here.
This is unmistakably a “fraud crime,” “blackmail crime,” “obscene crime,” and “extortion crime.”
He's doing things like getting arrested right now.

He's just trying to bind you by saying he's hurt.
You are the one who got hurt.

He's not hurt at all.
Don't be fooled by words.

You have been brainwashed by him.
Please don't be fooled.
Your life will be ruined.

Please sincerely ask for it.

Please break ties with him as soon as possible.

P.S.,
Then even more so, stop people who even lie and bind you.

Nothing bothers him.

Rather, it was 100% you who were bothered no matter how anyone looked at it.
Even if it's not here, try talking to other people, friends, parents, or relatives.
100% of them were surprised and fainted.
Even though you are 100% the victim, they will say “cool your eyes, what are you saying” when you say that you, the victim, did something bad to the perpetrator.
On average, women are in relationships with about 3 men in the world.
There are even remarriages and remarriages.
There are also people who think about free sex.
Well, if those people have caused trouble to their opponents, then every day is full of trials. Even high school students are getting momentum to file lawsuits. Think of it as being legally coerced into obscene in a sense.
Your words only controlled you and got scammed.
At least, that's why here, and from 3 or more boys, it's not you who is to blame, but that despicable man.
If you get involved with him, you're completely under his brainwashing and control, so you'll never be able to interact with him.
Are there any scammers that make scammers think they are “scammers”?
Do all the fraudsters in the world deceive you by saying, “I'm a scammer, so I'm going to deceive you”? no. People fall for scams because they don't think they're scammers.
As I've said many times, you've been deceived.
There are many victims of fraud, even among entertainers.
Moreover, it seems that many people are so good at scammers' techniques that they still don't even notice that person is a scammer.
Even if you're not a scammer, there are plenty of fraudulent acts.
“You have to be in pain.” This is a crime of intimidation.
First, I think it's better to properly talk about being threatened by someone you've fallen in love with now (keep your relationship with him a secret) and ask them to protect you.

You're not guilty

Mami

There's no need to make amends.
The guy you were consulting with probably just wanted you to do what he wanted. I think I became emotional when I knew that wasn't going to come true.

Time is passing moment by moment. Don't get caught up in the past and let your love come true.

It's wonderful to fall in love with people.

Nan doesn't have anything to worry about, does it? Is it right in front of you? Can you see it? There's probably nothing.

Don't listen to what he says. It was a poor person, Takeshi.
In reality, I was looking for your body, and that is probably reality.

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