I will commit suicide in 7 days

First, how about foretelling someone close to you?
I think throwing up words is because there is an expectation that “something might be answered.” If so, I think a telephone consultation is better than an internet consultation. Soon, a living human will respond.
Did we talk about Call of Life or something?
Did you call the Buddhist Center for a telephone consultation?
Did you call, email, or call someone who has made it public on Hasunoha's “List of Monks”?
Did you see “Let the people around you suffer after a close person commits suicide” in the Hasunoha search window?
How much do you know about suicide?
Isn't it better to make a decision after knowing enough

This is a postscript.
I read “Thank You.”
“There is no value in existence,” it is “between him,” and it became clear. So how about “among others”? What is your relationship with your friends? What about between you and your parents? How about a relationship with us? “My relationship with him isn't everything,” is it? There is a value of your existence that “hasn't been clarified yet.”
“I still have nothing but despair and I can't change my mind” was written. You expressed your honest feelings, and I think it's precious. The room to change one's mind is the freedom that has always been granted to all. By the time you notice that, you are already in a state of “nothing but despair.” We're one step ahead.

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Hello. You've carefully read everyone's answers, haven't you? I'm thankful for that. “It's a matter of decision,” you realized. Yes, it's not about the outside world; you always have the freedom to change your mind. I wrote that they seem to have a warm feeling too. That's right. There is always a chance to recover.

Further postscript
“I'm sorry,” you wrote. Do you feel like you're being blamed? If you don't mind, why don't you put into words how you feel right now? As a new question.

Hello, Rochapa-san.

Don't kill yourself. If you commit suicide, your parents and those who have become good friends with you will suffer for the rest of your life. My loved one committed suicide for the past 31 years, and I still cry and suffer when I think about it. Are you someone who wants to cause suffering to other friends because of your own suffering? People who commit suicide cannot escape suffering even after death. The reason is that people who thought of you are suffering. And if you die and lose your body, you won't be able to do good deeds. There is no choice but to have someone close to this world hold a memorial service.

There are many people in this world who can't get married or have children. Still, there are many people who are happy.
There are many people who were destined not to be liked by the people they liked. Even so, there are many people who have fallen in love and become happy due to new encounters. Also, there are many people who are happy even if they don't get married.
There are also a lot of people who have been lied to death. However, there are many people who have overcome that suffering and have grasped happiness.
It's a mistake that your existence isn't worth it. There are so many people in the world who need you. If you raise money with the money you've worked for, many people who can't even eat food and wait for death without asking for it will be saved. Your worth is not trivial. There is a legend that Buddha, who was born on April 8 of this year, shouted it when he was born. “Heaven and heaven are my only superiors! ; Every life is worth more than everything.”

If you have enough courage to die, become a monk and become a nun. If you do that, you will be able to pave a new path of life without marriage, love, or children. It's OK for me to become a mentor. Just suicide is no good. Suffering does not go away with suicide. I've already gotten to know Rochapa-san. That's why I hate being sad. Gassho

After 7 days, I received an email from Rochapa-sama herself. For now, the content was reassuring.

Thank you very much, Rochapa-san. Also, if you have any questions, don't hesitate to ask, always hasunoha, or directly on my own, so I would be grateful if you could rely on it.

Answer Thank you very much to all the monks, readers, and everyone who has been concerned. I would like to express my sincere gratitude.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho 2017.5.5

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Continue posting answers on the dedicated blog (already deleted on 2017.5.2). After a while, we directly interacted and exchanged opinions via email.

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Additional note... let's calm down once again and think about happiness. There should still be a good chance that you'll be happy. Don't think too hard, don't assume too much, don't be too biased.

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Naoki Higashida, who has severe autism and is also an author, said, “I think life is important, so it's not something that connects, it's something that comes to an end. If lives are connected, what will happen to people who are no longer connected? Are they clutching the baton and crying, or are they at a loss? Just thinking about it makes me feel sad. Get through life. Those left behind will see that figure and live their own lives.”

As Higashida says, life and life are self-contained, and one's own life, one's own life, and one's own life is one's own life, and no one else can replace it. Even if it's my own child.

The question is how each one survives their own lives.

Of course, in Buddhism, attention is paid to the state of mental inheritance that continues even after this life.

Also, as long as there is reincarnation, the state of mental inheritance also depends on one's own business issues. It is of course up to you to solve that problem.

Relying on Buddhism, which is a teaching for overcoming this cycle of hesitation and suffering, I definitely want to go beyond hesitation and suffering.

Humans have the perfect conditions to learn and practice Buddhism. Trying to throw it away simply would be too wasteful.

As we survive together, let's continue to make steady efforts to practice Buddhism.

We look forward to receiving your questions after the 8th day.

Rocha Pasama
Nice to meet you, my name is Tetsuya Urakami from Nagomi-an.

Your favorite partner didn't like you; on the contrary, you were told lies that made you want to die, and you were very hurt.
It makes my heart ache just imagining how sad feelings you have accumulated until you even say “there is no value in existence.”

You couldn't bear that sadness, so you decided to take your own life seven days later. If you say it to your best friend who encouraged you 5 months ago, they'll probably make you sad and held back again, so you're probably thinking of making a decision without saying it.

Rochapa himself is suffering, so I can't say lightly that I should live or die. However, my best friends and those around me will be greatly saddened, and the monks who had a relationship at this hasunoha place are sincerely praying that this will not become a reality.

The thank you note said, “Maybe I wanted to say it to someone, but I'm not sure.” Even though I have made up my mind, I think my feelings are still fluctuating. While it's there, I hope you don't do it.

I would like to ask you one question, is the cause of Rochapa's suffering because she wants to get married and have children, but that hasn't come true at the moment?
Or if there's anything else, I'd be happy to hear from you.

★ P.S.
I read the additional thank you note. There are also financial hardships, aren't they?
When suffering becomes complex, it seems bigger and it feels like it can't be solved.
So, I don't understand the details here, but why don't you separate suffering one by one? Whether it's Hasunoha, the government, or the people around you, why don't you relax little by little?

You have the kindness of caring for your best friend.
There is a heart that notices us.
Now I have the generosity to forgive lies.
We don't want you to die like that.

Tough feelings,
The feeling that I decided I wanted to die
I wonder if you can let me hear it.

I want to accept your feelings.

It doesn't matter if it's an email directly.
finally. I'm waiting to hear from you.

　Your state of mind until and when you die determines where you will be reincarnated after death.
If your greed is not satisfied and your frustration or anger is too strong, you will always fall into Gakido after death.
You can't atone for your sins on Gakido or in the world below it. It remains in that state of being that creature until it runs out of work.
There are also things like “ghosts from 500 years ago are still wandering around.” Ghosts = hungry demons ruminate only on feelings of being wobbly, frustrated, and feeling of hating someone, while ruminating on them, saying, “It's frustrating. It's sad. I live a miserable life with a feeling of complaint and dissatisfaction, such as “I'm hateful.” You won't be born again from Gakido until you change your own mind. Ghosts = hungry ghosts are originally in an unfortunate situation with no merit, so it can't be helped.

Humans can switch feelings more easily. Humans are in a good position to be able to do just that.
There are individual differences between humans, such as high or low virtue, but even so, it is far more paradise than Gakki, Beast, and Life in Hell.
Whether good or bad, humans can always choose whichever is at their own discretion. Since I was born a human being, I think it would be better to die with a good heart and be born in the celestial world (Pure Land of Paradise) in the next life rather than dying with a dark heart and falling into Gakido.

The general public is worried about you and is commenting. Please read it. you're not alone. There are people who are really worried about you. Her comment is in my next response. Be sure to read it. I'll be praying for you too!
Even after death, the same thing will happen over and over again.
So, even if you die, it won't be easy. So don't die.
No matter what kind of death it is, what has welcomed you is in this world
It means that you have done your job well.
No one can take care of you, no relatives, no friends, and even if you die alone and lonely,
If the gods and Buddhas lived well, they will be greeted with love.
However, in the case of suicide, the gods and Buddhas will not impose drumsticks or any particular trials.
I think you said it again, gently and quietly.
This is because there is cause and effect.
If I had to start over again, it would be to survive in this world, in this world.
This is the easiest path for you.
You are an important person that many people want you to live.
Not everyone has a fun life.
If so, I can't help but criticize myself and people, who are full of complaints and grievances,
I'm going to rebuild my lousy self, start over, and change my way of thinking so that it's fun.
It takes effort to live a happy life. Please make an effort.
It's that simple. I'm happy! I'm being kept alive.
Please say it even if you don't think so.
After six months or a year, I should be able to see hope in living a little bit.
You can always see it.
Life is a journey where there is no going back.
Nobody knows the goal.
However, they only live by holding on to the name of Namu Amida Buddha.
I sincerely pray for you for 7 days and for your happiness, so please take it.
PostScript
The feeling is so painful that I want to die. I understand how you feel. But there must have been good things. I want them to be alive! I pray! It's from a parishioner.
I am also encouraged and kept alive by everyone. Please live, too. I pray.
Chase again
There are definitely a lot of good things. You've had unimaginably painful feelings, so I want you to be extra happy. Amida's mercy can be reached because of you. There's no way it won't arrive. You are the one who grasps happiness. fine
Namu Amida Buddha

In the Jodo sect, everyone says Namu Amida Buddha and Nembutsu in their mouths,
If you think you can pass away in the Pure Land of Paradise and wish for Passed Away Paradise,
It is said that when that person dies, Amida Buddha will pick them up from the Pure Land of Paradise.
A long time ago, Amida Buddha swore that people who practice nembutsu would surely pass away in the Pure Land of Paradise. It is written like that in the scriptures.
No matter what kind of villain or sinner, Amitabha will not abandon him.
Please put your hands together and say Namu Amida Buddha (Namu Amida Butsu). If you can do it continuously,
Namu Ami Dabu Namu Ami Dabu Namu Ami Dabu Namu Ami Dabu
Please keep going at a constant rhythm for a few minutes.
Amitabha doesn't hate you.
Amitabha may not praise suicide.
Even so, I'm not abandoning you just because you committed suicide.
Please try learning the teachings of the Jodo sect and the teachings of Buddha.
Buddhism won't abandon you.
When you worship Ami Buddha, Amitabha is watching you.
When you are doing nembutsu, Amitabha is listening to that voice.
When you think of Amitabha Buddha, Amitabha also thinks of you.

How can you dislike that person just because you've been lied to?
Is that the extent of your love?
Whether it's more stalking or predatory love, if you like that person, shouldn't you keep getting involved and attack furiously? There are also many women who overcame public condemnation and criticism and got together until they destroyed their families. I think it's just too early to give up.
Let's face that first. That way, you'll be stronger.
The feeling of liking was probably not taught by anyone else.
It's true that you fell in love with that person.
You don't have to deny that.
There was probably an incident where that was denied.
But it was a test to get to the 7th step. I think it's the third stage.
I don't think you'll hate being lied to or deceived. If that's the case, wouldn't it be fine to “still like it”?
If you're lied to, know you won't get along, and then you want to die because of it, or if you commit suicide, then just a grudge won't save anyone.
All you have to do is change the angle a little more by 30 degrees and find a good method.
If you try that one and it doesn't work, it can't be helped even if you die, so I'll help you die too.
・How to get along well with that person
・How to repair a relationship with that person
・How to make you happy
・How to get to the Pure Land of Paradise
・How to get rid of your suffering
・How to die easily
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More significant and valuable than if we recite nembutsu after you pass away, reciting nembutsu yourself when you are alive.
This is because Amitabha saves people who recite nembutsu.
People who recite Nembutsu are taken to the Pure Land of Paradise when that person's life comes to an end.
As long as time allows at a nearby Jodo sect or Jodo Shinshu temple, please speak clearly so that Amida Buddha can hear you, and just recite Nembutsu earnestly.
I pray that Amitabha will protect you.
Namu Amida Buddha

Note, this world is impermanent.
Everything is normal, that is, not constant.
Everything changes.
This is the truth that Buddha preached.
Make sure the hands of the clock are always moving.
May you have a childhood, be what you are now, and be your bones someday.
The fact that people you trust change their minds is also due to impermanence.
However, there are things that change because they are impermanent.
There's no hope for you right now. But even that means there is a possibility that it will change.
It means that there is a possibility that who you are now will change in the future.
Why don't you live a different way by thinking that your past self is dead, and thinking of your future self as your new self?
Not everyone lives because they have hope.
We are kept alive by the various supports of our surroundings and the many lives we receive from our meals.
Why don't you think about using this living life for the people around you who support you, and for the many lives you have received?

You may not be able to hear it anymore,
You may not even be able to see them anymore,

If it works,
The few days until the time of suicide

Ohisama, flowers, grass, wind, sky, rivers, mountains

Please spend time with love.

If there are people coming and going,

Think that they too have suffering, and try to do it with love.

I believe that humans are living things that “pray.”

It's painful and painful, and there's no point in living.

It's not there, so I'm “wishing and praying.”

It's not going to work. Suffering is basic.

But even so, I can't help but hope.

I can't help but hope you are at peace.

finally.

To die in suffering is nothing but a “continuation of suffering.”

“There is no suffering in hard work. Those who are lazy will continue to suffer”

These are Shakasama's words, and they are the words that have been engraved in my heart the most.

Do you want it to continue or do you want it to change?

Please spend the next few days thinking about it with Ohisama.

Say goodbye to you. well then.

I read your question.

Maybe you haven't met your true love from the bottom of your heart yet.
True love (charity) never creates ruin.

If you've been told an unbelievable lie,
Forgive your partner with incredible affection.
If you can't do that, your love for that person may still not be as deep as you think.
I think there will be someone in your life who you can cultivate true love from now on.

Let's be proud that our love was so deep that it hurt our heart so deeply this time.

And don't throw away new possibilities.

There is still a huge possibility that someone more suited to me will appear in the future.
There is also a lot of potential for love to be fulfilled and children to be born.
(There are people I know who gave birth for the first time at age 42 and had a child)

Happiness is yet to be attained, so don't throw it away.

It's painful, isn't it?
The hardest time is when you can't see your presence.
Why in this world? It makes me think.
but

“Don't you want to stay alive”?

do you want to die?

I would be grateful if you could tell me how you feel right now.

I feel “present” to you right now.

If it's hard to talk, I'd be happy if you could email me first.

I'm a monk who doesn't do legal work or anything right now.

I got my degree in Kyoto and worked at a temple in Osaka for a few years.

Originally, it was a standing position that had nothing to do with the temple
My father was 43, when I was 14
My mother died when I was 50 and I was 25.

That's where my relationship with Oji was born.

Being able to get married and having children
First of all, I have to be thankful for this point
I appreciate it.

thereafter
17 years of marriage

Divorced, let go of the house, no siblings, no parents
I lost sight of life and hope
I'm getting stuck.

“I don't care anymore! I don't need anything! I don't need it either! Even if I'm alive, it's already!”

I gave up everything
That's how I'm living now.
why?
To your suffering and sorrow
Even if it's not close
I want to tell you that too.
But I don't feel like imposing it.
Please understand that.

First
your presence,
The sad feeling now
Please tell me.

Please tell me.

Please let me hear it.

Don't dwell on the one path you have right now.
It's because I feel sad... isn't it?

“Road” together
It's like I can forget my sorrow
Why don't you look for thanks and thanks?

I'm waiting.