hasunoha

How do we learn to respect everyone?

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I grew up being told “you're a genius” and “you can do anything” since I was little. It seems that they are actually blessed with quite a bit of talent, but they have a strong sense of self-affirmation, so I can't let go of my arrogant feelings no matter what.

For a long time, I've been plagued by various inefficiencies caused by working with people who don't have good work ability, so to be honest, I'm really bad at “people who aren't aware that they aren't smart.”

To be honest, I also had a feeling that “I don't want to work with people who aren't smart,” and when I was a student, I started my own business and managed it smoothly, but when I was 25, my lonely money making became futile, and I joined a top company with the goal of genuinely enjoying a big job.
It was one of the most difficult companies to join in Japan, so after joining the company, I really enjoyed working surrounded by excellent people. “After all, if you spend time surrounded by excellent people, your problems will be solved. I felt, “If you don't even get involved with people who aren't smart, you can work in a healthy way.”

However, at the bottom of my heart, I really hate “myself who looks down on people who aren't excellent.” Even if I look for parts of that person I can respect as a person and try to respect them, if I feel “Oh, this person is dumb...”, they will inevitably look at them from above.

I try to be humble over and over again, thinking that this shouldn't be the case, I'm arrogant... but my “dislike for people who are dumb” is strong, and it doesn't work.
I know that “cleverness = human virtue” is not erased, but from experience, the perception that “being bothered or disrespected by people who are not smart” cannot be erased.

However, I also feel that the reason I was born more dexterous than a human being is probably to help someone, not myself.
How can you have respect for people who aren't smart?

5 Zen Responses

Why don't you check your own excellence...

 “Can you have respect for people who aren't smart?” Please forgive me for being extremely disrespectful in answering a question that I can't answer, which I can't say is very smart.
If you're smart, you should only hang out with and work with great people who are just like you or that you recognize. That solved the problem.
But in reality, there are people around me who aren't good... why not talk to your boss? There are people around me who aren't good, and I have to feel so healthy that I can't work...
Can't you talk to me? Maybe, “Based on your ability, I think that's true. It may come down to “OK, let's have them transfer to the most elite department where only better people gather.”
But what you have to be a little careful about is that your boss's answer is, for example, “The company revolves around teamwork. It's not just made up of you. Aren't you overspending on yourself? Aren't you proud? It's a case where it's like, “Actually, my evaluation of you...”
I think it's rare, but it's not impossible depending on your boss.
What bothers me is that I can't hear other people's voices against you.
“You can rely on it,” “You work fast...” “I'm going to ask for this next time... I can only leave this up to you”... do you hear that kind of voice within the company?
Actually, I'm imagining that my response won't reach you at all. I think they feel like they don't want to listen too much to people who don't know if they are good or not, and they don't feel like using it as a material for judgment...
To be clear, really good people can make decisions and move forward without consulting others, because that is the ability and position of the best leaders. I have learned about this Hasunoha, and I feel that your worries and problems are hidden, that you are not even aware of the fact that you have been consulted here.
In a nutshell, Buddhism is “a way of dealing with oneself.” Also, it is about “questioning one's own way of life.”
People who are really good don't call themselves excellent... because you will end up getting antipathy from others, and you may be disadvantaged... Please face yourself sincerely once again... in order to be richer for your own future life...

I don't think it's okay to overdo it and respect them...

 There's no way we can do that. You are you. I don't know if you're aware of it or not, but it's just a workplace where smart people can play an active role. Also, it's important not to overtrust your own strength.
Can you say smart in your 30s? Can you say that in your 40's? 50s... Or maybe that could be said at work, but could it be said at home? Can you say that in terms of friendship? Can you say that in a romantic relationship? Can you say that in places of community relationships such as community associations?
Even when I answered my concerns like this, I don't really get appreciated just because I gave a smart answer. If you don't respond by being close to the heart of someone who is worried, you will only get antipathy. I often get advice from people who are worried about where to start.
There's no need to respect them; if you're smart, you can stay smart. Starting from there, what exactly are clumsy people who are the opposite type and clumsy of you? What improvements can be made to overcome that clumsiness? Does the person himself want to fix that too? It's important to imagine various things and ask the person himself. I think you can give accurate advice. The extreme argument is holding study sessions and dealing one-on-one. However, the first thing to be careful about is not to deny the other person. Every person has self-respect. If you're denied, no one will listen to you. Don't try to change your partner. We only support where that person is currently in trouble. For example, even people who have forgotten a lot of things every time ask, “Did you forget anything today?” It makes me feel bad when asked. However, when you forget something, for example, if it's an umbrella, lend your own portable umbrella, or give advice that you should use an umbrella that has been left standing all the time at work, the probability of forgetting it the next time will decrease. Patience is necessary in some cases, though. Time may resolve it, so I recommend that you don't be impatient.
The word “wisdom” does not mean smart. It's the power to discern everything in an empty state. By all means, please act with the intention of acquiring wisdom.
 

If you're smart, you'll understand. (^<^)

A I would be grateful if you recognized and respected dignity rather than respect 😺
They seem to be blessed with Q talent, but they have a strong sense of self-affirmation, so I can't let go of my arrogant feelings no matter what.
A Isn't that because you've been soaked in lukewarm water in a safe zone and you're living according to that standard?
It's not that I can't let go of my arrogant feelings, it's probably because I'm living in an easy show story centered around my own comfort zone. It's just treating people in an inferior position who appear as Zako characters, and that's kind of discrimination, isn't it? Those people also have better traits, characteristics, and talents than Anata. Try getting overtaken by those people. You'll feel like you're crying right away. 💀
Q I'm really bad at “people who aren't aware that they aren't smart.”
A You're not aware that you're not smart. Why don't you look at yourself? There are a few lags coming out right away, but is it okay if I make them lose their confidence even more? 👿
Q When I feel “Oh, this person is dumb...”, I inevitably look at it from above.
A I don't think that would be the idea if you were really smart and excellent.
They probably just have a strong feeling and desire to go win. You're smart, right? Try writing a message in the thank you section with words that will make people who are about to commit suicide instantly not want to die. Everyone is having a hard time right now.
How to reduce the number of people who say they want to die to zero, or why don't you save an idiot who floats in lukewarm water in your brain to the extent that only you win and have a feel-good sense of superiority, etc. with a lotus root.
There are more people in the world who have graduated from that level a long time ago. They've probably never met. I want you to study the human world more with your smart head.
And I want the world to be even better.
Q However, I also feel that the reason I was born more dexterous than a human being is probably to help someone, not myself.
A is about to show off your skills. ☝ I want the operator to use your power to provide a way to help the operator financially in the difficult business situation of this hasunoha site. You must be smart, so please do it.
QHow can we have respect for people who aren't smart?
A Isn't it better to learn selflessness and selflessness through your cleverness? You're smart, aren't you? 🐱

Please make use of your abilities in society!

Hello Hasumi.

Hasumi is a person with abilities, isn't she? I think that's great. Humans are not equally capable. There are intelligent people, and there are also people like Yotaro from so-called rakugo. As Hasumi says, for people who can work quickly, working with Yotaro is nothing but a burden. Work is results-oriented, so that's probably not a good job.

But when it comes to whether Yotaro is necessary in society, that's not the case. Yotaro has a Yotaro way of life and work, and conversely, I think it's a job Hasumi can't do.
For example, Hasumi shouldn't be able to do heavy lifting. That's because it's an ability Hasumi doesn't have. Among people with disabilities who have more intellectual disabilities than Yotaro, there are people who can silently do simple tasks that normal people would never be able to do. It's a savant-like ability that people with disabilities are capable of in the art world.

In other words, there are many jobs that cannot be done by the intelligent Hasumi, and the abilities of many people complement each other to create a whole society. The Tendai sect explains this as a world of harmony where people with different abilities in all the “ten realms” are related and live.

Hasumi has Hasumi's abilities. Please make more and more use of it in society. The true value of human society is not ability. It's about whether you are a person who can contribute to society. There are many people who are not smart like Hasumi who contribute to society and are respected like gods. Even if they are smart, there are people who used their knowledge to kill people, like the executive followers of Aum Shinrikyo.

It's important to work with a group of people who have your own abilities. And you just need to know that other people's abilities are abilities you don't have. Hasumi should know that he has that ability. If you do that, you'll feel respected for what you can't do.

Gassho

Hasumi-sama

The way to respect everyone is by everything, by the way it works
All the meanings and values attached by that person
Peel it off, and that person directly shows it as it is
I think I have no choice but to feel it.
It may sound unrealistic, but the Buddhist method's
I think it's one.

The reason why people look at it from above
Being bothered by someone who is dumb, uncomfortable...
There was, but they look at things from above and look at things with superiority or inferiority
I think there are other reasons.

Why do we view people in terms of superiority or inferiority?
Do I need to watch it?
Is Hasumi's heart satisfied?
If not satisfied, in order to satisfy
The mind automatically creates a composition of superiority and inferiority,
Make yourself superior, make others inferior, and try to satisfy yourself
There are also things to do.
I don't know if Hasumi has this pattern,
If that's the pattern, it's not about respecting people
Satisfying one's heart is where one can focus their eyes
I think it will be.

I think my sense of superiority and inferiority come from the same place
I'm thinking.