My parents separated a year ago. My father's long-time DV is the cause. Feeling in danger, I broke up with my father.
I've had nightmares every night for the past few months. It's a dream about being strangled or killed by my father. I got sick, and I tend to take time off from work.
Is it a living spirit? What should I do about it?
Nana-sama
It is said that they were suffering from DV. That was tough. That must have been difficult.
However, it is said that they are now living away from their father. I'm relieved.
However, it is said that they are still suffering now, and I think it is not a ghost, but a memory.
It was such a painful feeling, and it probably remains in my memory elsewhere. The thought is nagging. It makes me look like I'm lying.
But get away from your thoughts and take a closer look at reality.
The place where you are now is probably a place where you can feel safe without anxiety. Isn't that right?
Don't be fooled by your thoughts, and pay attention to what you can see and hear right now. You shouldn't be worried about anything. I'm not worried about computers either. I'm not worried about TV either. I'm not worried about my watch either. There's no such thing as anxiety attached to the coffee I placed right in front of me.
It doesn't even stick to the sound I hear from outside. If that makes you uneasy, it's just your thoughts.
Please don't worry. They've already been saved now.
If you drink a large piece of candy without licking it, the feeling that it's stuck in your throat will remain, right?
Even though the candy passes through my throat, only a painful sensation remains.
In the same way, only Nana's sense of anxiety and fear remained in my heart.
But my father is a thing of the past. It's definitely not a ghost. It's gone by in the past, but only the senses remain. Please don't worry. That was a long time ago. That was a long time ago.
If I can meet my friends, I'll meet them. Facetime and Skype are fine too. If you don't like your workplace, go to work too. It's important to make plenty of time to forget your old feelings. If you're alone, your old feelings will last a long time.
The true identity of a ghost is a secondary product of one's own thoughts, memories, and memories.
Originally, any parent's child would like to be loved by their parents. A parent's DV against the natural feeling of wanting to be loved. I think it must have been really difficult.
There's no real dad in front of me right now.
Even if I did, my own images, thoughts, and preconceptions about my father! There is actually a big gap between my actual father and my actual father.
And interpret that as something else.
If you wake up properly here, you will be saved.
This is because your father, whom you call a ghost, is only in your mind anymore, and that is an illusion.
I can't grasp that illusion. They won't come even if they attack. I haven't even actually been hurt.
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