Is he suitable for marriage?

I have a male friend that I made from 2.3 years ago to about 7 years ago, and why don't we go out with that person on the premise of marriage in the future? It is said.

We are in a relationship where we can clearly talk about each other's hobbies, values, a sense of security like a family, and so close that we don't think our genders are different.
However, from about 2 or 3 years ago, he had a desire to get married, and he seemed to think that no one he was interested in until this point, so they began to approach him.
After all, it's a relationship called best friends, so I couldn't see him as a romantic partner, and I turned it down many times, but it's probably next time for him too! Next time! I'm going to approach it.
Because of that, when it is said that their relationship has broken down, they are best friends as before.
I want to play it somewhere! If I think so, I'll call out to him, and if there's something good, I want to tell him! I want you to listen to the story, or if anything happens, first! It's a relationship where each other naturally needs each other.

Recently, I also thought that my marriage and relationship with him might be good,
Originally, I wasn't familiar with romance, and I didn't really understand romantic feelings, and when it came to relationships, romantic feelings would be necessary, and if that wasn't the case, I wouldn't be able to have skinship with the opposite sex, etc., I didn't understand it.

I have love for him.
I also have a feeling that I want to spend time together forever.
I also have a feeling that I want to help them if anything happens and I want to support them.

I just don't understand romantic feelings.
After all, when it comes to relationships and marriage, we don't like or love them as proper people, so do we need romantic feelings?

I'm sorry for my poor writing.

4 Zen Responses

The answer seems to be out already.

Yuzu-sama

Are you referring to romantic feelings a sense of excitement? That kind of excitement about the opposite sex is not eternal, and it fades away. It's a very natural appearance.

When they get married and have children, the feeling of romance changes even more to family love, and much of that love is poured into children.

Therefore, if you're just in a relationship, it may sometimes be good to prioritize romantic feelings, but it can also be said that love is a bad person who makes reality invisible.

If you're thinking about marriage, I think it's better to choose someone you can treat with love, but you probably already have an answer within you as to whether or not that guy is good.

Isn't it okay to worry after you've been in a relationship?

Build relationships where you can feel happy

Yuzu

In order to get married and have a relationship, Yuzu herself
I think they think romantic feelings are necessary.
That's probably why you get lost.

What you're drawing in your head right now
A relationship between a man and a woman, something called marriage

Yuzu's relationship with him
It fits in, so it's not about going

Yuzu and him can feel happy
How about building relationships

I think that's called a relationship.

That includes
What Yuzu feels
Communicating what you're worried about
I think it's necessary.

Also, let's listen to his words.
In response to that again
Conveying Yuzu's feelings

through that exchange
The relationship between Yuzu and him
I think they'll be born.

Appropriate for a father or not

I can't do it.
I think there are people who say that and people who say that if you compromise, you can do it.
Anatani is the only one who can give an answer.
However, I think it's better not to compromise when it comes to marriage.
it's my life.
The answer is that there is hesitation is not a total affirmation.
You shouldn't get married just to look good on your partner.
I wonder if people who feel like friends have a sense of romance at this point.
The answer is whether he is jealous of you when he starts dating another woman and gets married.
Can I bless you as a friend?
Does it make you feel like something has been lost? (However, I think the desire for exclusivity is love)
As of now, I think feeling like a friend means being a friend no matter when you get married.
I don't see them as the opposite sex.
We should look and think 20 or 40 years ahead.

There is a famous saying “close one eye.”

　Good evening. I've been married for close to 20 years, and despite many things, I'm still married. At that time, the momentum was such that I was made to take even the most strange medicine (joke), but in that sense, it's completely quiet now.
The current feeling that “personalities match, values match” is hard to say, but if you look at it from the future (for example, 10 years from now), it's a preconceived idea (I just think so now). There will always be places that don't fit. It's “natural because they're someone else,” but it's easy to be bound by your past self “even though I liked it so much...”
So, the opening adage. It seems that various interpretations have also been made in Yahoo! wisdom bags, etc.
“Before marriage, open your eyes and look at your partner. When you get married, close one eye.”
Also, you can feel the case of skinship when you hold hands, for example. Since the mind and body are connected, the mind changes with that actual action. “No!” Maybe, or maybe it “feels good.” I think about this and that with my head, and I also feel input from my body. I think that's fine.

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