How to deal with trauma and emotional suffering

I think your question is difficult for a normal monk to answer. So why don't you talk to psychological counselors such as Kihei Hiroaki and Nakagami Akira, who are the chief priests of a temple of the same Jodo Shinshu Honganji school as me and are friends on Facebook. If you look for anything else, there are many monks who are clinical psychologists and psychological counselors. I think it's a good idea to search for it yourself and consult with us.

Please contact Kihei at the following address.

http://www.houkouji.net/

As for Nakagami, he doesn't have a website, etc., so please become friends on FB.

Again, there are many monks who specialize in psychology and counseling. If you like monks other than the Jodo Shinshu sect, I think you should look for a monk and counselor with a different purpose and consult with them.

Damiyasama

I think it's about trying to overcome thoughts, trying to erase them, and not handling them.
I think putting up labels like trauma or illness is one of the things you can't get out of.
(I confine myself inside that frame)

Thoughts are what they think, just the way they are. There's no good or bad.
For example, let's imagine murder.
But there's nothing good or bad about that imagination. I was just imagining it. I'm not taking action.
There's no need to deny it, and there's no need to affirm it. You can just leave it as it is.

Meanwhile, when I look at myself, my current self is breathing well, beating my pulse, and living. There's no good or bad. There are no problems with anything, and I notice that I am satisfied.
The thing itself exists directly as it is, as if you touched something, as if you saw it, as if you heard it, and as if you tasted it.

There are no issues.

I think it's important to be aware of the reality that even when thoughts come up, they are not controlled by them, and we are able to live our lives in this way.

Whether it is stimulation received by the body (five senses) or stimulation received by the mind (consciousness), the true nature of all stimuli is pain.
When you have pain, your mind and body can't stay still, and you want to move.
Not only general pain, but pleasure is also suffering in Buddhism. Even when pleasure occurs, the mind and body will rush to do some kind of movement in response to pleasure.
As for the question about mental suffering, when it comes to mind, I think it's annoying that your mind and body can't stay still.
Actually, that kind of suffering won't go away as long as we live. This is because living things are subject to pain and pleasure (suffering).
When irritation (suffering) comes, I want to respond in some way. I want to do something with my body, words, or consciousness.
At that time, what we should do is not commit crimes, attacks on others, or do bad things.
To that end, you must be careful about your own worries such as greed, anger, laziness, and pride.
Bottom line, no matter what kind of suffering you have, don't commit a crime because of it, and try not to hit others in eight.

First, you don't have to deal with what you don't have.
As Ikkyu-san's story “Please take the tiger out of the folding screen” shows,
You don't have to try to capture “something that doesn't exist” anymore.
Obsession is that I already have a strong grip on “things that don't exist” in my heart.
It is also our side's own responsibility not to let go.

The suffering of trauma is a feeling similar to an illusion.
I assume that it's already over, as if “there's still more.”
Replay again and again and think ruminatively.
I'm poisoning my rumination plus my own thoughts.
That is the true nature of trauma.
Strictly speaking, even if it's called trauma, it's completely harmless when that thought comes up.
There are many psychiatrists who can see through this, so you may not be able to see it through just an explanation unless you are a person doing zazen meditation.
ah! Traumatic feelings (public) have just come out.
Right after that! Do you know that you are treating yourself privately (me)?
Breathing in your own body, simmering and burning, the burnt smoke is hurting you.
You should notice now that you've caught yourself until now when it came out.
Thoughts have unwittingly come out in public thousands of times.
To put it simply, don't pick up the public tigers and horses that flow in the river of your heart with Dombraco and Dombraco. They are bitten because they treat them privately and try to tame them, and they are kicked in the back leg. (lol)
Thoughts themselves are official jobs at the time they occur, so there is no suffering. (public)
However, if there is a gap with reality by picking them up and picking them up, it becomes painful. (me)
Suffering is a word that describes a state where “things don't go the way you want them to,” and it doesn't mean it's painful.
I don't feel pain by the thing itself.
It's not painful to look at the chair or desk in front of you.
It would be painful if you went out to a hot place. But it wouldn't be painful in a cool place.
If you realize this, it won't be painful; it's five times worse; five times easier.
Originally, everything was official, both the universe and myself.
The thoughts that come up in my heart are also originally official.
Right after that, suffering begins because they are drawn to themselves and add their own thoughts.
Being aware of this is enlightenment and vision.
If you want to further deepen your enlightenment, please join the FB page Tokyo Zen and ask questions.